Dear Ms. Schiessl, Thank you very much for your advice.
I have to say that this simply does not make any sense to me according to human rights.
Through her actions without my knowledge - actually proactively lying and hiding about not taking the pill and not having a professional pregnancy test - we are in this situation and since - she - decides to not get an abortion - which is her decision - there are going to be the consequences.
Furthermore I talked to my lawyer in Canada. She said that this has been obviously planned through by her. It would be common in many cases, where the mother is not a German citizen and is in a financially hard situation, decides and plans to born a child in a country to simply get full legal support in the foreign country - even within the EU. My lawyer emphasized that this is not human to me nor the child and this would be fraud.
In addition she highly adviced me to get a lawyer here in Germany, sense she does not know the details on German family law. If I decide for an attorney, I am not in a situation to pay for the process as a student. Do I have any way to get supported on this?
How is it possible that I would have to pay for her alimony? We have not been married, not lived together, we haven't even been in a relationship - which she knows and admits.
I will be finished with my Bachelor by the end of next month. Do I have the right to start studying Masters under the cir cum stances?
Doesn't it make any difference, that I am a Canadian citizen and will go back to Canada after my studies?
Thanks a lot again.
Dear Ms. Schiessl, thank you on the feed back. I understand... just two questions are left open:
If I decide for an attorney, I am not in a situation to pay for the process as a student. Do I have any way to get supported on this?
And the following point is not really clear to me. I am within finishing my Bachelor's degree by the end of the next month.
Is it absolutely OK to start with my Master's? I haven't started with it yet.
Thanks a lot.
Thanks a lot Ms. Schiessl, you have been a great help. please let me leave this chat to be open for a few days if I have any further questions to this conversation. Of course I will close it then and rate you with the excellent information you have provided me. Thank you!
Dear legal eagle,
What would happens if I refuse to have custody over the kid and fatherhood test and move back to Canada?
Will the Jugendamt take care of the new born?
since I am a Canadian citizen, I have German "Aufenhaltsgenähmigung" to be able to study here. I have this title, because my step father here in Germany, officially supports me financially.
What would happen if I go to Canada. Will he be asked to pay instead of me?
Thanks a lot for your help.
Dear Mis Schiessl,
thank you for your last reply, you have been a great help so far and I have recommended this platform to many of my friends because of your great help.
In addition, I have the following question, which came up during the process described above:
As I understood, as long as I am a student and earn max. 1000 EUR a month, I am aloud to keep my income.
Is this amount brutto or netto income?
As a student it is normal to work less within the semester and not work at all during the exams. To cover the costs and even up their income, students naturally work more or even full time in their semester breaks. So would I be aloud to keep my full income, if lets say I earn 2 months a year nothing and instead two months a year, each 2000 EUR per month? So the question is, will the Jugendamt calculate with max. 12000 EUR a year, what the father can keep to himself or always 1000 EUR a month, even as a student under the described circumstances?
Thanks a lot for your professional advises.
Thanks legal eagle.
I have two final questions:
1. Do I have to pay back the Jugendamt for the time they have covered the costs (first three years where I earn under 12000 EUR / year) for me, once I am done with my studies and earn good money?
2. As a student I have the right on "Wohngeld". Is this included in the 12000 EUR / year or excluded? (For instance I earn 12000 EUR / year plus 2000 EUR / year Wohngeld = 14000 EUR / year. Would I have to pay 2000 EUR to the Jugendamt or am I aloud to keep the Wohngeld)
Thanks a lot again!
thanks for your last response. You have been a great help as always. I have two quick questions:
1. The mother wants me to sign that I am the father, otherwise she is saying that she will be deported with the child back to Poland after the birth. Is this true? and when yes what kind of risks do I have, if I help her out with that? Can she refuse a paternity test after that?
2. Who's family name will the child have legally? the mothers or the fathers?
Thanks a lot and best regards
thanks for your reply once again. If I decide to sign that I am the father out of personal reasons, do I still have the right on the paternity test after the child is born?
And if I do sign the papers, is there any additional risks then if I do not sign?
Thank you and best regards.
what kind of problems would these be and what can I do to solve these problems? (if I acknowledge to be the father before the birth)
Would for example a signed letter from the mother help, in which she guarantees a permission for the paternity test after the birth of the child?
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