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I am very sorry for your situation. Please understand that your own health (physical and mental) must come first and you must handle this before addressing legal issues. Stay close to your family, friends, and neighbors and rely on their emotional support.
You said you had a civil marriage already? Are you telling me that you are already legally married or did you simply obtain a marriage license?
Very well. In that case you must sue for divorce... or counter sue him for divorce if he should file first. In your divorce action, you will be able to recover equitable relief for his actions through alimony as well as receive a fair share of the martial property in the division of assets and liabilities. While you cannot recover damages for emotional damages in a divorce case, the fact that he has abandoned you in such a way will play a role in the awarding of alimony. Your emotional and mental condition places you in severe need of at least rehabilitative alimony and the court will take all of this into consideration.
A separate action for the tort of intentional infliction of emotional distress (or negligent infliction of emotional distress) is a much more difficult issue. Most states have abolished the old common law claim for breach of a marital promise (breaking a promise to marry) because of the obvious need to prevent forcing people into a marriage they do not want. While a potential claim may exist if you could show that this breakup was done in such a way as to intentionally cause severe emotional distress to you by your husband, your strongest claim will be the claim for alimony.
You need to seek a divorce attorney immediately. I realize you probably do not want a divorce, but you need to protect yourself and your interests. You may be able to reconcile this marriage or you may not... but you must protect yourself and your future by standing up for yourself. You need your lawyer to file for a pendente lite hearing to set up immediate support payments to assist you with living expenses. You should also discuss the potential emotional distress lawsuit (separate from divorce). Your attorney may feel that filing that action in addition to the divorce could help facilitate a better and quicker resolution to your divorce.
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