Hi again, Wanda and thanks for requesting me to answer your additional question.
Thanks for your patience, as I was just notified of your reply.
Greg's outbursts of violence are of concern, because he is mad at you and the situation involving money, etc., and this time he punched your laptop and broke the cabinet in the kitchen. If he has a short fuse and when he is frustrated, he becomes aggressive/violent, I would be concerned that at some time in the future he could possibly hurt you
I still have the same feelings about him that I did when I gave you my last reading and it seems that he always wants everything his way and 'acts out' when he doesn't get what he wants.
I'm glad that you are getting counseling together, and perhaps this will help, but I do believe that a tiger cannot change his stripes and although he is attending counseling with you, most likely to make you feel there is a possibility he 'could' change, I feel the side of you that says he really doesn't plan on allowing it to work, is what you have to go with. I agree with your thinking on this and he may be putting on a show for the counselor who will think "he's not so bad; he's trying", but in reality, he's still selfish, wants you to do everything for him and his way, and these new reports of violence you mentioned are of concern to me. Right now, love has nothing to do with the situation. You've heard the expression, "You always hurt the one you love"; well, that usually refers to hurt feelings, but if Greg has a lack of self control and destroys things which are of importance to you, he is unstable in his emotions and one day could hurt you, accidentally.
You are going about this in the correct way, and I'm glad he agreed to the counseling, but you need to look within yourself and decide if you want to continue this way. After so many years of marriage, I know how painful it is to let go, but if you are not happy, you deserve happiness and owe it to yourself to find it, and live your own life on your terms, with or without Greg.
I don't feel that the counseling is going to make much of a difference. He's still the same person and my previous predictions are still valid.
I sincerely hope that things improve for you soon!
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