I am helping an author write a book
. The following three items - poem, story and quote - are pieces he wants to use in his book that have issues with getting permission from authors to reproduce
We cannot find the author of the first item;
I attempted to find Sylvia M Foy and cannot. I suspect due to a search online under that name that she might be deceased. I did find a place online where this poem was reproduced ‘with permission’ but when I contacted the author, she had copied it from another source which she does not recall.
How can we use this without infringing on copyright
1] The Magic of Forgiveness
There is a beautiful magic in forgiving
And it’s ours each and every time we forgive,
Each time we give the gift of love
To someone we initially found guilty of doing something wrong.
I once thought that forgiving was what I did if I was good.
But I always forgave with a “but don’t do it again,”
And when I forgave, I was slightly better than the one forgiven.
I also thought I was supposed to forgive because God had forgiven me
And if I didn't forgive others, God would stop forgiving me.
Then I started understanding more about forgiveness
First forgiveness only works when I want to forgive,
Rather than because I should or ought to forgive,
I started learning that in order to forgive I must first judge someone guilty.
I started to understand that to judge is an ego trip…“See how smart I am to know that you are guilty.”
And I started wondering “on what basis do I judge?”
Do I judge with my “superior knowledge”, my “superior learning,
Interpretation, understanding, perception?”
Maybe, just maybe, what really needs forgiving is my judging.
What does forgiving really mean?
Maybe forgiving means giving up my judgment.
My limited judgment is based only on what I’ve learned and
My limited view of what’s really going on.
When I forgive others, I must first forgive myself and
When I forgive myself, I automatically forgive others.
For I only judge others guilty of what I would consider myself guilty for doing.
And when I forgive myself, I stop judging others guilty.
If I believe God forgives me,
What good does it do unless I accept God’s forgiveness?
And start thinking of myself and others as forgiven.
When I really forgive,
I reach the point of knowing that there was
Nothing to forgive in the first place
And I am free of the pain, guilt, anger, burden, and worry
That I was carrying with me.
I am free to be happy anytime, anyplace.
I am free to be at peace.
I am free to think of other things
And those I forgive are free to change or free to stay the same
The magic of forgiveness is that it heals my pain!
It allows unconditional love to grow in my world
Until all guilt is gone, all fear is gone and all pain is gone,
And only love remains.
by Sylvia M. Foy
2] Similar situation with another poem/story The Man In The Mirror
The Man in the Mirror
When you get what you want in your struggle for self, and you work makes you king for a day,
then go to the mirror and look at yourself,
and see what the man has to say.
For it isn’t a man’s father, mother or wife whose judgement upon him must pass.
The fellow whose verdict counts most in his life is the man staring back from the glass.
He’s the fellow to please: never mind all the rest,
for he’s with you clear up to the end
and you’ve passed your most dangerous, difficult test, if the man in the glass is your friend.
You can fool the whole world down the pathway of years and get pats on the back as you pass;
but your final reward will be heartache and tears,
if you’ve cheated the man in the glass.
Our father, Peter "Dale" Wimbrow Sr. wrote the poem "The Guy in the Glass in 1934. It was published in the American magazine at that time and the copyright was assigned to our father. The poem has become also known, incorrectly, as "The Man in the Glass" or sometimes, "The Man in the Mirror", but the thought is the same, the message clear...'you can fool the whole world down the pathway of years, but you can't fool the guy staring back from the glass'
Peter Dale Wimbrow, Jr. http://www.theguyintheglass.com/gig.htm
3] Quote -do we need permission to use?
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”