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CHER, I NEED A NEW READING.
Submitted: 11 months ago.
Category: General
Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

YOU DID IT!! : )

OK, please allow me a few minutes to do a new reading for you after reading your last post.

Thanks,
Cher
Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

It's very odd that he wouldn't look at you and kept playing on his phone. I do think this may be a symptom of A.S. and how he deals with his nervousness. Of course, he shouldn't have been nervous around YOU, but he was. It wasn't hard to look at you because he doesn't find you attractive or have deep feelings for you, it was FOR those reasons he wasn't making eye contact. It's difficult for him and he was nervous because he wanted to be 'cool' and impress you and didn't interact too much, afraid he would say the wrong thing. What he said about missing your plane was sweet. Yes, he wanted you to stay, but knew you couldn't.

That's interesting about tthe beauty pagent and Chloe--"Toddlers & Tiaras"?? lol I hope you get to do that next summer.

In my new reading for you, Kayla will be just fine. She is a mature and intelligent young lady who can take care of herself very well, although she does miss you, being away at school. I'm sure you see her often, though, because the school is so close. Samuel is going to be hard to win over with your present plans. You don't have to tell him where you're going or why, and tell Louie to spare the child's feelings by not revealing anything. He can have a 'boys weekend' with his son. Tell him you're going to help a friend pack and move. That's it. I'm sure you call him every day anyway, when you're away.

Please Rate Positively if you found my answer helpful. Thank you very much!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THE BEAUTY PAGEANT I DO THEY HAVE TO LOOK THEIR AGE. NO MAKE-UP AT ALL. THAT'S ALWAYS WHAT HE DOES. PLAY ON HIS PHONE. HE IS INTRAVERDED. I KNOW KAYLA WILL BE O.K. BUT, IF I LEAVE HER DAD SHE WILL ALWAYS HATE ME. I THINK HE COULDN'T PERFORM BECAUSE OF NERVES SO, I'M NOT SURPRISED HE DOESN'T REALLY LOOK AT ME. DO U THINK WHEN I GO THERE HE WILL TELL ME WE R NO LONGER FRIENDS. I WOULD TELL HIM I DON'T CARE. WE WILL ALWAYS BE IN EACH OTHER LIVES. I CAN C HIM EVEN SAYING U LIVE IN FLORIDA. THEN, I WILL SAY WELL, I'M HERE NOW AND I PLAN ON STAYING SO WE WILL BE IN EACH OTHERS LIVES. DO U THINK HE HAS A DISORDER? HE ALWAYS HAS AT LEAST 5 THINGS GOING ON AT ONCE ON THAT PHONE. WHEN U DO YOUR READINGS HOW LONG R THEY GOOD FOR? IF I WASN'T PAYING FOR THIS WOULD U STILL TELL ME TO GO? I CAN'T TAKE ANYMORE HEARTACHE. BUT, I FEEL U NEED TO TAKE A CHANCE IN LIFE. DO U C THIS CHANCE WORKING OUT? DOES ANY CARDS SAY THAT IT WILL WORK OUT I WILL BE HAPPY.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

Oh, good, I'm glad the beauty pageant is with no makeup, etc., like you see on tv. I hate when they make up little girls to look like they're 20 years old; it's ridiculous.

Yes, he's introverted and playing on his phone is a good distraction and 'cover' for him. It is for a lot of people like that. I do feel he has a disorder. The behavior you describe is not appropriate for a man of his age and his disorder makes him act like that. Of course, this has nothing to do with intelligence, because as you've said, he's very smart, and I don't doubt it. If he tells you you're no longer friends when you get there, I don't think he's telling the truth and you answer the way you said.. Where you each live now is irrelevant because there are many successful long-distance friendships and romances and if things work out, you are willing to move there, so there are no excuses. My readings are usually good for 3-6 months, but nothing is 'for sure.'

Paying or not paying, I tell you what I see in my readings, what my true feelings are and give you my best advice based on that. You are definitely right! You need to take a chance in life and in addition, you're also doing this to clear the air, find out the truth re: what's going on with him and you need closure to this situation, after being friends for so many years. You have to know where you stand with him. I think this chance will work out for you. The cards that I drew for you last time, were positive and triumphant cards. I don't think he will ever get over his nervousness, even with you, due to his disorders, but you will certainly be able to guide him to help modify his behaviors and become more successful in life. He looks up to you and sees how much you've accomplished and needs you to be the leader, which you are willing to do.

Please Rate me Positively if my answer was helpful. Thanks!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

WHEN I WAS TALKING TO U LAST NIGHT U ASKED ME HOW I MET LOUIE AND WASN'T WITH PERRY. THIS IS THE STORY. WHEN I WAS 19 YEARS OLD I WAS AT PERRY'S WORK. IT WAS JUST HIM AND I. WELL I SAID, PERRY IF WERE NOT MARRIED BY AGE 25 LETS GET MARRIED. WE SAID HE WOULD KILL ME. HE WAS ALWAYS THE SERIOUS ONE. MR.MBA AND I WAS THE FUN ONE. WHEN HE SAID THAT I JUST KNEW WE WOULD ONLY BE FRIENDS, I PUT HIM IN THE FRIEND FILE. I CAN EVEN TELL U WHAT I WAS WEARING AND WHERE I WAS STANDING WHEN HE SAID THAT. SO I MET LOUIE WHEN I WAS 23. WE WORKED TOGETHER. WE WERE FRIENDS FIRST THEN STARTED DATING. I MARRIED LOUIE BECAUSE HE HAD EVERY QUALITY PERRY HAD. I MARRIED PERRY IN LOUIE. EXCEPT PERRY WOULD HAVE NOT HAD A MID-LIFE CRISES AND DO THIS TO ME AND THE KIDS. IF HE HADN'T HAD DONE THIS TO US I WOULD NEVER EVEN THINK OF PERRY. I'M THE LEADER IN MY MARRIAGE. I WOULD LIKE SOMEONE TO LEAD ME. I'M STRONGER THAN PERRY BUT, I DO LET HIM TAKE THE LEAD WHEN WERE TOGETHER. I JUST KNOW SOMETIMES I HAVE TO SAVE HIM FROM HIMSELF. DO U THINK HE DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT HIS MARRIAGE IN HOPES HE COULD BE WITH ME. HE COULD HAVE GIVEN ME AN INVITATION. IT'S FUNNY WHEN HE GOT MARRIED MY MARRIAGE FAILED. SINCE HE KNEW HIS MARRIAGE WASN'T GOING TO LAST AND MINE WAS OVER DO U THINK HE DIDN'T TELL ME ABOUT IT HOPING WE WOULD BE TOGETHER? HE NEVER EVEN TOLD ME ABOUT CHLOE. WELL HE DID SAY HE COULDN'T LET ME HIS BIGGEST FAILURE. HE HAD TOO MUCH RESPECT FOR ME. THIS IS ANOTHER REASON I LOVE PERRY. WHEN I FILED MY LAWSUIT IT WAS 16 PAGES OF THE MOST HORRIBLE STUFF U COULD IMAGINE I ENDEARED AT WORK. I MAILED A COPY TO PERRY. HE WAS THE ONLY FRIEND I EVER EVEN C IT. I NOW LET TAMMY READ IT. I WANTED PERRY TO READ WHAT I WENT THROUGH AND FEEL SORRY FOR ME. HE READ IT AND CALLED ME AND SAID, STEPHANIE PLEASE COME SPEND A MONTH WITH ME. HE SAID, I WILL TAKE TIME OFF WORK AND WE WILL GO TO THE MALL OF AMERICA EVERYDAY. WE WILL WALK AROUND THERE AND I WILL TAKE YOUR MIND OFF THAT. WELL, HE WAS MARRIED AND HAD HIS DAUGHTER AND I DIDN'T KNOW IT. WHAT IF I SHOWED UP? I THOUGHT THAT WAS THE SWEETEST THING. HE KNEW I WOULD HAVE NEVER LEFT MY CHILDREN. SO, I GUESS HE COULD INVITE ME THERE AND KNOW I WOULD NOT SHOW UP. BUT, THE OFFER WAS SO SWEET. I DID LIKE THAT HE WAS GOING TO TAKE CARE OF ME. R U SURE HE STILL RESPECTS ME. I KNOW HE TOLD HIS FRIEND HE COULDN'T BELIEVE I WOULD COME FOR HIM. BUT, A WEEK BEFORE I CAME I SAID, R U SURPRISED I'M COMING? HE SAID, NO I ALWAYS KNEW U WOULD. SO WHAT DO U REALLY THINK? HOW CAN SOMEONE LIKE HIM WHO HAS NO FILTERS AND SAYS TOO MUCH. IS BRUTALLY HONEST AND I KNOW TELLS ME THE TRUTH Y WOULD HE SAY TO ME FOR MONTHS HOW ALL HE DOES IS THINK OF ME. GO TO FEELING NOTHING FOR ME? HE USED TO TEXT ME EVERY MORNING HOW HE FEEL ASLEEP THINKING OF ME. HOW HE WOKE UP THINKING OF ME. HE PROMISED HE WOULD NEVER HURT ME. WELL HE DID! PLUS, HE KNOWS IT. BECAUSE I TOLD HIM IN THE TEXTS AND THE LETTER WITH THE WATCH. I KNOW HE THINKS KAYLA IS THE BEST TEENAGER HE HAS EVER SEEN. SO, I THINK HE RESPECTS ME FOR THAT. BUT, NOT ABOUT THIS LAWSUIT. I THINK HE THINKS I'M A LOSER FOR THAT. EVEN THOUGH HE KNOWS I'M TRYING TO PASS A LAW WHERE THIS NEVER HAPPENS TO ANOTHER PERSON. I'M TRYING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE. I HOPE HE SEES THAT. HE ALWAYS SAID, HIS WIFE COULDN'T FUNCTION. SHE COULDN'T DO ANYTHING. DO U THINK HE SEES ME AS A STRONG CAPABLE WOMEN WHO DID THIS FOR HIM. FLY THERE DO ALL I DID FOR HIM. I WAS GOING TO TELL U WHAT A KID HE IS. WHEN I WAS THERE HE HAD NICKNAMES FOR ALL HIS FRIENDS. USUALLY OUT OF THEIR NAMES. I THOUGHT IT WAS CUTE AND SILLY. SO, I SAID, MAKE A NAME FOR ME. MY MAIDEN NAME IS SPELLED DIFFERENTLY BUT IT IS CHEETAH JUST LIKE THE ANIMAL. HE SAID, COUGAR, THE CAT. I LIKED IT. NOW THAT IS Y I ALWAYS THINK OF HIM AS A LITTLE KID. WHAT DO U THINK NOW? DO U THINK HE HAS A DISORDER NOW? WELL, THERE ID THE STORY OF PERRY AND ME, I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HIS CHEERLEADER. I WOULD TELL HIM EVERY TIME WE TALKED HOW AWESOME HE WAS. I USE TO TELL HIM WHO EVER MARRIES HIM IS GOING TO BE THE LUCKIEST WOMEN ON EARTH. I USE TO SAY IF U HAVE CHILDREN YOUR GOING TO BE THE BEST DAD. EVERY TIME U GIVE HIM A COMPLIMENT HE WOULD THANK U. I WOULD ALWAYS SAY, NO IT'S U. IT'S WHO U R. THEN HE WOULD SAY I TRY TO BE AWESOME. HE KNOWS HE IS OVERWEIGHT. HE MAKES COMMENTS LIKE I KNOW I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT. I ALWAYS SAY PERRY I THINK YOUR GREAT! DO U THINK HE DOESN'T BELIEVE ME WHEN I SAY THAT? EVERY ONE NEEDS A PERRY. EVERYONE WHO KNOWS ME KNOWS ALL ABOUT MY PERRY. FOR YEARS I WOULD ALWAYS TELL PEOPLE ABOUT MY FRIEND WHO WAS AMAZING. MY FRIENDS DON'T EVEN KNOW HIM BUT, THEY ALL WANT TO MEET HIM. I HAVE ALWAYS CALLED HIM MY PERRY. THAT'S FUNNY BECAUSE, HE'S NOT. I CAN'T LOSE HIM. DO U THINK I'M HIS STEPHANIE?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi again Stephanie.

