Here are the rest of my thoughts.
Painting: For the entire house, strip all wallpaper and paint in more neutral colors: 15k. A co-worker had his 4k square foot house in Boston completely repainted for 10k, so I figure 15k should be enough to remove the wallpaper and repaint.
Replace all light fixtures with something slightly more contemporary, such as dark bronze or black iron and wood: 2k
For the 5 fireplaces, replace the ugly brass doors with dark bronze or iron ones, such as ones from this link in a hammered dark bronze color:
For the fancy ones, they are about 1700 each plus installation, so I'm guessing about 2,000 X 5 = 10,000 total.
Remove the ugly stairway green carpet runner and replace with something more neutral: 1,000
Rip out the carpet from the 2nd floor hallway and put down hardwood to match the stairwell: 1,000 (it's not a big hallway)
Re-carpet the 3 bedrooms on the 2nd floor (one bedroom has hardwood and is used as an office): 12,000
Replace all door knobs, all light switch plates, and all electric outlet plates with dark bronze or hammered pewter or something similar: 250 labor intensive Add 250
Replace the two ugly gold toned ceiling fans in the basement with something a little more neutral: 500
Ceiling fans are not that expensive. You can get them at Home Depot for less than 100 each w/ lifetime warranty. 75.00 labor to install both. subtract 250
Re-tile the master bathroom (the shower looks OK) and replace the tub with a nicer one: 6,000 ?? walls, tub surround, shower stem wall, and floor? Get new fixtures for shower, and get a GOOD tub. add 2K
Replace sink in the master bathroom: 2,000
Leave the guest bathroom on the 2nd floor alone for now. It's not fancy but it's fine.
Also leave the guest bathroom in the basement alone for now. It just needs to be repainted.
In the basement, put down tile or laminate in what will be the craft room: 2,000 dont use tile. One heavy object dropped and you have a cracked tile as opposed to a dent in the laminate.
Re-carpet the main basement area: 4,000
Replace wetbar sink in the basement: 1,000
Back yard needs landscaping bad! Deck needs resurfacing and a good weatherproofing. The pond needs to go. breading ground for mosquitos if not maintained. Maintenance is time consuming or costly. Add 10K
Other than the things I have suggested it seems that your pricing is overbid if anything. Im sure that you will have plenty left overt to buy somer real nice furniture to make it a glorious home.
Please let me know if you have any other questions.