Thank you for your question.
Basically HIV is diagnosed only by the tests and not by symptoms since each symptom may have a number of possible causes. It is natural to worry if one gets the thought that she could be infected with HIV, and also due to the worry and anxiety one can have many symptoms. Also one can have a coincidental viral infection such as a common cold and worry whether this is due to HIV.
Regarding symptoms, one of the the earliest symptom of HIV infection is persistent generalized lymphadenopathy (swollen/enlarged lymph nodes). Early HIV infection can cause a range of symptoms, and as many as 90% of those diagnosed with HIV will have experienced usually within the first 4 weeks of initial exposure to the virus one or more of the following symptoms: fever, rash, headache, feeling generally unwell, aches and pains, mouth ulcers, sore throat, night sweats, weight loss, tiredness, swollen glands, and neurological symptoms like meningitis. The above mentioned symptoms usually appear a few days to a few weeks after exposure to HIV and can persists for two to four weeks, although the swollen glands may last longer. So even symptomatically in your case HIV is not likely to be the causative factor.
You don't even know whether your partner has HIV or not. So you are just assuming the worst.
The only solution to your worries is getting tested and to do the test even if you afraid. This will give you peace of mind so that you can put this behind you and move on with your life.
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