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That should go without saying - if he cannot compose himself around yourself and his child then he should not come around. You should tell him this and tell him that you limit his access to his child unless and until he can act in a civilized manner. This is within your rights as the child's mother and your rights in regard to yourself - you need to protect both of yourselves.
There is no specific paper that will solve this problem. I believe a conversation setting out detailed limits would be a good start - he can build a relationship with good behavior or effectively destroy his relationship with bad behavior.