What about evidence of actually cohabitating? Lease/utility, bills, auto deeds, auto insurance in both names, copies of envelopes addressed to both parties jointly at same address (even junk mail envelopes) The documents you submitted don't really show you are living together, I have joint bank statements with my mother who lives in MI and I'm here in VA. Same with health insurance - don't necessarily need to cohabit to have joint policy.
What is the question?
What about junk mail envelopes. At least even if both names aren't on them it shows each of you get mail at the same address.
Letters from both employers that each of you have each other listed as point of contact in case of emergency on your jobs.
How about your auto insurance?
Your wife needs to submit a copy of ther original loan documents for the house with a statement that she bought the house before you were married and that is why utilities are in her name only.
Do any of you have children from before? Have the kids write statements that they celebrate holidays with you, that you are involved in their lives, visit them, see their kids, give them $.
Have relatives send Affidavits, that is better than friend and neighbors.
How old are you and your wife?
Utility bills need to be under both names, but if some are in your name and some in her name, submit those. They show you are living there if some are in your name.
Yes, send the care statements, it shows you are living there.
Submit the auto insurance papers again.
Send copies of what photos you have.
Do you ever see her grown children? Do they have children and do you give presents to the grandchildren? Do her grown children know about you? Have them give affidavits, too.
Start to save all junk mail and send the envelopes w/ your names on them, too.
Get the job letters.
How about church? Do you go to church?
What about her co-workers and yours. Can they write affidavits that you talk about her at work and she talks about you to her co-workers at work?
Ok, the taxes were the big problem, so yes, you need to re-do those and file and submit corrected copies with you request for evidenc.
Yes, have the adult children give affidavits.
Your co-worker affidavits will be helpful.
OK, the insurance transaction history with her name on it is good.
The taxes and your age difference are part of the problem The taxes the biggest part of the problem.
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