Thanks so much for that story about how you met and things he's said to you. I do think you're his Stephanie and always will be. I don't seem him being mad at you at this point. I feel he's mad at himself and can't deal with it, so he's being silent.

Please take a moment to rate my answer if you found it helpful, so I may receive credit. Thanks!

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

I CAN'T RATE U IT WON'T LET ME. IT SAYS REPLY TO EXPERT. THERE IS NO RATE YOUR EXPERT. U DIDN'T ANSWER A QUESTION. I WILL POST ONE. Y DO U THINK HE IS NOT MAD AT ME AND IT IS HIM? Y DO U THINK HE DIDN'T INVITE ME TO HIS WEDDING? I WAS STILL HAPPILY MARRIED TO LOUIE AT THE TIME. DO U THINK IT IS BECAUSE, HE WAS HOPING TO BE WITH ME SOMEDAY? SINCE HE KNEW HIS MARRIAGE WAS NOT GOING TO WORKOUT. DO U THINK I SHOULD NOT TALK TO HIM BECAUSE HE LIED? HE DID SAY HE COULDN'T LET ME KNOW OF HIS FAILURE BECAUSE, HE HAD TOO MUCH RESPECT FOR ME? DO U THINK HE STILL HAS RESPECT FOR ME? ONE LAST ONE, HE SAID HE WOULD NOT HURT ME AND HE HAS. I EVEN TOLD HIM HE DID. DO U THINK HE DOES REALIZE HE HURT ME. IF U ANSWER THESE QUESTIONS I CAN RATE U. PLEASE, FEEL FREE TO REPLY. I HOPE TO HEAR FROM RIGHT AWAY. THANKS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Stephanie.

So sorry. That was my fault. I just realized I sent your response as a 'request for information' instead of an 'Answer', by mistake. I'll send it again as an answer so you can rate it and I'll incorportate my responses to your latest reply, here, as well.

Thanks so much for that story about how you met and things he's said to you. I do think you're his Stephanie and always will be. I don't seem him being mad at you at this point. I feel he's mad at himself and can't deal with it, so he's being silent.

I think he's mad at himself for the way he acted after you were home and the way he blew up at you unnecessarily re: the John thing. I think he didn't invite you to his wedding because he knew it was just a 'show' and it wasn't going to last. I also think, since has a 'thing' for you, he didn't want you to know he was getting married. Yes, I think he still respects you a lot! I don't think he realizes he hurt you, even though you told him so. However, he may be aware that he hurt you and it's tearing him apart, so he's too embarrassed to speak to you.

Thanks for your intention to rate my answer!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Cher, Educator-40+ yrs
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Experience: M.A., B.A., Author, Senior Informational Specialist
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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

U GOT RATED AGAIN. EXCELLENT AS ALWAYS. HOW CAN U KNOW HE IS MAD AT HIMSELF NOT ME. I'M HAVING A TOUGH TIME WITH LOUIE TONIGHT. PLEASE, DO U C ME HAPPY WITH PERRY BY CHRISTMAS? I REALLY WANT TO BE HAPPY.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Stephanie.

Thanks very much for your excellent rating; it is truly appreciated!

I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough time with Louie tonight. I know you really want to be happy and I want to see you happy, but I can't promise that you will be happy with Perry by Christmas. You have to take things slowly and methodically and try to work things out with him, so it might take a while. However, Christmas is 3 months away, so it's always a possibility.

If you found my answer helpful, a Positive Rating and Positive feedback on the survey, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! Laughing

If you would like to request me to answer any new, future questions, please begin your post with "For Cher Only" and I will respond as soon as possible.

Warmest regards,

Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

HELLO, DO U C ME HAPPY WITH HIM NEXT YEAR? JUST HAPPY. I DON'T CARE WHO I'M WITH IF ANYBODY. DO U C THIS LAWSUIT ENDING SOON? I HOPE SO.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Stephanie.

I do see you happy with him sometime next year. The lawsuit should be ending as soon as the press is released and the mediation begins. There's a slight chance it might go to trial, but I feel the mediation and settlement will happen before it goes to trial.

If you found my answer helpful, a Positive Rating and Positive feedback on the survey, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! Laughing

If you would like to request me to answer any new, future questions, please begin your post with "For Cher Only" and I will respond as soon as possible.

Warmest regards,

Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

I'M GLAD U C ME BEING HAPPY WITH HIM. R U SURE IT'S PERRY AND NOT LOUIE. YES, THE LAWSUIT WILL GO TO MEDIATION BEFORE TRIAL. IT HAS TO IT'S THE LAW. BUT, IF U FEEL I WILL GET PAID AFTER THE PRESS THAT'S GOOD. WILL I HAVE MORE MONEY THIS YEAR.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

MY AUNT AGREED WITH U. SHE ALWAYS TOLD ME I CAN'T MAKE THIS ABOUT ME IT'S ALL ABOUT HIM. SHE SAID, IT'S HIS DISORDER IT'S HIS PROBLEM. SHE SAID, STAY AWAY FOR NOW AND MAYBE HE WILL GET HELP TO FIGURE THIS OUT. I KNOW HE WON'T GET HELP HE DOESN'T KNOW HE HAS A PROBLEM I THINK. SHE SAID, LIKE U HE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH ME. I'M GLAD U AND HER AGREE ON THIS. IT IS HIS PROBLEM. SHE DID THINK I HAS NO REASON TO TALK TO JOHN. SHE THOUGHT THAT WOULD MAKE HIM MAD. SHE SAID, HE WOULD FEEL BETRAYED. SO I'M GLAD I QUIT TALKING TO HIM. NOW THAT U AND MY AUNT BOTH SAY THIS I KNOW WHAT I HAVE TO DO. I KNOW THERE R NO GUARENTEES WITH YOUR GIFT. BUT, I'M GLAD U C NE HAPPY. PLEASE, IF I WAS YOUR CLOSE FRIEND WOULD U TELL ME TO TAKE THE CHANCE AND GO GET HIM. I DON'T TAKE MANY CHANCES LIKE THIS. I PLAY IT SAFE IN LIFE. SO, THIS IS REALLY GOING OUT THERE. BUT, I WILL DO IT FOR LOVE. I HOPE YOUR RIGHT.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph.

I apologize for the delay, but something came up and I will send your answer in a short while. Thanks so much for your patience.

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THAT'S FINE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

Thanks so much for your patience!

I'm glad your aunt agrees with me! As far as the John thing, you had no idea it would anger him so and I think what you did was very innocent. His reaction was far overblown, but that could be because of his feelings for you and because of his disorder. If I had been in the same situation, I would think nothing of communicating with one of his friends about a common interest. Once he let you know it bothered him, you didn't do it again, but you had no idea you were doing anything 'wrong' but simply communicating about a common interest.

If you feel as strongly as you do about him and want to try to get him to see things your way and find out if he really loves you and wants to be with you, you have no choice but to make that trip. If you don't, you'll always be wondering. You also have to clear the air about everything that hasn't been said, since he's not talking to you right now.

If you found my answer helpful, a Positive Rating and Positive feedback on the survey, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! Laughing

Warmest regards,

Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THANKS. BUT, MY AUNT SAYS IT'S HIS DISORDER HE HAS TO FIGURE IT OUT ON HIS OWN WHATS WRONG WITH HIM. DO U AGREE? I SAID BUT, IF HE DOESN'T THINK HE HAS A DISORDER Y WOULD HE FIGURE IT OUT? YOUR RIGHT I HAVE TO GO BACK. MY AUNT SAID WAIT A YEAR. SHE SAID HE WILL FIGURE IT OUT. I DON'T THINK SO. I WAS TALKING TO A FRIEND OF MINE THIS MORNING. SHE KNOWS OF PERRY. I TOLD HER THE STORY. SHE SAID HE IS ONE OF THOSE IN BETWEEN GUYS WHO HAVE TO BE SHOWN YOUR COMING BACK. HE HAS TO C IT. I AGREE WITH THAT. CHER I'M SCARED. I KNOW I NEED TO DO THIS I WILL ASK U ONE LAST TIME. R U PRETTY POSITIVE THIS WILL WORK OUT? PLEASE/ DO U FEEL GOOD I WILL BE HAPPY?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi again, Steph.

Sorry for the delayed response and thanks for your patience. I was out for most of the day. Had to have lab work done and had a dr.'s appt. Everything is fine, I'm just 'catching up' on routine appointments I should have made a long time ago! lol

I disagree with your aunt on that one, re: it's his disorder and he has to figure it out on his own. I'm sure he's aware of his disorder, although I don't know if he's ever been seen by a doctor or actually evaluated and told he has a disorder (or more than one). His parents may have had him tested when he was younger, if he exhibited these symptoms.

A year is too long to wait to go back if you need to discuss these things with him and tell him how you feel. I'm sure you have to go back and I'm sure you need to put everything out on the table, so to speak, with him, and get him to give you some feedback. This might be difficult for him, but he's opened up to you in the past, right? I can't say for sure whether this will work out because I can't get inside his head. I know YOUR thoughts and feelings and you do give 110% to everything you do and everything you want to accomplish, so that makes me feel you will be successful in having this work out. I feel you will be happy but you might have to settle for being happy with his friendship, only. I think he's really scared to get into a romantic relationship with you; I feel he thinks it might kill the friendship and he's afraid of messing up, because he has no confidence in himself, but right now, you're in limbo and don't know WHAT he's thinking, since there's been no communication, so going there to lay it on the line and get him to 'talk' and make his feelings known, is very important.

Please Rate positively if you found my answer helpful; thanks, XXXXX XXXXX it!

If you are not able to Rate again, in this thread, please let me know, and you will need to start a new question for me, like you did last time. I'd love to continue helping you, but I also need to be credited for my work, whenever I send an answer; I'm sure you understand! Smile

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

IT WON'T LET ME RATE U. I WILL NEED TO START A NEW THREAD.I AGREE WITH WHAT U SAID. I ALSO AGREE WITH MY FRIEND I TALKED TO THIS MORNING. DEB IS HER NAME. I KNOW HE IS SCARED TO GO THERE WITH ME HE IS TO SCARED. I THINK HE DOESN'T WANT TO LOSE ME OUT OF HIS LIFE. BUT, LIKE DEB SAID, I HAVE TO GO THERE AND SHOW HIM WE CAN DO THIS. RIGHT NOW I'M GOING TO CONCENTRATE ON MY DIVORCE AND SCHOOL OVER THE NEXT MONTH. I DO LOVE HIM. BUT, I FEEL IF I LET AT LEAST THE NEXT MONTH GO BY I WILL HAVE A MORE CLEAR HEAD ABOUT THIS. I KNOW THAT I WILL HAVE TO GO THERE AND I WILL. I ALSO HAVE TO LET HIM KNOW I'M NOT GOING ANYWHERE NO MATTER WHAT. I UNDERSTAND HE HAS NO CONFIDENCE IN HIMSELF BUT, I DO IN HIM. I WILL GO BACK WITHIN THE NEXT COUPLE OF MONTHS. BUT, IF HE IS AFRAID OF LOSING OUR FRIENDSHIP DON'T U THINK HE ALREADY HAS? HE ISN'T TALKING TO ME. THAT'S A BIG SIGN WERE NOT FRIENDS. I WILL GO BACK AND TELL HIM FORGET THE PAST I'M HERE NOW AND LET'S HAVE FUN. MY FRIEND DEB AGREED I WILL JUST HAVE TO SHOW HIM THAT I'M HERE FOR HIM. WE ALL AGREE I WILL HAVE TO TRAVEL BACK AND FORTH FOR AWHILE TO SHOW HIM WHAT I'M WILLING TO DO FOR FOR HIM. I WILL START A NEW THREAD AFTER THIS.THANKS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

I agree with your plan to concentrate on your divorce and school for now, because these are important things in your life (and the lawsuit) which need your full attention. As long as you plan to go there within the next month or two, that's what's necessary to resolve this.

