You have again answered with the depth philosophical grace that you always offer.
Just so I don't come across as money-hungry or greedy, this really isn't about the money. Truly. If I knew it would all be over tomorrow, I honestly wouldn't even pursue this remedy. What I am after is peace. Mere peace and the freedom to move on with my life without constantly having to consider what may be looming around the next corner. It's been a long almost three years. Every decision I make is made by asking, will she refile? will I have to come up with the money for the penalty? will they audit and require yet more taxes? I feel hand cuffed to this horrible situation to the extent I cannot make financial decisions for my family or my business until I know what the botXXXXX XXXXXne is. It's very hard to live that way for three years. The business I am now running is all we have. It's what we live on.
My pursuit of this possible remedy may not only fix what went horribly wrong, but it would stop a potential audit from occurring. I guess that's what scares me the most, and I really, really hate limbo. I can deal with any outcome, just show me the botXXXXX XXXXXne so I can adapt and move on. And that's what eats away at me... the uncertainty of when it will be over and how it will end. Not how much money can I have, you know?
You are right when you say it's about control. You are very right. I want control over my own destiny, not to be a puppet in the hands of some other entity for this amount of time.
So please don't think I'm self centered or materialistic. Yes, I seek security for my family, but I mostly seek my identity without this estate. Unfortunately our livlihood is directly tied to the outcome, which makes it a little complicated.