Day 1 is considered to be the 1st day when there is actual flow. If you get some mild spotting when you swipe the vaginal wall, this is not necessarily flow. But remember, there are other things you can do to determine when you are fertile. You can check your body temperature and also keep track of your cervical mucus, which will become clear and stringy when you are ovulating.
Here are a couple of links you may find helpful
Lastly, here is a comprehensive chart for tracking all the info
Good luck to you both, Regards
It may be that your hormones are irregular, but the question is how significant is this? The main concern is whether or not you are ovulating....do you have any idea if you are or have recently? besides counting, what other methods do you rely on? Unless you have no ovulation, at this point, there is nothing that would be really helpful and seeing a fertility specialist may not be warranted just yet...