First, see him and resolve your issues; get back on track; then decide if going back and forth for a while is what you want and what will be necessary.

Thanks for promising to start a new thread. Could you please increase your deposit amount a little bit, as I only receive a portion of the payment you make to the site, and every time you open a new question, you seem to be decreasing the value of the question. Thanks, I'd appreciate it! : )

Warmest regards,
Cher
Cher, Educator-40+ yrs
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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I ADDED MORE MONEY TO MY ACCT SO U GOT RATED AGAIN. I JUST READ ABOUT HOW PEOPLE WITH A.S. ACT. THIS MAYBE Y YOUR FUSSY ABOUT HIM. IF U PUSH THESE PEOPLE TO DO THINGS LIKE HOLD YOUR HAND HAVE SEX DO THINGS THEIR NOT COMFORTABLE WITH THEY WILL CUT U OUT OF THEIR LIVES. ALTHOUGH, HE WANTED THIS I PURSUED HIM. I HELD HIS HAND IN PUBLIC I KNOW HE DIDN'T LIKE PDA. THEN HE SAID, HE DIDN'T MIND IT. I SHOULD HAVE JUST HAD HIM HOLD ME AND WE MIGHT NOT BE HERE NOW. I'M TELLING U THIS TO C IF IT HELPS YOUR GIFT. LOUIE FOUND ME WRITING TO U. HE THINKS I DID SOMETHING WITH PERRY. I TOLD HIM NO I DIDN'T. I SAID, PERRY CAN'T FUNCTION LIKE THAT. SO LOUIE TOLD ME IF U TRIED TO DO SOMETHING WITH HIM AND HE COULDN'T FOLLOW THRU HE WILL AVOID U OUT OF EMBARESSMENT. I WAS TELLING LOUIE NOTHING WOULD EVER HAPPEN WITH HIM I DON'T LIKE HIM LIKE THAT. I DON'T NEED LOUIE IN MY BUSINESS. BUT, LOUIE HAS A POINT. NOW, THAT I HAVE READ THIS ABOUT A.S. AND THEY CUT U OUT OF THEIR LIVES NOW DO U THINK HE HAS CUT ME OUT FOR GOOD, WHAT DOES YOUR GIFT THINK NOW?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, R U THERE?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I JUST READ ABOUT A.S. THEY DON'T HAVE COPING SKILLS. MY AUNT TOLD ME THAT. I C THAT IN PERRY. I ALWAYS LIVED IN THIS PERFECT WORLD GROWING UP AND BEING MARRIED. WHEN MY LIFE FELL APART 2 YEARS AGO I HAD NO COPING SKILLS. I WNET TO A THERAPIST AND GOT SOME. BUT, BEFORE I WENT TO THE THERAPIST I AVOIDED PEOPLE. WOULD NOT GO OUT AND DO ANYTHING FOR 4 MONTHS. SO, I UNDERSTAND HIM NOT BEING ABLE TO COPE NOW, THAT I HAVE A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF HIM DO U THINK I WILL BE ABLE TO REACH HIM. I KNOW THERE HAS TO BE NO STRESS, I JUST WANT TO TELL HIM THIS. HE MUST HAVE KEPT THE WATCH. DO U THINK HE GAVE IT TO CHLOE? HOPE SO.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph and thanks for your positive rating; it is greatly appreciated!

No, I don't think he has cut you out of his life. After all the years you've been friends and have shared a lot with each other, I cannot see him cutting you out of his life. What's done is done and you can't go back and undo it. However, you can talk to him in person, as you planned, get all of this out in the open, tell him you understand why he acted (is acting) the way he did and you will not ever push him to do anything he doesn't want to do. You are his friend, you are not going anywhere, and he can talk to you about anything, just like always.

If you didn't receive the watch by return mail by now, he kept it. I do think he gave it to Choe and it made her very happy!

Louie seeing you writing about this/discussing it/knowing you're discussing it, is not good. You're right! You dont need him in your business, especially this type of business! I always thought you wrote when you knew you would not be interrupted, in private, or Louie was elsewhere and didn't see what you were doing. Try not to allow him to see you writing about this again and don't discuss anything about the situation with him. He didn't tell you anything you don't already know and it's just not appropriate for him to be discussing this with you. He shouldn't know anything about it. If he brings it up again, tell him it's none of his concern and you won't discuss it with him.

You'll be able to reach him (Perry) once you see him in person. You can't compare your 'coping' with his, because his brain doesn't function like yours. He needs to react in his own way, due to his disorders and although you're not in touch, he still thinks about you and still considers you a great friend.

If you found my answer helpful, a Positive Rating and Positive feedback on the survey, would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! Laughing

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Warmest regards,

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THANKS CHER, LOUIE BROKE INTO MY COMPUTER. HE DIDN'T GET TO READ MUCH BUT, HE KNOWS I SAW PERRY WHEN I WAS THERE. I'M WORRIED WE WON'T TALK AGAIN. I'M SCARED HE WILL NOT COME TO THE FRONT DOOR IF I SHOW UP. HE COULD JUST HAVE HIS ROOMMATE SAY HE DOESN'T WANT TO TALK TO ME. THAT'S WHAT I'M AFRAID OF. I THINK WITH A.S. HE COULD JUST CUT ME OUT OF HIS LIFE. I FEEL EVEN IF I GO THERE HE WILL STILL HAVE NOTHING TO GO WITH ME. DO U C THAT. R U SURE HE GAVE CHLOE THE WATCH? U THOUGHT HE MIGHT NOT HAVE. R U SURE HE JUST ISN'T HANGING ON TO IT FOR SPECIAL REASONS? I THINK HE WOULD AT LEAST OPEN THE BOX. IF I HAD TO GET SOME COPING SKILLS WHAT'S HIS DEAL? DOESN'T HE NEED TO LEARN HOW TO DEAL WITH STRESS? IF HE GAVE CHLOE THE WATCH DO U THINK HE THOUGHT HIGHLY OF ME STILL? R U SURE I WILL BE ABLE TO REACH PERRY WHEN I GO THERE? HOW R U DOING? DO U THINK IF HE GAVE HER THE WATCH AND THE CARD SAID I WILL BE BACK SOON DO U THINK THEY BOTH WANT THAT. MY FRIEND TAMMY THINKS PERRY AND I WILL PROBABLY NOT BE FRIENDS AGAIN. WHAT DO U THINK?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph and you're most welcome!

That's bad news that Louie broke into your computer and you're going to have to password XXXXX it so he can't do that again. It also doesn't say much for his trustworthiness. He violated your privacy!

I can't say why he still has the watch, but if he didn't return it and is holding onto it, I feel there's no reason he wouldn't want to give it to Chloe to make her happy. Yes, I think he still thinks highly of you; what you did was very thoughtful and there's no reason he shouldn't think highly of you.

Because of the way you feel (and you've done nothing wrong, to be 'punished' like this by him), I feel it's worth it to make the trip (when you can) to speak to him in person if he won't speak to you on the phone or via text, you either have to go there and speak to him or write the letter I've been suggesting you write and see what his reaction is. You can put a choice for him on there--something like this: It's very important that we talk in person and as I mentioned, I'd like to come there to see you again so each of us can say what we need to say. If you agree and would not mind me paying you a visit (I would stay in a hotel again, of course), please let me know this. If I don't hear from you, I'm coming to straighten this whole thing out and certainly hope you won't turn me away at your door, after traveling so far, because of our long friendship and the fact that I would like to salvage it. I hope you feel the same way. I will let you know when I plan to arrive in MN.

You could say if he doesn't reply, you will assume your friendship is over and you will not come, but that may be too easy for him. As I've said in the past, you need closure, and this is not the way to end a 27 yr. old friendship.

If you need any additional information or clarification, simply 'Reply' back before rating and I will be happy to help with any follow up questions. Please do not rate negatively if you still need information. Just click "Reply" instead. Thank you!

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

WHEN I DID TEXT HIM I WAS COMING IN OCTOBER I TOLD HIM IF I DON'T HEAR FROM U I WILL JUST GO TO YOUR HOUSE AND TALK. HE NEVER TOLD ME NOT TO COME. BUT, I KNOW HIM HE IS SCARED. HE WOULDN'T KNOW HOW TO TELL ME NOT TO COME. LOUIE ONLY GOT TO READ A LITTLE BUT, IT HURT HIM. I FEEL BAD FOR THAT. I FEEL IF HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO COME HE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME. THE LETTER WOULD DO NO GOOD I FEEL. I SAID IT ALL IN A TEXT ABOUT COMING THERE AND COMING TO HIS HOUSE. IT'S MY INSECURITIES ABOUT HIM NOT TALKING TO ME. CHER, I WANT TO GO TOMORROW BUT, I CAN'T. I NOW KNOW AFTER ALL I READ U HAVE TO ASK THEM TO HOLD THEIR HANDS AND GET AFFECTIONATE. NOW, WHEN I GO BACK I HAVE TO ASK HIM FOR HIS HAND. I UNDERSTAND A.S SO MUCH MORE NOW. DO U AGREE HE HAS IT? IT'S MY INSECURITIES ABOUT PERRY. HOW DOES YOUR GIFT THINK THIS WILL END? I KNOW IF I TELL HIM THINGS R FINE AND TO FORGET ABOUT EVERYTHING WE CAN WORK THIS OUT. MY FRIEND SAYS, THAT IF HE COULDN'T PERFORM WITH A WOMEN HE WOULD NEVER SPEAK TO HER AGAIN. DO U THINK HE WILL DO THAT. DO U THINK HE STILL LOVES ME LIKE I DO HIM. HOPE SO.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again Steph.

If he's scared and doesn't know how to tell you not to come, you'll come.

You feel badly that what Louie read, hurt him? He had no right reading your personal stuff! Next time you leave the computer, set it with a password XXXXX something he'll never guess.

