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first of all you are not alone.
before i begin my answer can you tell me if you have sought advice from a phsyician or counsellor regarding this issue?
No I havent talked to anyone.
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there is almost certainly a psychological component to this problem
this is evident because while you can bring yourself to orgasm
your boyfriend can no longer do it
as you can see from the above this is normal for months after delivery with many women
so first some practical advice
it may be possible, if you are comfortable with this, to bring yourself to the edge or orgasm, and then let your boyfriend complete the orgasm in whatever manner seems best
this is a possible fix, as your brain will come to associate the orgasm with your boyfriend, whereas right now you associate it only with self stimulation
it is also possible
that this probem, being that it is going on 6 months now could be 'mechanical', meaning
that after childbirth, the antomy of your gentialia, and your sensory nerves in and around the genitalia, are still recovering from the birth
this could be a largely psychological issue, perhaps
of frustration and anxiety surrounding your inability to have an orgasm like you did before
and perhaps an unconscious fear of getting pregnant again
if the latter is true, then a therapist, particularly a sex therapist, would be invaluable in restoring your ability to have an orgasm with your boyfriend
but first things first, my initial advice.... bringing yourself to the point of orgasm and then allowing your boyfriend to complete it, could very well be a good fix if you do this regualarsly.... at some point you might find that you CAN have an orgasm without the self stimulation.
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thank you I will try that first and go from there.
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no i dont
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