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Im sorry that im A snot sometimes

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Im sorry that im
A snot sometimes
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Health
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, the problems are that you go on an on on one page--multiple questions and not really agreeing with the answers, and saying yes, but a lot and sometimes asking me to do the impossible. Otherwise, no problem
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I am sorry
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
That's OK but try not doing it any more.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ok. The ativan makes me feel dazed all day
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Like I said, I really don't think you need it and obviously not during the day
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Do i call my psychiatrist and let her know? Can i just stop it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Yes to the first part. There should be no harm in stopping but I'm not allowed to tell you to do so.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ok. I meet with the dietician person tomorrow
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Good
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Is it possible that stopping the reflux meds could make my stomach hurt worse.
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
No
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
My stomach hurts worse though
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Let's not chat--that isn't because you stopped the meds
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Then from
What? Ill drop it after
This
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
You still have ongoing gastritis and an ulcer. End of story
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ok. Can we talk about the abuse
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
OK but be specific, work a little with me without any one liners, and accept what I say
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Im
Having a really hard time with the fact that i didnt tell
Anyone when it was happening. My dad told me i could. But i still didnt. Because of that fact it really is hard believing that it is not my fault since
I could have told someone and it would have stopped
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Who exactly do you think you should have told? When exactly did your dad say your could and are we talking about what he did?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I shoulda told a teacher or something. As my dad was screwing me he said i could tell. That hed get in trouble but he wouldnt be mad
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, haven't you heard about all the boys--now men--that have only recently come out and discussed what was done to them by Catholic priests? They now aren't saying that they felt they were at fault but they were embarrassed and worried about challenging the power of the priests.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I have heard about them. But i honestly feel its my fault
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Stop with that please--it just says that you are totally unwilling to let go of that or to consider my points. I'm a bit tired of trying to work with you and all I get is something like, "Yes, but that doesn't change the way I feel."
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I seem to be pissing you off
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
No, but it's a waste of both our times if you just won't work with me.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I am trying to work with you
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Not really--you haven't given me any good reason as yet why you think it's your fault. And I'm not talking about whether you told anybody about it or the fact that you "let" it go on.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I just feel like its my fault because i jept putting myself in the position to let it happen. And that i never put up a fight. And i let them do things to me
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
That doesn't help here--so did the young men that were abused by the priests but they haven't said they felt it was their fault. All you're doing right now is repeating yourself over and over without trying to argue with yourself against those thoughts
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Thats not fair to say. I have tried telling myself its not my fault but i have never been able to believe it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
That's because you don't want to believe it and that is wrapped up in your self-esteem problem. Even if all this hadn't happened, you'd still blame yourself for mistakes and bad things that happened in the past.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
If it was just one person who screwed me i would be able to get over it. The fact that it was 4 different people screwing me and violating ne with objects is what makes it hard to get over it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
You're not really working with me here--you act as though you didn't consider what I just said
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I did consider what you just said. Im just having a hard time with it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
So even though I can tell you and give you examples of how this happens often with this kind of problem and yet other's don't blame themselves, we're basically back to assuming that you're the different one--that you are the only one that is totally at fault for what happened.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I never said that. Just forget i ven asked to talk about this
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
You can sit there and think that i am being difficult or i just dont want to work on it but your wrong. You dont know anything about it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Why did that suddenly get you angry--very important that you think about this for a minute and give me a detailed answer.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Because you dont think i work on this. I work on this everyday
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
That really didn't comment on why what I said made you mad and it isn't because you thought I was saying you don't work on this. And, like I always point out in my groups, if what you thought I was saying--that I was saying you don't work on this--isn't true, then there's no reason for you to get angry about that.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Im not going to friken argue with you right now
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
So basically you don't want to work on this? That's fine but we're aren't going to get anywhere whenever you take that attitude.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I do want to work on this
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Then why be so difficult? Why get mad and try to take all your marbles and go home?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Because its what ive always done
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, time to stop that and stop just doing the same old thing. Again, why exactly do you think you got mad at me?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I honestly dont know
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, why should anyone get angry if someone says something about them that's totally wrong?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
They wouldnt be itd be foolish
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
OK--so we only get angry when we think they're right and we don't like what they're saying about us?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Pretty much
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, my point is that I hit a nerve--part of you deep inside knows that you aren't the one at fault here but if you admit that you crush all the blaming you've done on yourself for all these years
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I know deep down uts not my fault. I coulda walked in front if them naked and it wouldnt have been my fault
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Good--and that's the part we need to bring to the surface and embrace it
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I feel ashamed
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Why?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Idk how to explain it. I just feelmashamed that it happened I feel like im a dirty person Like since ive been used by so many noone is ever going to cherish my body
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
There are plenty of men out there that wouldn't think twice about your past
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I dont think so. Marty knows some of my past and he gets mad when iwont let him do things they did. And he says that im f**ked up because id let them donit but not my own fiancé
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Get off of Marty and what he says and what he thinks--he's not a decent guy and I don't really care about his opinions. And he's one to talk.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Im
Being serious.
