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IHAVE JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY 41 YEAR OLD SON

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IHAVE JUST FOUND OUT THAT MY 41 YEAR OLD SON IS ADDICTED TO "METH" HE HAS BEEN A VERY PRODUCTIVE PERSON AND A GOOD SON, HE HAS NEVER HAD ANY INVOLVEMENT WITH DRUGS OR ALCOHOL UNTIL TWO YEARS AGO. HE WAS ARRESTED THIS WEEKEND WITH "METH" IN HIS POSSESSION. I WANT TO DO THE RIGHT THING FOR HIM BUT I DO NOT WANT TO KILL HIM WITH LOVE. I AM SO SCARED AND FRIGHTENED AS I HAVE NEVER BEEN NEAR OR ASSOCIATED WITH DRUGS OR OUR POLICE SYSTEM. HOW CAN OUR FAMILY SURVIVE THIS AND HELP HIM TO SURVIVE AND ALSO GET HIMSELF CLEAN AND BACK TO A NORMAL LIFE. I LIVE IN CHATTANOOGA TENN. CAN YOU TELL ME AOUT ANY GOOD FACILITIES THAT CAN MAYBE HELP US.
Submitted: 11 years ago.
Category: Health
Expert:  Vickie replied 11 years ago.

Dear Glenda,


First of all dear, try to calm down. I know that this is a huge shock to you and your family, but try to realize that an addiction is an "illness". The best way you can help your son at the moment is to be supportive, and be there for him...no matter what. Try really hard to keep from telling him how "wrong" he has been...as he already knows this, or how he is ruining his life. A lot of the time, these things sneak up on people because they have problems in their life that they feel like they can not deal with, and are to ashamed to ask for help, before they realize it, they are addicted, and do not know what to do. The only thing in the world that they have, are the people who love them, and are willing to stand behind them and support them no matter what. He realizes the trouble that he is in, and this just might be what it takes to help him to realize his problem and "want" to get clean. The police officers will be glad to guide you through the processes that he will go through there...and they will understand that you as parents, had nothing to do with your son being addicted. I have included a link for you to get your son help in your city and state. They will also tell you about support programs to help you and your family, help your son to deal with his addiction. Just click on the link, and it will tell you where to go from there. Make the call...for your son. You will be glad you did. And by the way...I commend you on your love and dedication to your son. Many parents would have given up on their child by now, and your love and support is admirable.


http://www.drug-rehabs.org/bycity.php/Tennessee/Chattanooga


Good luck to you and your family, you are in my prayers!

Expert:  Kerry replied 11 years ago.
Hi Glenda

Vicki provided some very wise information above. All I would add is that it might benefit you to look into some meetings for yourself. There is a 12 step organization for families, and loved ones of those with drug/alcohol problems. Alanon, or naranon. Here are some links so you can research them further. They will tell you where meetings are held in your area. At the very least it will bring you in contact with other families who have gone through this, and they will help you to know what the next right thing to do for your son is.

http://www.naranon.com/

I wish you and your son the best!
Kerry

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