I do think he has a form of A.S. You have been friends for so long, just because he couldn't perform with you, doesn't mean he won't ever talk to you again. Maybe with a girl he doesn't know that well........but not you. You did everything right to help him feel it didn't matter and everything was fine. Yes, i think deep down he has never lost his love for you. I do think this will end well and you will become friends again.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, IF HE'S SCARED WOULD HE TELL ME TO COME OR NOT TO COME? OR WOULD HE JUST IGNORE ME LIKE HE'S DOING. BECAUSE, HE DOESN'T KNOW WHAT ELSE TO DO . U STILL THINK HE IS SCARED OF ME BECAUSE, OF HIS FEELINGS FOR ME. CHER, I ENJOY TALKING TO U ABOUT THIS BECAUSE I REALLY HAVE NO ONE ELSE TO TALK TO. MOST MY FRIENDS THINK I SHOULD STAY WITH LOUIE BECAUSE, HE HAS NO DISORDERS. I WISH I COULD GO TOMORROW TO PERRY BUT, I WANT MORE TIME TO PASS. I WANT HIM TO HAVE A CLEAR HEAD. CHER, DOES YOUR GIFT C ME THANKING U DOWN THE ROAD FOR ALL YOUR GREAT ADVICE. HOW DID U KNOW THE COP WOULD NOT COME BACK? I TRUST YOUR OPINION ABOUT PERRY BECAUSE U WERE SO RIGHT ABOUT THE COP. I KNOW IF I HANG OUT WITH PERRY AND CHLOE AGAIN I KNOW WE WILL BE CLOSE AGAIN. DO U STILL C ME TRAVELING BACK AND FORTH TO SPEND TIME WITH HIM. THANKS FOR TALKING TO ME ABOUT THIS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

You're most welcome. It's my pleasure to try to be of help to you; I know you're very conflicted about so many things and I'm sorry you find yourself in this position. I agree you need to wait and can't go to Perry right now. Thank you for trusting my opinion. I do think you will see Perry and Chloe again and I think you will repair your friendship, but it might take a while, so you might have to travel back and forth for a while to keep this friendship going.

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Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

Thank you very much for your positive rating; I truly appreciate it, and, I appreciate YOU!
Laughing

Best regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, DO U STILL C ME FIXING THIS BY THE END OF THE YEAR? IF I KEEP TRAVELING BACK AND FORTH TO MN IT WILL BE TO GET US BACK ON TRACK. I WILL GO SLOW AND SHOW HIM I LOVE HIM. I KNOW IF I GO BACK HE IS GOING TO WANT ME TO KEEP COMING BACK. I KNOW IF I DO THIS WE WILL BE TOGETHER. AGREE. DO U THINK I WILL CONTACT U AND SAY THANK U FOR THE ADVICE OR WILL I BE MAD AT U. PLEASE, TELL ME THIS WILL WORK OUT. IF HE CAN'T HANDLE ME THEN HOW DID HE DATE HIS WIFE? WOULD HE HAVE DONE THIS TO HER. JUST IGNORE HER BECAUSE, HE WOULDN'T HAVE KNOWN WHAT TO DO WITH HER. HE COULDN'T IGNORE HER SO Y ME? I KNOW HE DIDN'T LOVE HER. BUT, Y IGNORE ME. THAT'S Y I FEEL I REALLY DID SOMETHING WRONG. BUT, ALL I DID WAS BE GOOD TO HIM AND CHLOE. SO Y DID HE NOT IGNORE HIS X WHEN THEY DATED? GRANTED HE GOT HER PREGNANT RIGHT AWAY LIKE HE WANTED TO. BUT, I STILL DON'T UNDERSTAND Y ME. DO U HAVE ANY IDEA Y TREAT ME SO DIFFERENT. HE HAD TO GET CLOSE TO HIS X. U DIDN'T AGREE WITH MY AUNT AND WAIT A YEAR TO CONTACT HIM CAN I ASK Y? IT WOULD BE HARD BUT, I COULD DO IT. DO U THINK HE WOULD JUST FEEL REJECTED I WAITED OR RELIEVED.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Stephanie.

I'm here. I'm writing your answer.

Regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

O.K.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, R U THERE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

The end of the year is getting closer and closer than the first time we discussed this and I'm not sure if it will fixed by the end of the year, because you do have to take things so slowly.

Well, I sure hope you won't be mad at me and everything works out. You can't compare how he treats you and how he treated his wife; completely different situation. And, I've mentioned to you before that they will always have contact due to Chloe. That's how it is when you're divorced and you have kids. I told you that re: Louie and your kids, remember.

No, I didn't agree with your aunt because out of sight/out of mind and a year is much too long to go without seeing you. I think all would be lost if you waited that long. At first, he might feel relieved, because this is stressing him, but later, he would feel rejected. I would not wait.

Sorry this took so long, I'm really tired! : )

Have a great night and I'll speak to you tomorrow.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

GOOD NIGHT. I AGREE WAITING WOULD MAKE HIM FEEL REJECTED. I WILL GO IN THE NEXT MONTH OR SO. I JUST THOUGHT THAT WHEN HE WAS DATING HIS WIFE IF HE ACTED LIKE THIS? IGNORE HER BEFORE THEY FOUND OUT SHE WAS PREGNANT. I'M GOING BY THE END OF THE YEAR. I WILL NOT LEAVE UNTIL THIS IS RESOLVED. I WILL MAKE MY PLANS TO COME BACK WHEN I'M THERE DO U STILL NOT C US TALKING BY THE NEW YEAR? I'M GOING TO GO BACK SOON. DON'T U C US TALKING WHEN I GO BACK? I WENT ON-LINE TO LOOK AT CASINO JOBS IN MN. THERE NOT HIRING DEALERS RIGHT NOW IT SAID. BUT, THEY WERE HIRING IN ALL OTHER DEPARTMENTS. SO, I HAVE BEEN THINKING OF APPLYING FOR ANOTHER DEPT AND THEN I COULD TRANSFER TO DEALING. IT'S AN OPTION IF I MOVE BACK. WHAT DO U THINK? DO U C ME WORKING IN MN? I WAS MAKING A JOKE ABOUT ALL OF THIS WORKING OUT. DO U C ME REPLYING TO U THAT I'M HAPPY IT ALL WORKED OUT. THAT'S WHAT I MEANT. I KNOW WE TALK A LOT AND I ENJOY THIS. I JUST WANT TO KNOW THAT U R CONFIDENT WITH THE ADVICE YOUR GIVING ME SO THAT ONE DAY SOON I CAN SHARE MY HAPPINESS WITH U. DO U C ME DOING THAT? TELLING U HOW HAPPY I AM.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THIS IS MY SECOND REPLY. I KNOW YOUR NOT ON YET. I WAS READING ABOUT A.S. IT SAID, THEY HAVE LOW SELF-ESTEEMS SO THEY DON'T LIKE CHANGE IN THEIR ROUTINE. I GET THAT. BUT, ONE THING SAID, THAT IF THEY JUST FEEL LIKE YOUR TOO STRESSFUL THEY WILL JUST CUT U OUT OF THEIR LIVES. MAYBE WHEN I WAS THERE IT WAS JUST TO STRESSFUL AND THAT'S Y HE ISN'T TALKING TO ME? IT DID SAY THAT THE NON A.S. HAS TO SHOW THEM THEY DON'T HAVE TO CHANGE THEIR ROUTINE. ALSO, HOW THEY HAVE TO PUT FORTH THE EFFORT TO GET THEM PAST THEIR FEAR. SO DO U THINK HE JUST CUT ME OUT OF HIS LIFE? OR DO U THINK HE IS JUST SO SCARED HOW THIS COULD EVEN WORK HE AVOIDS ME. I DO UNDERSTAND A LOT MORE NOW. WITH HIS LOW SELF-ESTEEM I WOULD HAVE TO GO THERE AND SHOW HIM I'M WILLING TO DO ALL OF THIS FOR HIM. BECAUSE, I KNOW WITH HIS SELF-ESTEEM HE WOULD THINK I WOULDN'T DO IT FOR HIM. I ALSO READ THEY CAN'T HANDLE STRESS. I KNOW THAT! DO U THINK HE WOULD JUST CUT ME OUT OF HIS LIFE WHEN I GO UP THERE TO MAKE THINGS RIGHT.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph,

I just signed online. Please allow me a few minutes to read your replies and then answer.

Thanks,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

GREAT.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi agan, Steph.

I didn't say you wouldn't see him/talk to him before the end of the year; I said I wasn't sure if you would be happy with him (in other words living there or having things cleared up completely) before the end of the year. You need time to re-establish your relationship/friendship. It IS curious to know how he got on with his wife, but that is something we will never know. From what you related that he said, it seems that he didn't even like her that much, no less love her, but he wanted a child badly. That's not really the best reason to get married. I guess he made up his mind, wanted something, went after it and now we have the result.

You caused him stress due to the bedroom thing (well, you didn't know you were causing him stress and it's certainly not your fault!) I let you know about the low self-esteem issue a while ago and it was obvious to you that he suffered from low self-esteem for a long time, so you know how to handle that. When you go up there, I don't think he will cut you out of his life forever. You've already shown him a lot of what you can do to help him cope with his deficits due to his disorders, but yes, he finds it hard to change and you would have to show him you can help him without him having to change too much or at all. I'm sure, after a while, he will feel more comfortable with you, but it wil take a long while, due to his disorders.

Finding out about dealing and other casino jobs in MN was a great idea. However, right now, it's a little premature, so getting the information in advance was great, but you don't know if you'll end up living there and/or needing a job there, so you can keep the information you found out in mind for the future.

Right now, it's important for you to speak with him in person and let him know your feelings and that you'll be there for him, so let's concentrate on that.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, HOW R U TODAY? I WENT TO MY DOCTOR TODAY. JUST FOR A CHECK-UP NOTHING BIG. HE KNOWS MY WHOLE STORY. THE DIVORCE, LAWSUIT EVERYTHING. HE HAS REALLY HELPED ME. I TOLD HIM ABOUT PERRY. THE WHOLE STORY. HE TOLD ME TO GO BACK SOONER IF I COULD. HE WASN'T SO SURE ABOUT BEING EMBARESSED ANYMORE OF THE SEX THING. HE SAID, HIS LAST FEELING OF ME WAS ME LEAVING. HE SAID, THAT BRINGS SADNESS TO HIM. HE SAID, GO BECAUSE, IF HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO GO HE WOULD HAVE TOLD ME. HE SAID, HE CAN'T THINK THAT FAR AHEAD SO IT'S HARD ON HIM. I KNOW HE CAN'T THINK PAST 2 DAYS. MY DOCTOR THINKS THAT WHEN I GO BACK HE WILL WANT ME TO STAY AND LIVE WITH HIM. HE SAID, FOR THEM IT'S OUT OF SIGHT OUT OF MIND SO, HE NEEDS TO C ME. MY DOCTOR SAID, I NEED TO MAKE THE DECISION I'M 100% IN OR OUT. HE SAID PEOPLE WITH A.S. DON'T HANDLE LONG DISTANT RELATIONSHIPS. WE KNOW I WOULD MOVE. BUT, HE DOESN'T. PLUS, WITH HIS LOW SELF-ESTEEM HE WOULD THINK I WOULDN'T I'M SURE. I KNOW U AND MY DOCTOR AGREE ON ALMOST EVERYTHING. I LIKE THAT. HE SAID, THAT WHEN HE SEES ME AGAIN HE WILL JUST BE HAPPY TO C ME. SO WHATEVER IS HIS PROBLEM HE WILL FORGET. I TOLD HIM ABOUT JOHN. HE SAID, THAT HE WAS PROBABLY JEALOUS. THAT HE IS USING THAT AS A REASON NOT TO TALK TO ME TO HELP HIM COPE THAT I'M GONE. HE SAID, I'M SURE U GOT CLOSE AND HAD FUN. NOW, HE HATES IT YOUR GONE. THE DOCTOR SAID, HE WILL NOT WANT ME TO LEAVE NEXT TIME BECAUSE, HE WON'T WANT TO MISS ME LIKE HE IS. WHAT DO U THINK?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Stephanie.

I'm fine today, thanks!

