Dear Pam I am writing to you for support on a matter now that this the 10th October is coming up. See, in addition to what I have told you already, I want to tell you about a girl at the office, who is N’s closest co-worker. She is very interested in N, too, and has been for a long time. I am sure she knows of my feelings for N. We went to a summer party early June this year and N, the girl at the office + another co-worker went together. The girl at the office had just come out of relationship, was unhappy and became very drunk. She leaned on N the whole evening and N was there for her. Later I have been told by a colleague that they were seen kissing! She knew about N and me and looked jealous all evening – gave me a stiff, unsympathetic stare several times – at the same time jealous about my looks. Not so long ago when I needed help and advice on N I asked this third colleague if she could help me (at this time I did not know what I just told you above). She also knew about N and me and I asked her if she could tell something nice about me to N the next time we were all going out. At first she said yes then the following day she told me that she could not do it since during July, during the summer holiday period, she met them accidently at a café in Copenhagen. She pretended like nothing, went straight up to them and said “hi”. The girl at the office said “busted” while “N” looked away! She told me that she was not sure whether they had had or still could have a relationship, but she had seen them close together at the company party in June (remember he was flirting heavily and playing mind games with me all thorugh August when the girl at the office was on holiday). Earlier on JustAnAnswer I have asked if the girl at the office is just a friend to N or if they are having an affair. The reply was – more than time – that N sees only the girl at the office as a close friend NOTHING else, but that she is very attracted to him. See, yesterday N was VERY forthcoming towards me, VERY interested, joking, talking, asking questions plus for the first time in a long time we were sitting next to each at lunch (yay!) having a really good time which I enjoyed of course. And I thought wow he is back…. . I guess he could sense the new me coming through. However, the whole day, including at lunch time, I did notice that the girl at the office was really jealous. So guess what happens today – which is a pattern I see because this has happened so many times before. N is polite, but certainly keeping a distance as in "not interested".... The girl at the office is rigid, strictly professional and seems extremely jealous even more than yesterday while at the same time all over him. Here we go again. Back to scratch. What is your opinion of all this? Are they having an affair or not? Does she have a hold on him? This may be a wild guess, but is she telling him to back off of me or what? The girl at the office is born 15 March 1974 either in Copenhagen or somewhere very close to Copenhagen. If you can use this. I guess I am asking for a physic reading here and should highly appreciate your advice on this. The reason why I am asking this is of course that I have a plan for tomorrow (this article and telling him something nice), but I do not want to make a fool of myself and definitely not take advantage of a beneficial situation tomorrow. What are his thoughts of me now/at the moment and can I expect him to be more open tomorrow? On a day like this, I find it hard to believe that he is still interested in me and still wants me, building bricks etc. Considering all this (his behaviour today) I may be better off by letting go of him.....I know this sounds like self-pity, but I would like to know what you can come up with on this? Many thanks in advance & best wishes Birgit P.S. I will look out for you later today for an answer.