Sorry this is happening.
You need to get a lawyer tomorrow. He/she will file a divorce action and a motion to be heard asap for an order directing your husband to return the money. The disposition of the house is a separate issue that either you will agree on or the court will order a sale and division of proceeds. Title to the property is NOT relevant to asset division I'm afraid. These are the issues that are more important frankly than his lying and the bank's conduct.
I will get you a link to a directory we lawyers use to find highly qualified legal specialists in various fields at locations world wide. These lawyers are in the directory because they were rated as qualified by other lawyers in their field of expertise and geographic area.
You cannot force him out. That can only be done by agreement between you or by the court in a divorce decree. That's why I gave you the lawyer list. Plus I gave you the way to get your money back BEFORE WAITING for the disposition of the house.
I hope that is clearer.
But no..you never have to accept any answer you don't want to.
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