Yes, everything the dr. told you are the same things I've told you from the beginning. After you resolve everything, he won't want you to leave, but you have a husband, family and lawsuit to take care of, so you know you can't stay there at this time. What will you do? The very first thing I shared with you about Alzheimers is out of sight/out of mind, so he was very sad and depressed after you left last time. How will you handle it this time? What will you tell him? Once you leave again, he may become upset again. But this is part of his disorder.

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Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

GOOD QUESTIONS, I'M GLAD U BOTH AGREE. THAT MAKES ME FEEL GOOD. THE ANSWER TO QUESTION #1) I'M GETTING MY DIVORCE FINALIZED SO THAT WILL BE DONE. #2) MY LAWSUIT JUST SITS THERE. I WOULD ONLY HAVE TO COME BACK FOR MEDIATION. I HAVE A PLACE HERE I WOULD JUST FLY BACK WHEN I NEED TO. #3) I WILL HAVE TO MAKE THE COMITTMENT TO BE WITH HIM. SO I WILL TRAVEL BACK AND FORTH AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. I WILL LET SAMUEL CHOOSE WHERE HE WANTS TO LIVE. IF HE STAYS WITH HIS DAD I WILL BE COMING TO FLORIDA AT LEAST ONCE A MONTH. WHEN I LEAVE AGAIN IT WILL BE TO MOVE THERE. THEN, I WON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS PROBLEM. THAT'S Y I NEED MY 401K MONEY FIRST SO WHEN I GO BACK I CAN AFFORD TO MOVE. HE HAS ASPBERGERS NOT ALZHEIMERS. WAS THAT JUST A TYPO. DO U THINK I HAVE A GOOD PLAN? WILL THAT MAKE HIM HAPPY? HE MAY HAVE FORGOT ABOUT ME BEFORE I GET THERE. DO U THINK HE WOULD AT LEAST TELL ME NOT TO COME IF HE DIDN'T WANT ME TO.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph.

Sorry, yes, I did make a typo and of course meant Aspbergers not Alzheimers.

I think you have everything figured out and it sounds like a good plan. He didn't forget about you. When you tell him your grand plan, his initial response might be, oh no, you can't leave your family, or something, but when you want something, you go after it, so I know you'll explain everything to him and tell him that you want to be with him and live there. If he told you not to come, would you listen? I don't think so! : ) You'll go and you'll see him.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THAT'S SO FUNNY. I WOULD GO EVEN IF HE SAID, NOT TO. HOW DO U KNOW ME SO WELL? WHAT ABOUT GOING SLOW REMEMBER TRAVELING BACK AND FORTH. BUT, I'M NOT GOING THRU THIS AGAIN. I WILL TELL HIM THAT. DO U C HIM HAPPY IF I TELL HIM I'M JUST GOING TO MOVE IN WITH HIM? DOES YOUR GIFT C THAT? I'M GLAD U LIKED MY PLAN. I DO GO AFTER WHAT I WANT. I JUST NEED TO KNOW THIS IS WHAT HE WANTS TO. R U AND MY DOCTOR SURE HE IS JUST TRYING TO SAVE HIMSELF SOME HEARTACHE SO HE IGNORES ME. Y CAN'T HE JUST TALK ON THE PHONE TO ME? IT WOULD BE EASIER?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U STILL WORKING?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER R U STILL THERE. R U EATING DINNER?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER U GOT RATED AGAIN EXCELLENT AS ALWAYS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi again, Steph.

Yes, I'm still working. Thanks for your patience. It's been a busy afternoon! : ) Also, thanks very much for your excellent rating; it is greatly appreciated!

I know you would go even if he said not to. Yes, I know you very well; I have the capacity to get to know people very well quite easily and that's why I've been able to advise you. No, you will not go through this again. You have to ask him what he wants or tell him what he wants. He wants your guidance and he wants you to take over. He can't make decisions like we can, due to his disorders. Yes, I've mentioned that by not being in touch with you and not speaking with you it's like he forgot you were there and it's sparing him the heartache of you going and coming and the old 'out of sight/out of mind' part of his autism-related disorder.

You can try once again, to talk to him on the phone (yes, it would be easier for you) and let him know your feelings and your plans, IF he'll speak to you. Maybe enough time has passed.......otherwise, there's no other choice but to speak to him in person, as we've discussed.

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

U R SO FUNNY. FOR ME TO TELL HIM WHAT HE WANTS. YOUR RIGHT THOUGH I'M THE LEADER. SINCE PEOPLE WITH THIS DISORDER CAN SEEM TO BE HOT OR COLD R U SURE HE STILL CARES A LOT ABOUT ME? I WAS GOING TO TELL U ABOUT HIS WIFE. THIS IS WHAT HAPPENED. HE LEFT HIS 14 YEAR RELATIONSHIP AND WENT AND FOUND HIS WIFE FROM HIS PAST. HE TOLD HER HE WANTED A KID. SO IN THE FIRST MONTH SHE GOT PREGNANT. WITHIN THE FIRST 3 MONTHS IT WENT SOUTH. BUT, HE BOUGHT HER THE HOUSE AND STAYED WITH HER. THEN 2 YEARS AGO SHE ASKED HIM TO GET MARRIED. HE SAID, Y ALL WE DO IS FIGHT. SHE WENT TO HIS PARENTS AND TOLD THEM TO GET HIM TO MARRY HER. HE DID WHAT HE THOUGHT WAS THE RIGHT THING. BUT, HE KNEW IT WOULDN'T LAST. Y DO U THINK HE NEVER TOLD ME HE WAS MARRIED? WHEN HE GOT MARRIED I WAS STILL MARRIED. SO Y NOT TELL ME. WE DIDN'T KNOW MY MARRIAGE WAS GOING TO END. THEN HE STILL KEPT TELLING ME HE WASN'T MARRIED AFTER MY MARRIAGE ENDED. Y DIDN'T HE INVITE ME TO HIS WEDDING? DO U THINK HE WASN'T GOING TO TELL ME HE GOT MARRIED IN CASE HE THOUGHT HE COULD BE WITH ME. Y DID HE NEVER TELL ME HE WAS MARRIED? DO U THINK HIS FEELINGS FOR ME HAVE GONE COLD FOR ME?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph,

Yes, people with this disorder can be easily led, that's why I said you should tell him what he wants. Just like his ex-wife told him she wanted to get married and not only married, but a big wedding, and his parents told him to marry her. They probably wanted what was most 'respectable'. Too bad he spent 20K on a wedding he didn't want and wouldn't last.

Yes, you would think that if he wanted a baby, he would have thought of you first, but you were married. The only reason I see for not telling you about the marriage and Chloe was because he was ashamed. He didn't marry for love. That's the same reason he couldn't invite you.

No, I don't think his feelings for you have gone cold. He just needs a 'reminder' that you're still there, waiting for him and wanting to be with him.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

YES, HE TOLD ME HE WAS ASHAMED. HE MARRIED OUT OF OBLIGATION BY HIS PARENTS. I CAN'T REMIND HIM I'M STILL HERE IF HE WONT TALK TO ME. I NEVER GOT THE WATCH BACK. DOES YOUR GIFT TELL U CHLOE IS WEARING IT. WHAT I WILL PROBABLY DO IS SEND HIM AND CHLOE A CARD THAT I'M COMING SOON. I KNOW I WILL HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL THIS DIVORCE IS DONE. DO U THINK HE WILL WAIT. I MIGHT NOT GET THERE FOR 30 MORE DAYS. BUT, I NEED THAT MONEY. DOES YOUR GIFT C ME LIVING THERE SOON?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
I think Chloe is either wearing the watch or he's saving for when she's a little older. She could damage that watch to bits, cause she's so young!

Sending the card is a good idea. I know you have to wait for the divorce to be final and also for that money, but why shouldn't he wait? Do you think he's finding girlfriends to go out with all the time? Was he doing that when you were there or did he every talk about it before your visit? I don't see him quickly finding a girlfriend who will be able to understand him like you do. I can see you living there, but can't say how soon. It also depends on his reaction to your card and your visit. You will have to convince him you are best for him and no one else understands him like you do, which is the truth.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THE GIRLFRIEND COMMENT WAS WHEN HE TOLD ME HE WASN'T FEELING IT WHEN I GOT BACK HOME. IT WAS AFTER THE CRUISE COMMENT THEN. I KNEW THAT STRESSED HIM OUT. I SAID, LETS GO ON A CRUISE WITH THE KIDS. HE SAID, I'M NOT FEELING IT. WHEN U COME BACK I WILL HAVE A GIRLFRIEND. THAT IS THE ONLY TIME HE SAID IT. I SENT THEM BOTH REALLY NICE CARDS. I EVEN TOLD CHLOE I WOULD BE BACK SOON. DO U THINK HE READ THE CARDS. ALSO, I TOLD U HE IS ALWAYS PLAYING WITH HIS PHONE. I SAID, WHO R U TEXTING HE SAID, MY GIRLFRIENDS. I SAID, YEA RIGHT. THEN HE SAID, I LOOK AT HIS PHONE AT ANYTIME HE DIDN'T CARE. NEITHER DID I. I KNEW HE WASN'T TALKING TO ANY GIRLS. SO THAT IS HOW THE GIRLFRIEND COMMENT CAME ABOUT. I'M GLAD U C ME LIVING THERE. HOW SURE R U? DO U FEEL AS STRONG ABOUT ME LIVING THERE AS U DID THAT U KNEW THE COP WAS NEVER COMING BACK. U CALLED THAT RIGHT.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U STILL WORKING.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U EATING DINNER?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
I'm here now, Steph.

No, Iknew he wasn't talking to any girlfriends on the phone; he was trying to be funny. He knew you knew there were no girlfriends.....I can't say I'm as sure as I was about you living there as I was re: the cop, but I have a pretty storng feeling you will end up living there----I keep saying, 'once you clear all this up with him' and he understands why you're doing what you're doing and you want to be with him. You will need to help him understand what's best for him and how you are the only one who understands him and knows what's best for him. He won't believe you but you are very convincing.

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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

Y WON'T HE BELIEVE ME THAT I'M THE BEST THING FOR HIM? IF I HAVE TO CONVINCE HIM OF ME R U SURE HE LOVES ME. OR IS HE JUST NOT SURE OF ANYONE BECAUSE, OF HIS INSECURITIES. U SAY HE CAN WAIT FOR ME TO FINISH MY DIVORCE. CAN HE WAIT WITH HIS DISORDER? WON'T HE WONDER Y I'M NOT COMING SOONER. WHEN I SEND THE CARD I WILL TELL THEM I SIGNED UP FOR A CLASS AND I HAVE TO FINISH IT BEFORE I COME. THEN, HE WILL KNOW Y I CAN'T LEAVE RIGHT AWAY. WHAT DO U THINK? I DON'T WANT TO CONVINCE HIM. I JUST WANT HIM TO WANT ME AS MUCH AS I WANT HIM. THANKS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
You will have to convince him you are the best one for him due to his disorders and insecurities. That's a good idea to tell him you must attend your class and that's why you can't come earlier. I'm sure he'll understand that you can't come until the divorce is final because you're coming down the homestretch with it; but, if you feel you'd rather tell him the course is keeping you from traveling until then, that's fine. He might understand it better. Wanting you as much as you want him is going to take some time to sink in to his brain, and with you being around all the time. You're not 'tricking' him. You know he already wants you; he's just scared.

I think it's time to open a new question, after you Rate this one, so we don't run into the problem from last time.. This thread is getting too long and as you were reminded in the past, the new question should be on a 'different' subject, so if you could open a new question to my attention and request a new Tarot reading, etc., that would be a good idea at this time. However, please reconsider the amount of the new question and if you could make it higher, as you did at first, I'd appreciate it. Thanks so much!

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thanks!

