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I am not a marriage counselor which I think you even alone need to see. I would urge you to not do anything until then.
I am a bit fearful for you.
Why? This sounds like a typical set up for immigration benefits through marriage. But more than that, I am fearful if she comes back in to life with you she may allege spousal abuse or even start an altercation, hurt herself, call the police and blame it on you and you get arrested and charged with domestic violence and she gets a green card as an abused spouse.
All the chats and text about her pushing for the green card, emotional abuse, lack of love and emotion for you, etc. Put them on a thumb drive and hide it or put it into a cloud file.
But really you need to try to figure out a way to live separately and have as little contact with her because I see this leading down a very familiar path. The abuse claim with a charge of domestic violence that she initiates.
I would encourage her to live elsewhere and spare yourself the trap of a DV charge or even a restraining order. You may want to talk to a family law attorney about getting a restraining order based on her behavior if she has shown any physical aggression.
You can always work on reconciliation through meetings with a marriage counselor but I would again suggest any contact be in the presence of witnesses and in public places.
She existed somehow as a student before OPT so she will need to get another job or leave the US. She is only allowed 60 days of unemployment and then she is out of status on the OPT.
If her parents have enabled her behavior by having her come and spend timewith them and not find a job, let them support her.
You have nothing to feel ashamed about. This was an arrangement her and her parents planned.
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