This would be a good area of study! Unfortunately, the herpes virus goes dormant in the nerves, and your immune system usually does a pretty good job of keeping it in check. It is in times of stress on the immune system (illness, stressful periods such as exams, etc) that the immune system weakens and the virus can reactivate.
Certain medications (acyclovir and others in this family) can help your immune system, and some people take these if they get frequent outbreaks.
To date, suppressing the virus is the best option that is available. There is a lot of research on finding an immunization to prevent it, as well as ongoing research on ways to cure people of it.
For the HIV virus (much more deadly to humans), researchers have tried irradiating blood, boiling it (taking it out, irradiating it, and putting it back in) among other things. The most common thought for the more radical procedures is that HIV can be terminal, so people will tolerate a higher risk, herpes is not.
I know this doesn't fully answer your question. What have you tried to date? How often to you get outbreaks? Do you usually use protection? What is it that makes you so upset about the virus?
Let me know,