Warmest regards,
Cher
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Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I NEED A NEW READING.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Steph, thanks for your excellent rating; it is truly appreciated!

You need to open a 'new, separate' question. You posted to this same thread.
Go here: http://www.justanswer.com/general/expert-cher/
Type your question in the white box under my picture, where it says 'Ask a Question'. Also, can you change the title of the question so it's not exactly the same as this one. I can do a new tarot and/or psychic reading for you.

Thanks,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I CAN'T START A NEW THREAD. I HAVE TO CONTINUE ON THIS ONE. WHAT WAS MY READING?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

I don't know what's happening. You did start a new question and I sent your reading there, now it's locked. I don't know why.

I sent you the reading of the first card I drew for you; did you get it? I hope so! If not, I can re-do it. These are the two other cards I drew:

The second card I drew for you is the Two of Pentacles. This represents the effort needed to successfully maintain a balance in your life regarding love, family, work and finances. You need to take care that you balance everything to be sure all will progress in a positive way. Everything needs to flow harmoniously and signs are good that this can be achieved by you.

The third card I drew is The Ace of Pentacles. This represents prosperity and material gains. It can signify documents that hold financial importance (the 401K? the divorce papers?). It can sometimes signify an important letter being received regarding good fortune/money coming to you.

I feel this is a very positive reading and reflects what is already going on in your life. It's one of the most positive readings I've ever seen in a long time!

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

IT WOULDN'T LET ME START A NEW THREAD. SO I HAD TO CHANGE MY PAYMENT TO PAY PAL. WHAT WAS THE FIRST CARD U DREW? Y WAS THIS SUCH A POSITIVE READING? I HAVE TO TELL PERRY I'M IN THAT CLASS BECAUSE HE THINKS I'M DIVORCED ALREADY REMEMBER. I NEVER TOLD HIM I DIDN'T GO THRU WITH IT 2 YEARS AGO. DOES IT C ME MOVING UP THERE TO MN? IS IT NORMAL FOR HIS DISORDER FOR HIM TO BE SCARED TO BE WITH ME. DO U THINK HE STILL THINKS ABOUT BEING WITH ME BUT, DOESN'T KNOW HOW. HE TOLD ME HE SAT AROUND FOR MONTHS THINKING ABOUT ME BEFORE HE TOLD ME HOW HE FELT. IS IT JUST TO HARD TO BE MY FRIEND? IF SO Y?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

I'm here. I'm trying to remember the first card I pulled for you. Did you get an email with my first answer on that new thread? That's where the reading of the first card is; you should have received it when I sent it before it was locked. Can you check? Thanks.

Then, I'll answer your new post.

Thanks,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

NO E-MAIL. I DON'T KNOW WHAT I GOT FOR THE 1ST CARD.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

You don't receive an email every time I reply to you? I get one when you reply to me.

Ok, I finally remembered what it was.

The first card I drew for you was the Six of Cups. This card indicates that someone you knew is coming back from the past This can refer to an old friend or the revival of a former friendship or romantic relationship. This would be something that affects you emotionally and something/someone you're passionate about. This card also indicates 'nostalgia'.

This is so perfect, because it's obviously pointing to you and Perry. It's amazing that this card came up!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

Y IS THIS ONE OF YOUR MOST POSITIVE READINGS? IF PERRY SAT AROUND FOR MONTHS THINKING ABOUT ME BEFORE HE TOLD ME HOW HE FELT Y CAN'T HE BE MY FRIEND NOW? I ONLY ASK FOR HIS FRIENDSHIP WHEN I TRY TO GET IN TOUCH WITH HIM. R U HAPPY WITH THESE CARDS? DO U C ME WITH PERRY IN THESE CARDS. IS IT NORMAL FOR HIM TO BE SCARED OF ME? I HAVE TO TELL HIM I'M IN THE CLASS. HE THINKS I'M DIVORCED. U SAID, HE CAN WAIT FOR ME. BUT, IF HE WAITS FOR ME WILL HE FORGET HIS FEELINGS FOR ME? DO THE CARDS SHOW ME WITH HIM AND BEING HAPPY.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

I feel this is one of my positive readings because it's so related to what you're going through now, with Perry. No, it's not normal for him to be scared of you, but we're talking about someone who has disorders that cause him to not act or react like other people, so you always have to keep that in mind.

No, he won't forget his feelings for you. The cards indicate that what you're going through now is moving toward being with him and being happy.

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

DO U HAVE FAITH IN YOUR READING? NOW U GAVE ME A READING A WEEK AGO. DO THESE READINGS GO TOGETHER. OR DOES THIS ONE MEAN MORE THAN THE OTHER ONE. I DIDN'T MEAN SCARED OF ME. I MEANT IS THAT Y HE ISN'T TALKING TO ME NOW. BECAUSE, OF HIS FEELINGS FOR ME? IF U WERE ME WOULD U BELIEVE THE READINGS. DO MOST READINGS COME TRUE THAT U DO FOR PEOPLE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Dear Steph,

I always have faith in my readings. No one reading means more than another one. They may pick up on different aspects in your life or different situations; sometimes they agree with each other and sometimes they show opposites. It's very arbitrary, as the cards are pulled from a shuffled deck.

Yes, I know he's not scared of you, he is scared of his feelings for you. Of the people who write back to tell me that the reading was 'right on', yes, they came true for those people. It's a very individual thing, as I'm sure you understand.

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

DO THESE READINGS ALL GO TOGETHER? I MEAN DID ALL THE CARDS HAVE A RELATIVE MEANING TO MY LIFE? U KNOW WHEN I FIRST CAME BACK HE DID TEXT ME. JUST A COUPLE OF TIMES. HE HAD PICTURES ON HIS PHONE OF THINGS WE DID IN MN. MY FRIEND TAMMY WANTED TO C THEM. SO HE DID TEXT THEM TO ME. HE KNEW SHE WAS IN THE HOSPITAL AND I WANTED TO SHOW HER STUFF TO CHEER HER UP. THEN HE IGNORED ME. SO I SPOKE TO HIS FRIEND PAUL. I SAID, WHAT IS UP WITH HIM? WELL, PERRY GOT MAD OF COURSE. THAT'S WHEN HE CALLED ME AND SAID HE WASN'T FEELING IT. AFTER THE CRUISE THING THAT I TOLD HIM WE SHOULD DO. PAUL TOLD ME TO CALL HIM SO I DID. SO WHEN JOHN GOT IN TOUCH WITH ME THAT'S Y I NEEDED PERRY'S PERMISSION TO TALK TO HIM. SO, IF HE DID TEXT A COUPLE OF TIMES THEN STARTED TO IGNORE ME AFTER I WAS ALREADY BACK HOME. DO U THINK HE FORGOT ABOUT MISSING ME AND IS JUST MAD AT ME ABOUT HIS FRIEND? DO U THINK NO MATTER WHAT HE WOULD HAVE ACTED LIKE THIS?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph.

Something weird--Did you ask to be refunded on one of the rated answers I sent to you last night, because that's what the site is telling me. Did you receive any kind of notification?

All the readings go together like a puzzle; yes, they all have a relative meaning to your life. I had no idea he texted you when you first came back. I thought he just never communicated once you returned home. I'm so sorry Tammy was in the hospital; is she okay, now? I thought John was the only friend you spoke to. I don't remember you mentioning Paul. I suggested that you ask one of his close friends how he's doing and what he's doing, but if you're not allowed to talk to his friends (after the John thing), how could you find out? So, you're allowed to talk to Paul? No, he didn't forget about missing you. Yes, I think no matter what, he would have acted like this, but the John thing may have set him off and gave him an excuse to be mad at you at the time because he was feeling frustrated with himself in this situation.


Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THERE WAS A MISTAKE ON MY CREDIT CARD. I TOLD THEM TO PUT THE NEW RATING ON MY PAY PAL. I WILL MAKE SURE THIS IS FIXED. U DESERVE YOUR MONEY. TAMMY IS FINE THANKS. THE FIRST COUPLE OF DAYS HE IGNORED ME. THEN, HE DID SEND THE PICTURES 3 DAYS AFTER I RETURNED. I FORGOT THIS PART TO TELL U. IT MAYBE IMPORTANT. WHEN I WAS THERE HE TOLD ME WHEN HE PAID OFF HIS DEBT HE WANTED TO BUY A CONDO IN DOWNTOWN MPLS. FOR A RENTAL PROPERTY. THE NIGHT HE SENT THE PICTURES TAMMY HAD JUST MOVED. WE MET HER NEIGHBORS. THEY HAD THEIR CONDO FOR SALE DIRT CHEAP. SO I TOLD PERRY IN A TEXT THAT HE SHOULD BUY ONE IN NAPLES. I EVEN SAID, WHEN I GET MY MONEY WE CAN GO HALVES ON IT. I SAID, WE WOULD HAVE A CONTRACT BETWEEN US. IT WOULD BE ALL BUSINESS. HE DIDN'T RESPOND. I KNEW HE WOULDN'T TOO MUCH STRESS. THEN MORE DAYS WENT BY AND WE DIDN'T TALK. WHEN I WAS THERE IN MN. PAUL TOLD ME TO CALL HIM IF PERRY FORGETS HOW GREAT I AM. HE WILL REMIND HIM. SO I CALLED PAUL. HE SAID, HE DIDN'T TALK TO PERRY SINCE I LEFT. PAUL SAID, REMEMBER HIS FAMILY HAS NO EMPATHY. HE TOLD ME THE STORY OF HOW PERRY'S FAMILY WAS UP NORTH AT THEIR CABIN. HIS SISTER BROKE HER ARM. THEY ALL DIDN'T THINK SHE WAS REALLY HURT. WHEN SHE GOT HOME THEY FOUND OUT IT WAS BROKEN. WHEN HE TOLD ME THAT I KNEW HE HAD A DISORDER. PERRY, FOUND OUT WE TALKED AND HE GOT MAD. HE CALLED ME AND I SAID, PAUL WANTED ME TO TALK TO HIM. I WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. PAUL IS ALSO HAPPILY MARRIED. HIS WIFE BABYSITS CHLOE. HE WAS REALLY NICE TO ME. WITH A CHUCKLE SAYING NO, NOT FEELING IT. HE SAID, IT AFTER I MADE THE CRUISE COMMENT. THEN, HE SAID, WE'LL TALK EVERY COUPLE OF WEEKS. KEEP IT LIGHT. THEN, THAT'S WHEN I SAID, THAT'S NOT A REAL FRIENDSHIP COMMENT. THEN A WEEK LATER THAT'S WHEN JOHN FACEBOOKED ME. THAT'S Y I WAS TRYING TO MAKE SURE IT WAS O.K. WITH PERRY TO TALK TO HIM. SO WHEN HE FINALLY GOT BACK TO ME ABOUT JOHN I WOULDN'T TALK TO HIM BECAUSE, OF HOW MAD HE GOT ABOUT PAUL. SO HE IGNORED ME THE FIRST 3 DAYS. THEN, HE SENT THE PICTURES. THEN, HE IGNORED ME AGAIN. SO, I SPOKE TO PAUL. THAT MAD PERRY MAD. WE TALKED WE HAD A FRIENDLY CONVERSATION. THAT'S WHEN THE CRUISE CAME UP. THE I'M NOT FEELING IT COMMENT. THEN, THE THAT'S NOT A FRIENDSHIP COMMENT. THEN IGNORE ME AGAIN UNTIL JOHN WANTS TO TALK TO ME. THEN, HE GOT MAD HE TRIED TO TALK TO ME. WE TEXTED A COUPLE OF TIMES ABOUT THAT. BUT, THAT WAS A FEW WEEKS AGO. SO NOW U KNOW EVERYTHING AS IT HAPPENED. DO U THINK HE WAS JEALOUS HIS FRIENDS WANTED TO TALK TO ME? NOW, DO U STILL BELIEVE HE MISSES ME? OR IS HE JUST MAD AT ME? WHAT DO U THINK NOW?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U STILL UP?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I'M TRYING TO RATE U IT WON'T LET ME. I HAVE TO CALL BILLING. Y IS THIS DO U THINK?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi Steph,

Yes, I'm here, but I'm fading fast, so this is going to have to be our last conversation of the night.