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
About what?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
About men. I think men are ucky
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
I don't understand--where are we going with this?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
When is the touch of a guy not goung to freak me out
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Once you've worked through all of this and bolstered your self esteem. And for now you need a man or two who are just friends.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I have a coworker whos a guy who is a friend. But even when he gives me a hug i just want to escape from the sutuation
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
It'll take time and work but you'll get over that
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Do you promise? How do i work on it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Yes I promise and again you have to share all that we've talked about with the proper therapist and work on the self esteem thing
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Do you think im pathetic
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Not at all, and I have some good friends that have been through even more than you have and are doing just fine now.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ok. So im not a dirty person
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Not at all
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Are my dad and brother icky people
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
What exactly do you mean by icky?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Like gross and disgusting
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well, from what you've told me they both have some definite major problems but I'm not going to judge them because I don't know them. Almost everyone I've met has some good points and potential for being a good person, so I don't really judge
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Ok
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Anything more for now?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Will sex ever be enjoyable
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Yes, I promise that in time, with the right man, it will be
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Im sorry for asking stupid questions
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
None of them were stupid
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
What can i do to make sex more enjoyable
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
For right now, nothing--at least not with Marty and if you have a problem with a man giving you a friendly hug then it's going to take some work
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
No suggestions at all
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
You mean with Marty?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
With anybody
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
OK--let me ask you an important question--are you talking about enjoying sex with someone with whom you don't have an intimate relationship?
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I wouldnt have sex with someone i didnt have an intimate relationship with
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
OK--don't get upset with me here, but in my opinion--and I've had a lot of experience here--you just aren't anywhere near ready or probably capable of having that intimate relationship. Sorry to have to say that, but not until you can work on yourself and get through a lot of what we've talked about can you possibly have the ability to give and accept all that an intimate relationship entails.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Wow. Whatever
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Whatever is never an appropriate comment
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
You kinda hurt my feelings
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
No, I just told you something you needed to hear and I'm treating you exactly like I would treat a good friend if she were in the same situation. It's not the end of the world but I've been trying time and again to get through to you that you have a lot of work to do and if you do it you'll be fine. But I'm not going to sugar coat things and tell you what isn't the case right now.
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Is it my fault mine and martys relationship didnt work because i cant be intimate with him? Be honest. Do you consider me to be a friend
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Yes, you're my friend and let's not use the word fault here--I can't see a damn thing without my glasses, but I don't consider that my fault. But if I didn't wear them and tried to drive a car, most likely I'd wreck and it would be just plain silly for me to try. You need my glasses to be able to see more clearly. As for Marty, I'd tell him exactly what I've told you if, say, I were his sponsor in AA or NA
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Do normal people have sex with people they arent in an intimate relationship with
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Happens all the time but most people--especially women--will tell you it just isn't that great an experience
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
I just want a relationship where i never have to have sex. Because sex isnt fun and it hurts
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Well sex is a part of any intimate relationship but like I told you you can get to the point where sex is enjoyable. We've covered a lot of territory today so it's time to close this page
Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Last questions. Do you think i can find a relationship without sex? And do you think pain with sex is just psychological
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
If you actually have a lot of pain, then obviously that isn't psychological and if you haven't discussed that with your gynecologist you should. It is possible to find a relationship like that, but most men--even the good ones--would want to have sex as part of it.
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Customer: replied 1 year ago.
Is it possible for someone to get punched in the kindey area hard enough to cause damage
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 1 year ago.
Here we go with the enigmatic questions again. Yes--broken ribs, kidney contusion, possibly even a kidney fracture or a liver tear

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