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How can i find the ad or ads my husband posted on craigslist personals offering himself? O

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How can i find the ad or ads my husband posted on craigslist personals offering himself? Or the ads he has answered in attempt to hook up with or meet, with the purpose of cheating?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
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Expert:  pdheslin replied 2 years ago.
I've been in your situation, as my husband is a recovering sex addict, so I understand how you're feeling, and I'm sorry you have to be asking these questions. My husband also posted and answered ads on Craigslist. Thankfully, he is seeking treatment and has worked very hard to re-establish trust and remain "sober".

Please know that there is no fool proof way to prove his activities on the computer. Remember that there are always ways around any limits you try to enforce. There are public computers in libraries, or work computers. There are programs they can use to cover their tracks.

It may be impossible to detect the ads he's already posted, unless you set up your own profile on craiglist and respond to each ad to see how each person responds.

If you have access to a computer he used, you may be able to view his browsing history, depending on which browser he used. Please let me know what you have access to in terms of his computer, laptop or a smart phone and I can guide you through looking through history.

I recommend using a keystroke logging program on his computers and smart phone. This installs a program silently, that cannot be seen unless you perform certain key commands. You would be able to see every keystroke made on that computer, whether in email or on a website. You would be able to log in to see this information on another computer, in real time, or get email alerts when certain words are typed -including Craigslist.

If you can start by telling me what kind of devices your husband is using, and what browsers, I can help you begin to establish some feelings of safety and control within your relationship.

Please understand his behaviors are part on an illness, not a character flaw, even thought he behavior is unhealthy and considered to be immoral. There is hope if you approach it in this way.
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Expert:  SpecialistMichael replied 2 years ago.
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Keeping in mind keystroke logging programs are technically illegal, chances are he may not be using craiglist. There is a new internet phenomenon in casual encounters called OKcupid and Plenty of Fish(acronym POF) where people basically create a profile with a picture, add in some stats and start "fishing". These are incredibly popular and are referenced all across the internet even on random fitness and automotive forums.

A friend of mine has a female friend who's boyfriend actually has an addiction to meeting other females on this site and furthering the encounter. He had stopped for a while but recently began using these sites.

This will probably take a bit of time, but you could create a ghost account and begin searching within the parameters of what you think you husband might be searching within and find him that way - especially if he is using a public or friends computer.

Please remember to leave a rating, not based on your situation, but the information provided to help in this situation. Thank you. I wish the the best in health and luck.
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Expert:  pdheslin replied 2 years ago.
Keystroke logging software is completely legal because it is considered a security precaution, especially if there are minors that live in, or visit the home that will have access to the computer. Whether the data captured is admissible in court, is another matter. A lawyer should always be consulted. See programs such as Web Wathcher, for more information.
Expert:  SpecialistMichael replied 2 years ago.

Just keep in mind - Installing a keylogger on someone else's computer(a computer that does not belong to you (- a child's computer is a different story) is illegal. Your own computer is fine, installing it on a smartphone or a computer that belongs to another person is NOT. It violates federal law. I would get in touch with a lawyer asap before doing anything if you fear something will happen within your marriage. The last thing you need is a broken or stretched law to effect the outcome.

Expert:  pdheslin replied 2 years ago.
No one posting on this thread is a lawyer, and you should always seek legal advice.

However, District Court Judge Gary Feess, of Los Angels ruled that the interception of keystrokes between the keyboard and the computer's CPU did not meet the "interstate or foreign commerce" clause in the federal Wiretap Act, even if some of those keystrokes were banging out e-mail. "[T]his court finds it difficult to conclude that the acquisition of internal computer signals that constitute part of the process of preparing a message for transmission would violate the Act."


U.S. District Judge Lee Rosenthal ruled on October 18, 2010, saying that the court was required to follow a Fifth Circuit decision saying that the federal wiretap law known as Title III does not apply to marital relationships.

I have several other legal precedent examples where my answer is completely legal, which is why products like Webwatcher received PC Magazine's Editor's Choice awards in 2012, and continues to operate in the United States, without interferrance from Federal or State Law.

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