I see. Well, again, very very unlikely. No, I am not from the NJ area. I am based in the Southeast. It's going to be best to wait for the results of the labs that your Dr took and see what it says - when did he say the results would be back anyway? Usually only takes a few days.
Other than waiting (which is not really considered coping), maybe you can find a way to distract yourself in the few more days that you are waiting. I'd hate to see you go on any type of sedative-type medication and be told in a few days that it is not herpes...you'd been on medication for nothing but if you are that worried and consumed, possibly your Dr can give you something in the meantime.
A lot of people cope by doing what you are doing (by reaching out to others), talking to a friend, staying busy with activities outside the home (sports, going out with a friend, etc) or any other hobby that you like. There may also be an online support group for anxiety that you can look into...possible a chat type forum where you can anonymously talk to others about your anxiety and get some feedback there.
I do think you'll get your answer from your Dr very soon and things will turn out ok. Just try to stay calm and possibly even call your Dr today and ask when the results will be in.