Thank you for explaining and promising to take care of replacing the refund that was taken out of my account; I appreciate it!

I don't know why you can't rate me. I also don't know why they closed the new question you opened. I think someone told you that you can't keep asking a question on the same subject in one thread and you have to open a new question, so I'm just as confused as you are. Yes, speak to billing and let me know what they tell you. Experts don't know much about the 'business end' of things; we just answer questions. The new question you opened had the same exact title as this question, so maybe that's why they closed it. You have to use a different title and ask about a new subject.

Thanks for filling me in on the details of the Paul/John business and the timeline, which I was not aware of, before. I do think it bothered him that his friends wanted to talk to you because he considers you 'his' and he was jealous, even though everyone knew it was just 'friendly' talk, it still bothered him and I believe it bothered him even more, due to the A.S. I believe it's a combination of both; he misses you and he's upset with his friends and you, for speaking to each other. However, I think this is something he can get over and he might even be over it already. I don't think he can stay mad at you over that.

Ok, I'm going to have to say goodnight now and wish you sweet dreams, whenever you turn it.............

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
I added something to my answer after you read it, so please go back and read it again.
Thanks!
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

GOOD NIGHT. I'M GLAD U THINK HE THINKS I'M HIS. WHEN I WAS THERE PAUL TOLD ME THEY MADE JOKES ABOUT HOW LONG IT WOULD TAKE HIM TO BUY ME A HOUSE. WHEN WE WERE ALONE HE MADE THE JOKE YEAH, I BUY HOUSES. I SAID, I DON'T WANT ONE. IN FACT I WOULD SELL YOURS AND DOWNSIZE. I HAD 2 BIG HOUSES. WITH 2 BIG MORTGAGES. I DON'T WANT THAT AGAIN. WELL, I GUESS HIS FRIENDS PROBABLY WONDER WHAT HAPPENED TO ME. WHEN I WAS THERE WE WENT TO HIS FRIENDS RECORD/COLLECTOR STORE. I BOUGHT HIM A GODFATHER COLLECTOR CAR. WHEN I WAS PAYING FOR IT HIS FRIEND SAID, SHE'S REELING U IN PERRY. AT HIS HOUSE HE HAS THIS WHOLE WALL BUILT-IN. HE CALLS IT HIS WALL OF FAME. IT'S AMAZING! HE HAS EVERY PERSONS AUTOGRAPHS AND COLLECTOR MEMORABLIA. I LOVED IT. HIS X MADE HIM TAKE JUST ABOUT EVERYTHING DOWN AND PUT IT IN A SAFE. SO I BOUGHT THE CAR FOR HIS WALL. HE PUTS PICTURES ON HIS FACEBOOK PAGE SOMETIME OF THINGS ON HIS WALL. SO, I SAID PUT THIS CAR ON THERE AND SEND ME A PICTURE OF IT. WELL, HE NEVER DID. I KNOW HE CAN'T RETURN IT OR EXCHANGE IT. BECAUSE, HIS FRIEND DOESN'T ALLOW THAT AT HIS STORE. Y DO U THINK HE NEVER SENT ME A PICTURE? THE WALL IS IN HIS LIVING ROOM. SO, HE WOULD C IT EVERYDAY. DO U THINK HE LOOKS AT IT AND THINKS OF ME? BUT, Y NO PICTURE. I LOVE HIS WALL. DO U C Y I WOULD BE SO GOOD TO HIM. I LIKE HIS INTERESTS. I ENCOURAGE IT. I ADORE CHLOE. CAN HE NOT C THAT I WOULD BE GOOD TO THEM?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, R U THERE? I TALKED TO BILLING. BUT, I HAVE TO TALK TO THE MAIN BILLING AND THERE NOT OPEN UNTIL TOMORROW. THEY R ONLY OPEN MONDAY- FRIDAY. I WILL TAKE CARE OF IT TOMORROW. I PROMISE. THANKS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

Thank you for your update and letting me know you'll take care of it tomorrow, I appreciate it.

Re: his 'wall', it sounds fantastic! It was very nice of you to buy him the collectible car. He probably didn't send you a picture because so much happened in between, leading you to the current situation today. He knows you would be good to them, but right now, he can't see that far in advance.

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

YES, HIS WALL IS AWESOME. I CAN'T BELIEVE HIS X MADE HIM PUT THE STUFF AWAY. HER SON HAD HIS FRIENDS OVER. PERRY HAD SOME AUTOGRAPHED WHISKEY BOTTLES ON HIS WALL. IT WAS AUTOGRAPHED BY DAN AKROYD. WELL, THE STEPSON AND HIS FRIENDS OPENED THEM UP DRANK THE WHISKEY AND BROKE THE BOTTLES. HOW TERRIBLE. HIS X DIDN'T SIDE WITH PERRY. SHE THOUGHT IT WAS FINE. TALK ABOUT A TRASHY HORRIBLE PERSON. I THINK HE WAS SO HAPPY I LOVED IT. NOW U KNOW Y HE DOES NOT HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH HIS X STEPSON. CHER, I WAS THINKING. RIGHT NOW PERRY HAS A LOT OF RESPECT FOR ME. DO U AGREE? WELL WHAT IF I GET UP THERE AND I GOT SICK OR SOMETHING AND HE LOSES RESPECT FOR ME. I COULDN'T HANDLE LOSING HIS RESPECT. THAT SCARES ME. DO U THINK HE HAS ALREADY LOST HIS RESPECT FOR ME? HOW COME HE COULD WAIT 7 WEEKS FOR ME TO COME THERE WHEN HE ASKED ME. BUT, U SAY HE CAN'T C THAT FAR IN THE FUTURE NOW. Y IS THAT?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph.

What his ex's son and his friends did was horrible! She saw nothing wrong with it? She's not a very intelligent person, nor is she a good mother, is she? Terrible!

Yes, I agree he has a lot of respect for you; he always has had respect for you. Why would you possibly getting sick decrease his respect for you? I'm saying he couldn't see that far in advance re: you living there, because of everything that's happened since you made that plan to return in 7 weeks. A lot has happened since then, hasn't it? And this has affected the situation between you. That's why you're going to have to go there to straighten everything out.

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

YEA, THEY SOUND LIKE TERRIBLE PEOPLE. PERRY, NEVER TOLD ME THAT STORY. HIS FRIEND PAUL TOLD ME. I KNOW PERRY WOULD BE TOO EMBARRESSED TO TELL ME. PERRY, REALLY HAD A BABY WITH WHITE TRASH. I SUFFER FROM PANIC ATTACKS. I HAVEN'T HAD ONE IN YEARS. BUT, I WOULD FEEL LIKE A LOSER IF PERRY SAW ME HAVE ONE. HE KNOWS I TAKE MEDICINE FOR THEM. BUT, I STILL WOULD NOT WANT HIM TO C ME HAVE ONE. I THINK WITH THE STRESS OF MOVING BACK THERE AND HIS X I MIGHT HAVE ONE. BUT, I CAN'T LET THAT STOP ME FROM LIVING MY LIFE. WHAT I WAS SAYING IS HE WAITED 7 WEEKS FOR ME TO COME THERE. HE SAW THAT. Y CAN'T HE C ME COMING BACK NOW. HE DOESN'T KNOW I WILL MOVE THERE. SO Y COULD HE C ME COMING THEN. BUT, NOT NOW. I KNOW THAT BEFORE I CAME THERE HIS COMMUNICATION WITH ME WENT WAY DOWN. I KNEW HE WAS SCARED I WAS COMING. SO WOULD THAT MAKE SENSE NOW THAT HE ISN'T TALKING TO ME? HE SAW ME COMING FOR 7 WEEKS BEFORE I GOT THERE. Y CAN'T HE C ME NOW? I TOLD HIM I WOULD BE BACK, BEFORE I LEFT. DO U THINK HE STILL RESPECTS ME EVEN THOUGH I TALKED TO PAUL AND JOHN TRIED TO FACEBOOK ME? MAYBE, HE JUST WANT'S ME OUT OF HIS LIFE? DO U THINK HE WOULD TELL ME TO GET OUT OF HIS LIFE?

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U THERE.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U STILL WORKING?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

I'm here, and still working, but am helping another client at the moment, so I will be with you soon.

Thanks for your patience! : )

Best regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

O.K. SORRY.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U READY

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

No problem; please don't apologize! : ) You have no way of knowing how busy I am at any particular moment.

You're certainly right about Perry's ex. Too bad; he deserves so much more in a woman--like YOU! I understand what you mean re: your panic attacks. If you haven't had one in years, it's most likely you won't have one there. If you take medicine for them, you'll have it with you and will take it as needed. Perry is such an old friend, you shouldn't feel embarrassed or have this fear, when you go there to see him. He, of all people should understand. This does not make you a 'loser' in any way, shape or form! He may not know what to do for you if this should happen (and I doubt it will), but the medication will help you and if you need him to hold you or you need to be left alone in a quiet room, I'm sure you will be accommodated.

Look how much you accomplish and how strong you are for your family and in everyday life! You've gone through so much and haven't had one in years, so don't worry about that. It should be the least of your worries.

If he slowed down his communications before you came last time, you're right, it's because he was scared. Don't bring up the Paul or John thing at all and it's water under the bridge. I don't think he wants you out of his life and if he did, he'd have told you a long time ago. Only think positive!

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

MY COUSIN JUST ASKED ME Y PERRY CAN'T BE MY FRIEND? I DIDN'T KNOW HOW TO EXPLAIN IT TO HER. CAN U EXPLAIN IT TO ME WHAT I SHOULD SAY TO HER. Y CAN'T HE BE MY FRIEND? SHE THINKS THAT IF HE CANT BE MY FRIEND HOW R WE GOING TO BE TOGETHER? WHAT IS THE BEST WAY TO ANSWER THIS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph.

I will answer this last question as soon as I sign back online. I need to sign off for a short while. Thanks!

Best regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THANKS.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph,

I'm back and you're most welcome!

Well, you ARE friends and you WERE friends, so what can't she understand? Did you tell her that he's not speaking to you now? Just tell her that there was a misunderstanding and he was upset with you, but you're still friends. Does she know about his disorders and your visit there? Why did she ask why he can't be your friend? Did you tell her you're no longer friends? You must be friends, because that's the springboard to a romantic relationship, if that's what you're eventually going to have, but you're taking it slow right now.

