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I think in this particular situation it was a case of too much information. Casual conversation about a birthday party and children's activities is one thing. However, sharing personal information about serial infidelities with someone you really don't know is really more than the person was comfortable hearing, as she let you know. Whether the unfaithful spouse is deceased or not wasn't the point. People generally don't discuss such intimate family details other than with their own very closest confidants. That she was uncomfortable hearing this about her neighbor and upset is possibly why she did not call you back with news about his health.
You probably are a very generous, caring person, but it pays to go a little more slowly in forming close friendships. Some people can feel overwhelmed by too much attempted intimacy too soon. Do you think this might be part of the problem?
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Yes, I can totally understand why you shared the information. But I can also understand why that amount of very personal detailed information might make some people uncomfortable. Something along the lines of "I'm sorry to say that we don't get along with my brother's in-laws" would have made the picture clearer to her and might not have made her uncomfortable. People have various levels of tolerance for personal information from strangers. That you are willing to listen is just part of your very open nature, but many people are not that open. People are sometimes reared in cultures where personal information is not shared outside the immediate family. I guess they are just socialized differently. That isn't to say either is wrong, just that they are different
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I'm sorry she was rude to you. You hadn't mentioned that before. That would put an entirely different spin on the matter.
I hope you can let it go so it doesn't bother you. And I do hope your brother is improving daily.