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I was having sex with a new partner. I was holding back from ejackulating for about 10-15 minuets. I then lost the ability to ejackualte, and lost my errection. It felt like I had ejected, and wanted to try again without waitng for a few hours.
Is this normal ? What can I do to prevent this happenng again ?
This is not abnormal,
Sexual act involves both body and mind.
So next time you do it , do it involving both your body and mind.
This is not at all helpful. Why do I loose the errection when I have not egackualted ?
If I try very early on then I can come. but when I wait, so I can please my partner, then I loose the errection, and unable to egackulate? there must be a phyisical explaination .
Hello, can I ask how old you are?
Is this a new problem for you? How often has it happened?
Do you take any medication or have any medical problems?
I am 65 years old, but it happened to me before with a new partner once when I was 35and once when I was 40.It was the same senario. I wanted to wait until she was ready and then found I could not ejaculate and lost my erection. I can ususally come quite quickly, and so I have to stop myself.
Thanks for the extra information, there is a school of thought that believes a sudden loss of erection is a psychological problem rather than physical.
The fact that you had to wait for completion of intercourse may affect the problem as the blood vessel dilation and erection physiology was not able to maintain the pressures required. I do not know if I can explain the earlier events, however certainly as you age then cardiovascular problems can contribute to erection problems and you may need help to maintain erection satisfactorily.
However one thing that needs to be ruled out is retrograde ejaculation where the ejaculate is forced into the bladder rather than forward and out.
If this happens again then a urine sample taken just after the loss of erection might show presence of semen.
With retrograde ejaculation would I not know that I have ejaculated ?