Hi again, Stephanie and thanks for your patience.
It sometimes takes me a while to send your answer, because I have to give it much thought and then type it. I'm a fast typist, but if I have a lot to say........ : )
It's just unbelievable that she never got a divorce and he lives in denial. He's not a real man if he can do that, after all that transpired. Yes, 50,000 texts most definitely IS an obsession and they contain trash-talking about both you and her husband. You are strong and I can say without a doubt, you will get through this. There may be more difficult times to come, in relation to the legal action, but you made the right decision to go ahead with the divorce and the lawsuit after you found out the truth. As long as you are looking forward to a positive outcome, you will be able to stay strong and survive this. It's something that must be done and you will do it!
I feel that you will get your money sometime between the end of this year and next Spring. However, you are going on with your life NOW and you will continue to go on with your life in a more calm and happy way after the settlement.
I mentioned I felt you will have a slow beginning with the cop, because of the type of person he is--not very forthcoming, secretive, etc. I feel he will not be ready to talk for quite a few months, and even then, his responses by phone or text will be slow in coming. I'm feeling you might be together again and he will tell you it's okay to begin communicating after he resolves some of the issues which are plaguing him right now. He will need serious counseling before he's able to carry on a normal relationship again, but he will find it hard to admit this and seek it out.
If you have any additional questions or concerns, please click 'Reply to Expert' before rating, direct your reply to me, "Cher", and I will be happy to continue our conversation.
IMPORTANT: If you found my answer helpful, please choose a positive rating like this one for 'Excellent Service', so I may receive credit for assisting you.