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

WELL, I HOPE WERE STILL FRIENDS. WERE GOING TO FIND OUT IF WERE STILL FRIENDS WHEN I GO THERE. BUT, U SAY WE WILL BE TOGETHER AND I WILL NOT LET HIM OUT OF MY LIFE. I WAS TELLING HER ABOUT A.S. SHE DIDN'T UNDERSTAND IT. SHE DID GET THAT HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE REJECTED BY ME. THE ONLY THING I CAN'T GET IS, HOW COME HE COULD WAIT 7 WEEKS FOR ME TO COME. BUT, U SAY HE DOESN'T TALK TO ME NOW BECAUSE, HE CAN'T C ME COMING BACK. I TOLD HIM BEFORE I LEFT I WOULD BE BACK. WE KNOW HE CAN'T C 2 DAYS INTO THE FUTURE. BUT, HE DID WAIT 7 WEEKS FOR ME. HE SAID, HE KNEW I WOULD COME IF HE ASKED. I DON'T KNOW IF HE BELIEVES THAT. BUT, HE SAID IT. Y CAN'T HE C THAT I AM COMING BACK NOW. HE WITHDREW FROM ME THE DAY I LEFT. SO Y NOT BELIEVE ME NOW.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

U SAID, A SPRINGBOARD TO A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP. IF EVENTUALLY GOING TO HAVE. DO U NOT THINK WE WILL ANYMORE?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph.

It's difficult for some people to understand A.S., so maybe you shouldn't mention it when you talk about him. It just confuses some people.

No, I don't remember saying he doesn't talk to you now because he doesn't see you coming back. You told him you're coming back. I still think his silence indicates his stress and fear of you coming back, because he's trying to protect himself from hurt. We both know you would never hurt him, but he's building a wall around himself to protect him from the possibility he imagines may happen.

Re: your last post. I don't think you won't, eventually, but since the first time was a little embarrassing for him, he may be gun-shy at first, to try that again, but it will happen.

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

YOUR FUNNY GUN-SHY! THAT'S GREAT. I ONLY WANT HIM TO HOLD ME AGAIN. I WOULD NEVER PUT THAT STRESS ON HIM. WHEN HE IS READY I WILL BE TOO. I WILL WAIT FOR HIM. I WAS WONDERING SINCE U TALK TO OTHER PEOPLE DOES YOUR GIFT EVER GET CONFUSED WITH SOMEONE ELSE? LIKE IF I ASK U SOMETHING R U ABLE TO THINK OF ME. OR DOES IT GET CONFUSED WITH SOMEONE ELSE. I AGREE ABOUT NOT TELLING PEOPLE HE HAS A DISORDER. MY COUSIN JUST THOUGHT I SHOULDN'T EVEN THINK OF MOVING BACK TO MN BECAUSE OF SAMUEL. SHE THOUGHT I SHOULD MEET SOMEONE IN NAPLES. BUT, I TOLD HER I ALWAYS LOVED HIM. WE BOTH AGREE YOUR KIDS COME FIRST. BUT, I HAVE STAYED WITH LOUIE FOR THE PAST 2 YEARS FOR KAYLA. NOW, SHE IS GONE TO SCHOOL. I CAN'T GIVE 7 MORE YEARS OF MY LIFE. I KNOW THIS WOULD BE HARD ON SAMUEL. BUT, WHAT DO I DO? I DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. WHEN I WAS EXPLAINING PERRY TO HER SHE DIDN'T UNDERSTAND Y HE DOESN'T TALK TO ME? I TOLD HER IT'S TO HARD ON HIM. THAT HE WOULD NOT THINK I WOULD MOVE THERE FOR HIM. ABOUT THE CAR. DO U THINK HE PUT IT ON HIS WALL? DO U THINK HE THINKS OF ME WHEN HE SEES IT? THANK U FOR SAYING HE NEED SOMEONE LIKE ME. I KNOW HIS X SOUNDS HORRIBLE. JUST THINK HIS FRIEND TOLD ME THAT 1 STORY. CAN U IMAGINE HOW MANY OTHER THINGS THEY DID TO HIM. I BET SHE MADE FUN OF HIS DISORDER. SHE IS UGLY SO SHE IS NOT ONE TO TALK. SHE USED TO MAKE FUN OF HIM FOR HIS WEIGHT. WHAT HE WATCHED ON T.V. HOW HE TOOK OUT THE GARBAGE. HOW AWFUL. BUT, HE BOUGHT HER THAT HOUSE. AND PAID 20,000 FOR A WEDDING. I WOULD SOOO APPRECIATE HIM. DO U THINK HE KNOWS HOW GOOD I WOULD BE WITH HIM. WE NEVER FIGHT. ACTUALLY, THIS IS THE ONLY TIME WE HAVE HAD A PROBLEM. BUT, THIS IS ALL HIM. JUST IGNORING ME NOT TO GET HURT. Y WOULDN'T HE WANT TO TRY HARDER WITH ME AFTER WHAT HE WENT THRU WITH HER. HE KNOWS I WOULD NEVER BE LIKE THAT.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi Steph,

I know you would never put that stress on him and when you're both ready, it will happen, naturally.

No, I never get confused re: the people I speak with and am able to take each situation and the people involved, individually, so please don't worry about that.

Your cousin doesn't know Perry and doesn't want to see your kids put through any more strife, since the divorce, lawsuit, etc. She doesn't understand the entire situation and is just being protective of you and your kids, not wanting to see you make a mistake. She loves you and wants you to be happy, that's all.

Oh, I think he definitely thinks of you when he looks at that car. It sounds like he has such a beautiful collection and it means the world to him! Yes, his ex sounds just horrible, mean and selfish. How could he stay with her for as long as he did? I would have told her to hit the road, sooner! Yes, I think he knows how good you would be with him. I think you are one of the few people who truly understand him. He knows you would never do to him what she did, but I don't think he's comparing the two of you; there IS no comparison!

Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

THANKS, XXXXX XXXXX COMPLIMENT. IT'S FUNNY WHEN I FOUND OUT HE WAS MARRIED THEN FILED FOR DIVORCE HE TOLD ME HOW BAD IT WAS. IF I HAD MY JOB AND PAYCHECK I WOULD HAVE RENTED HER AN APARTMENT, TURNED ON HER UTILITIES. FLEW UP THERE ON THE 30TH OF THE MONTH AND ON THE 1ST HAD MOVERS SHOW UP AND MOVE HER. I WOULD MAKE HIM SIGN A CONTRACT WITH ME THAT IF HE TAKES HER BACK HE HAS TO PAY ME BACK. EVEN IF I WAS STILL WITH LOUIE I WOULD HAVE TOLD LOUIE THAT I HAD GO FIX PERRY'S LIFE. THEN, AFTER I MOVED HER I WOULD TELL HIM I STRAIGHTENED OUT YOUR LIFE AND I'M GOING BACK TO FLORIDA NOW. C I ALWAYS THOUGHT I HAD TO PROTECT HIM. I JUST THOUGHT MAYBE ONE OF HIS FEARS IS I WOULD TREAT HIM LIKE SHE DID. I LOVE HIS WALL. I EVEN TOLD HIM I WOULD TAKE EVERYTHING OFF OF IT. CLEAN EVERYTHING ON IT AND THE SHELVES AND PUT EVERYTHING BACK WHERE IT BELONGS. TAMMY ALWAYS SAYS, IF HE KNEW WHAT HE WAS GETTING WITH U HE WOULD BE ALL OVER IT. BUT, TAMMY THINKS PERRY AND I WILL NEVER BE FRIENDS AGAIN. SHE THINKS I BUGGED HIM TO MUCH ABOUT GETTING ANSWERS WITH JOHN. I HAVE STAYED AWAY FROM HIM. DO U THINK I BUGGED HIM TO MUCH AND HE WON'T TALK TO ME NOW. EVEN THOUGH IT'S BEEN 3 WEEKS SINCE WE SPOKE. DO U THINK WHEN HE THINKS OF ME. I GET ON HIS NERVES.

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

R U STILL UP?

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi again, Steph.

Sorry for the wait.

No, I dont' think you bugged him too much and he won't talk to you. He will talk to you when the time is right and hopefully, that will be before you make your next trip. I don't think you get on his nerves. You only want to do what's best for him and makes his life easier, unlike his ex who was plain mean to him. SHE got on his nerves!

Steph, I'm really tired and am going to take a break from answering questions now, so I'll speak with you tomorrow. Sleep well! : )


Please Rate my answer positively so I can receive credit for my time and expertise. Thank you!

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

GOOD NIGHT! I WILL PAY U DOUBLE IN THE MORNING WHEN I CALL BILLING. THANK U FOR EVERYTHING. YES, I GUESS HIS X WOULD GET ON HIS NERVES. WHAT DO U THINK OF THE STORY OF HOW I WOULD HAVE RESCUED HIM HAD I KNEW ABOUT HIM AND HER. PLUS, IF I STILL HAD MY JOB. I HAVE ALWAYS THOUGHT I WOULD HAVE ALWAYS LOOKED OUT FOR HIM. DO U C ME TALKING TO U AT THE END OF THE YEAR LAUGHING HOW I THOUGHT HE DIDN'T CARE FOR ME ANYMORE. PLUS, HOW U KNEW EVERYTHING WOULD BE O.K.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
Hi again, Steph and you're most welcome!

It's too bad he didn't confide in you and let you know what was happening before and after he got married. You definitely could have rescued him from that misery! He's so lucky he has you to look out for him!

I certainly hope that is the case, that we will be laughing at the end of the year about how you thought he didn't care for you anymore and how I thought everything would be okay! : )

Please let me know if you have contacted billing and what's going on with that situation.
Thanks!

Warmest regards,
Cher
Customer: replied 11 months ago.

CHER, I WAS ABLE TO PAY U YEAH! I WENT ON FACEBOOK TODAY AND SAW PERRY. HE WENT AND GOT AUTOGRAPHS THIS WEEKEND. HE LOOKED GREAT. HE LOOKS LIKE HE LOST ABOUT 15 POUNDS. I WONDER IF HE HAS A NEW WOMEN. HE LOST 10 POUNDS BEFORE I CAME THERE. HE SAID, HE COULD GAIN 30 POUNDS IN A MONTH. I SAID, HOW CAN U DO THAT? U DON'T SEEM SO SURE ABOUT US LAUGHING ABOUT THIS. I DON'T THINK HE MISSES ME AT ALL. MY COUSIN WHO'S DAUGHTER HAS A.S. DOESN'T BELIEVE HE MISSES ME AT ALL. SHE THINKS HES JUST A JERK. WHAT DO U THINK? SHE DOESN'T THINK HIS FELLING OF HIM MISSING ME AT ALL IS EVEN TRUE.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.

Hi Steph,

That's great re: the payment, but I don't see anything changed on my end.

So, you're still able to see Perry's FB page? That's great, that he went and got autographs this weekend. Where does he go to entertainment memoribilia and/or collectibles shows?

Maybe he's acting like a jerk because he's not in touch with you, but he misses you. How could he not?

Can you please rate some of the answers I've sent you which are so far, unrated; I'd appreciate it! Thanks!

Warmest regards,
Cher

Customer: replied 11 months ago.

I JUST GOT IT STRAIGHTENED OUT. MAYBE, IT WILL TAKE AWHILE. HE GOES ALL OVER THE TWIN CITIES AND GETS THEM. HE LOST WEIGHT HE LOOKS GREAT. HE SAID, HE LOST 10 POUNDS BEFORE I CAME. I DON'T THINK HE MISSES ME AT ALL. I APPRECIATE THE FACT U THINK I'M NICE. BUT, I THINK YOUR WRONG. HE DOESN'T MISS ME. I THINK HE HAS SOMEBODY ELSE. I AGREE, WITH MY COUSIN. WHAT DO U THINK ABOUT ALL THIS. I WISH I WAS THE ONE HE WAS LOOSING WEIGHT FOR.

Expert:  Cher replied 11 months ago.
He's not losing weight for anyone but himself. He does not have a new girlfriend. I spoke to this in my last answer on your new question. Let's communicate there from now on, because going back and forth with the same info is confusing on 2 questions, okay?

Warmest regards,
Cher

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