Welcome to JustAnswer Health...and thank you for your question. I am a verified Expert and am delighted to help you today. No, pain like this is not due to herpes...this sounds like something called dyspareunia. She may have a problem anywhere in her female organs including the fallopian tubes, the uterus..the cervix. She really needs to see her Gynecologist for an examination so she can be diagnosed and treated. Here is an article to read more about this: READ HERE
when ever I have sex my partners has problem,
this has been going for years
are you still there
I understand, and yes, this is all the more reason to suspect Dyspareunia.