Hi. my name is XXXXX XXXXX immigrant, I’m russian.I have a question. Here is my situation:I'm married with american citizen woman(russina). I got green card via marriage. Married in Feb 2011. we have kid with wife (6 months) and her boy from previous marriage(19 years old). my wife just said me that she started preparation for divorce. The reason is my mother she says. My mother normally lives back in Russia. i didn't see her almost 3 years and now she was just visiting us this winter for 2 months just to see grand son. my wife made a couple scandals with my mother and because of stress and other factors mother got to hospital because of heart attack. When mother was discharged from hospital doctors said that she can’t travel at least a month. My wife was pushing me and my mother to go back to Russia just after these 4 weeks. I declined her request because I can’t take days off at work when she needs and because I wanted to keep my mother as longer as possible to prevent potential travel risks for mother’s help. I will also travel with my mother back to Russia to setup medical care and others things cause she lives alone in Russia. After I declined my wife’s request to remove my mother from home asap and after I said I need to escort my mom to Russia, my wide said she does not need husband like me and she will be preparing for divorce during y trip to Russia.I still do not want to divorce and think that my wife just person who ignores facts of reality. Question: how can avoid divorce? Is there any options for me?I need it by several reasons: I want to keep my family I want to care about our common and not common kids – my wife has very low income And I make 75% of family budgetIn case of divorce I believe I will loose green card and physically will have to leave the country.Is there any legal ways to stop my wife doing divorce? Because she does not listen and does not want to discuss anything anymore.
State/Country relating to question: Pennsylvania
Hello, welcome to JustAnswer, my name is XXXXXX. XXXXX you for this opportunity to answer your questions.
hi Judith - nice to meet you.
well it is difficult but you have to make the choice
you cannot avoid the divorce if she wants one
Americans have a different view about relations with parents
you are having a cultural conflict
My wife is russian from my country - she won Green card lottery and moved to united states. then she applied for citizenship. IT IS NOT CULTURAL conflict. She also had her mother living with her and she pushed her mother away from house to apartment cause she couldn't live with her anymore
well how about marriage counseling
I understand that it can help in case when people wnat to discuss the problem. I will try everything possible but right now i didn't not expect her notice and will be 3 weeks out of country. I wanted to get legal advise - family counseling is not quite thing i'm looking for now. I want to know how what legally I can to prevent my wife from what's she doing. If it's 100% that she will get divorce if she wants, what are options for me to be at least in country - i have trial 2 years green card after marriage
You cannot prevent the divorce
r u still there?
I told you right from the begining
ok. the divorce thing is clear. what about other o[ptions i asked?
i got it.
what I can do to stay in the country if i'm divorced?
to work and to care about my kid?
r u there?
so do I have any option to live in US after divorce - i need to care about my kid
if you get a divorce you can file the I-751 and ask for a waiver of the joint filing
you have to prove it was a good faith marriage w/ joint accounts, lease, etc.
so - stupid question - will it work - I mean i-751?
that is why counseling
is a good thing
I got your point - i will pay for answer:)
I-751 is the petition you file to remove the conditional status
counseling will show that you really tried to make the marriage wor
so that will help prove the good faith marriage
ok, thanks - it's really good to know 3 things: 1. how can i invite wy spouse to counseling? 2. what of she declines? 3. during our marriage my wife did scandal in presence of 3 months baby and was shouting that i have to go away she was tryinh to beat beat when I didn't leave the room she took knife from under pillow and tried to hurt me. i called to 911 and police did report about it. after that we both paid penalty - can i use this fact in the divorce listening?
this is different line of question
I don't do divorce
I can only tell you about immigration
as for the counseling
you go and ask the counselor how to get your wife there
I don't know aobut that either
what about police report?
even if she won't go - you go and it will help your case
were you charged with a crime?
if you have a conviciton for domestic violence you have a very big problem
and that is again a different quedstion
you asked how you can file for the permanent card if you divorce and I ahve answered that
i have another customer waiting
no - it was not felony or misdemeanor - we didn't go to court - just paid 300 fee cause judge decided
if you went before a judge you went to court
that is different subject
you can post a new question and if you want me you can start it with "FOR JUDITH"
ok. actually my wife was attacking me with knife - i was protecting myself
be sure to explain everything in the new question for the expert
please remember to accept if you are satisfied w/ my answer about the permanent card
thanks a lot
all the best
33 yrs attorney on all nonimmigrant & immigrant visas
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