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I give up.

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I give up.
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Health
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Meaning?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I dont want to work on getting better
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Up to you but you only just started
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Before i did this i didnt have nightmares this often
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I'm not going to try to coerce you or cajole you into working on this--if you don't want to, fine
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
And i miss marty
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I'm not going to chat with you about all this--either we continue to do some work or otherwise you can stop it all and ask Marty to come back
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Whatever you dont care either
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Of course not--working with you for all these months obviously shows that I don't care at all
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Im having a bad day
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I know but please don't waste space with little games like saying I don't care--that doesn't get us anywhere
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Its not a game
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, call it what you will--we've wasted five minutes doing absolutely nothing
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Im angry at my dad
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
As you should be
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
But im more angry at myself
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, we need to work on both but stick with your dad for now because that's the part you haven't really felt and looked at for a long time
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
So what do i do
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, for now, it's just good that you fell the anger towards your dad. It will take sharing that with your therapist to work through it and to finally let it go. Once you've gotten through that you can work on the anger at yourself which actually will be much of an easier task
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Why do i have to share it with my therapist if i shared it wih you?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
You don't seem ever to get the point I've made over and over--first, this needs to be done in a face to face scenario. And it needs to be done in real time where the therapist can respond quickly to what you say. Just typing in your answers to my questions here is still too much of a cocoon for you--too safe.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
You dont hAve to be a jerk about it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I'm not being a jerk at all and you wasted space with that comment
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I dont see my therapist until the 19th
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, we can do more work but you still need to take all that to him and work with him on it. What about the psychiatrist--when are you seeing her?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I see her the 19th too
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
OK--good
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Do you think my dad had good reasons for doing what he did?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Good reasons?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Like he thought that it was ok to do?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, unless he's what's called a sociopath and doesn't recognize the distinction between right and wrong (and I don't think he is), then he knew it wasn't right
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I feel like some of the things he did, he did to embarrass/humiliate me
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Possibly and rape or molestation is mostly a power grabbing act
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
How does someone come up with the things he did?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Not really too important--you'd be surprised the things people can come up with
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
You say its not important, but maybe its important to me
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
How he came up with the things he did isn't important--it really doesn't matter so far as you're getting over it. We may never be able to get inside his mind
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I suppose youre right. I am just really hurt and angry that he hurt. He didnt care that i begged him to stop because it hurt. He didnt care that he made me bleed. He simply just didnt give a crap about me
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Get it all out and write it all down
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
How does a dad do that to his own daughter? And how the hell does my mom not know about it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I think she knows and we can't get into the whys and wherefores as to why he did it--that really won't help here.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Then what the heck can i say
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Didn't understand that comment?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Well you always tell me theres not a wrong thing to say. But so far the last couple things i have written you tell me that its not important
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I didn't say anything you wrote was wrong but at least when you write something we can discuss it and see if we need to address it--you're getting much too sensitive again
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I dont really know else to say about my dad
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
You've done fine but to really get the anger out and get rid of it you really have to go over what we've talked about with either the therapist or the psychiatrist--same thing with your brother
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I know. I just hate talking about my feelings especially face to face. And i know you already know that
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
It's the only way and I've also said--very true--it gets easier with time
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
It seems like forever before i seey therapist again
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
One day at a time until then
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Maybe i should call him. Im really having a hard time with this all
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Great idea and tell him you absolutely need to see him as soon as possible
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
You think so
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Absolutely--the sooner you get to working on this, the better
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I do know that the 19th is his soonest opening. So idk if calling him will do any good
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Stop it--just call him and don't worry about whether he can get you in or not
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Ill call him tomorrow
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Good
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
What do i say to him. Hes not goingbto be able to give me much advise over the phone
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
You tell him you've come to a lot of conclusions about what you father and brother did, you're having very strong feelings about that, and you need to talk to him face to face just as soon as possible
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Ok. Do you believe me that i am really struggling with all this
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Of course, and I'd be disappointed if you weren't
