Who was granted custody of the children?
Who are the children living with now?
Is either parent paying child support to the other?
What stipulations are you wanting the X to continue under the agreement?
That is a lot of the problem-because the oldest wants the freedom and extra funds-cheerleader etc that her dad can not provide at private school-I get the bill. She stays most of the time with mom. The youngest is back and forth.
The original decree, as I mentioned , gave the equity in the home to X because at the time she was not physically able to take care, She is now working a minimum job and has medicine to control the bypolar. Thank God her cancer has not returned.
To pay for the schooling and have a better control of their spending habits. I guess most of this is my fault,my wife died before my daughters cancer and I felt an obligation
ed prior the daughters cancer, and I felt a need to take care.
Unless the original order stipulated the father must pay for extra school or extra curricular activity's then by law he is not required to do so. A parent has the right to refuse to pay for anything other then basic educational needs. He could by law put her in public school if available and refuse to pay for private school unless it was court ordered.
As for the spending habits of the children, you can not force him to change their habits. Since he has custody of the children he can raise them as he sees fit as long as he is not harming or neglecting the children.
I wish I had better news, but the reality of the situation is you are not required to pay anything as you are not the father or mother. It sounds like the X is taking advantage of the situation and that maybe something you put a end to. Just because you are not paying for these things doesn't mean you can not help out if you wish. You could consider opening up savings accounts for the children if you wish to do something that they can not access until they are of age.
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