why does the dictionary and other sources say that when you are homosexual you have homosexual thoughts
I can't really answer why the dictionary or other resources say this. By definition - (from the American Psychological Association), homosexuality is your sexual orientation. If you had rather be with a man, and you have relations with other men, then it would be considered as such. Again, it is all in what you prefer. But just sitting around randomly thinking about what it would be like to have sex with another man doesn't automatically make you gay. I thought you meant you just had a passing thought or two about homosexuality. Now, if you are constantly thinking about having sexual relations with men and that is what you want, then that is a different situation. I thought you meant you have just had passing thoughts about fantasies with other men. You may have no desire for the opposite sex and strongly desire men - in this case, you could consider yourself homosexual...some people do this for years before they 'come out' and let it be known. Are the thoughts serious thoughts -as in, a way of life, or just a curious type of thing?
I only think about men sexually and not women. If I am gay what would be the healthy thing to do about it