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I really want to self harm
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Not surprised but try your best not to--in this case it really won't help for very long
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I know. I just wamt to take a bunch of pills. Im confused. And i am angry. I dont think ive felt this bad before
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
You need to fell it all--not drown it out with cutting or pills
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I dont like this feeling at all
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Don't expect you to but no need to keep saying that
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Now what do i need to talk about
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
What have you been doing today?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Ive been trying to nap. Then went snowmobiling
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well I assume, at least for a while, you weren't constantly thinking about your dad?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Its pretty constant
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, stay as active as you can
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
How about taking some flexeril and vicodin and going to bed
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
A little early to do that but some should only mean one of each.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Will the feeling of wanting to end everything go away soon
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
It will in time and the sooner you can see the therapist about it the better
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
You dont think i have it in me to do it do you?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Oh, I know you do have it in you but you have to do it and not put it off any more
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Im kinda worried that i will harm myself
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I can't do much about that but tell you to stick with your family for now and we really can't discuss that part any further
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I know, im sorry
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
That's OK. But we've talked a lot about things today and it's time to close this page at least
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Ok. Do you still think i need to talk to my therapist
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Absolutely--otherwise all our work so far would be useless
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Having a panic attack
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
How so?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
My chest hurts, my heart is fast, im sweaty, feel SOB, crying
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well take a vicodin and a lay down and try to sleep
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Are you sure thats ok to do? Why do i feel like everything is falling apart
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well one vicodin isn't dangerous but at least lie down. I have to leave now so hang in there and I'll talk to you tomorrow
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
would you be ok if ini talked to drphill?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
No problem
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Will you be back tomorrow?
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Of course
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Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Im still not doing well
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
You really need to tell me more about what's going on when you say something like that
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Im cutting and crying. Im frustrated and confused
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
When are you going to call your therapist?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I left him a message
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
When will someone be in his office?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
They start at 8. So i just have to wait for him to call me back
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Isn't it past 8 where you are? And do you work today?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
It is past 8. I was suppose to work but my engine is overheating
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Call the therapist's office back--don't wait for them to call you
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Well if my therapist is with a patient then he cant really call me back right now
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
That doesn't matter--call them back and make sure he got the message
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I left a message with the receptionist. Im sure he got it
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Don't keep saying yeah, but to me--call one more time
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Fine. Dont be frustrated with me
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I don't get frustrated--sometimes you just need a push
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
He says if im really struggling i need to head to er
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
And tell the ER doc what exactly?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
He didnt say
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
What exactly did you tell him on the phone?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
That im struggling really bad
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Well, I can't imagine why he told you to go to the ER unless he felt you needed to be on the psych ward for a few days.
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I dont think i need to be on the psych ward
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
I didn't say you did but I just don't understand why he said what he did to you. Did he say there was no way he could squeeze you into seeing him sometime sooner?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
He said maybe he could squeeze me in sometime
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
He doesn't sound very committed to you. Anyway, what have you been doing today?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I borrowed my father figures vehicle and went into work late
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
OK--at least you're carrying on with your usual routine so I think for now you're OK
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Do you think i need to go to the er
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
No
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
When am i gunna stop feeling like ths
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
It takes time--you have to be patient
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I see my therapist tomorriw at noon
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Good for you
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I feel bad for calling him
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Why?
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I feel like i inconvenienced him. And now he doesnt get a lunch break tomorrow
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Not at all--that's entirely part of his job and he really needs to do his job and see you tomorrow
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
Ok. Can inask you a quick medical question
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Sure
Customer: replied 2 years ago.
I woke up this am with a really stiff neck and it hurts. It hurts to touch it and move my head
Expert:  Dr. Chip replied 2 years ago.
Nothing too serious--happens sometimes. It's fancy name is torticollis. You could really use a deep tissue massage but short of that capsaicin cream topically along with hot packs can help. Listen--whether you rate this answer or not isn't too important but we need to start a new page.

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