Hi again, Stephanie and thanks for requesting me.You posted your other request in 'Computers' and I'm not an expert in that category, so I couldn't respond.Let me see if I can access that question and answer and I'll get back to you shortly.Thanks for your patience.Best regards,Cher
Hi again, Stephanie.Here is the last answer I sent you:You gave him some very good advice, and yes, I think he may be using it against you. While he may not be able to keep many (or any) friends, I think he has a mind like a steel trap. Oh yes, he remembered what you said about walls and it's quite ironic, in a karmic sense.I think he was putting up walls, way before you advised him to do that, but he's definitely doing that, now, and figures if you want to have him in your life, you need to 'work' at it a little more. I do believe you will continue to have contact with him in the future, but not on a steady basis. I feel strongly, from doing a 'reading of your future' that he will continue to be a part of your life but you will have to make most of the contact. He does have those walls up and you will need to work at tearing them down in a slow, methodical way, if you want him to be part of your life. A lot remains to be seen, due to his type of personality, but I do feel that you have not seen the last of him. He does have some positive energy around him, too, even though most of his actions seem to indicate otherwise.I hope you're having a great Friday!! : )
If you have any additional questions or concerns, please click 'Reply to Expert' before rating, direct your reply to me, "Cher", and I will be happy to continue our conversation.IMPORTANT: If you found my answer helpful, please choose a positive rating like this one for 'Excellent Service', so I may receive credit for assisting you.Bonuses are always welcomed and appreciated! Best regards,Cher
I JUST RATED U AGAIN, R U GETTING THESE QUESTIONS? I'M HAVING DIFFICULTIES ON MY END.
DID U GET THE QUESTION ABOUT ME AND MY NEW FRIEND KERRY THE COP?
WHAT DOES A MIND LIKE A STEEL TRAP MEAN? IF HE IS MAKING ME WORK FOR THIS WHAT'S THE POINT? U SAID HE WOULD BE IN MY LIFE IF I MAKE CONTACT WITH HIM WILL IT ALWAYS BE LIKE THAT. IF HE IS A CONTROL FREAK WON'T HE BE THE ONE TRYING TO CONTROL ME? DO U EVER SEE HIM AND I MORE THAN FRIENDS IF HE EVER GETS NORMAL?
Hi again, Stephanie.Yes, I received your Excellent rating and I thank you very much. It's greatly appreciated! I'm sorry you're experiencing some difficulties on your end. We were told that the site problems from last night and earlier today were now fixed, so I hope that will remain the case. I need to ask that you please don't request me on any old questions, because I explained that I am not able to answer in all categories. You posted your last request to an old question where I can't send you a reply, which is frustrating for both of us, so, please post your questions here, and then I can reply. Thanks for understanding! : )I did read your other post and I think it's great that you made a new friend and will be able, in this way, to get more insight into the lives and interactions with cops. I do feel that Kerry and you will remain friends and will have a lot in common and a lot to talk about. I think it was fate that you met her tonight! She will be a big help to you in the future, providing some inside insight about her 'former' profession, etc. I do get a very positive feeling about you and Kerry becoming close; I think its kismet that you met at this game!I'm so glad you were a proud mom tonight and enjoyed the game so much! You're daughter is a very lucky girl and you're a very lucky mom! I can understand your apprehension as she was tossed up into the air!! lol
I had just sent this when I read your additional post.
A mind like a steel trap means he never forgets anything; he stores away all information and uses it when needed. I feel that he will be part of your life on and off but you will be the one to make contact since he does not. I do see you and he as more than friends at some point in the future, if he works on resolving his problems and acts in a more traditional way. The control vibes he's giving off, I'm feeling are more intended to have you get in touch with him, when you think of him or feel like it.
THANKS CHER, YES, I'M SUCH A PROUD MOM. EVERYONE THAT KNOWS MY KIDS ALWAYS SAY HOW AWESOME THEY R I FEEL THAT'S A DIRECT REFLECTION OF OUR PARENTING. I HAVE A STORY TO TELL U. I SENT ALL THE PARENTS AND FRIENDS A GENERAL TEXT IT SAID, HEY EVERYONE! THE SHARKS WON THEIR 1ST HOME GAME OF THE SEASON! IT'S KAYLA'S LAST YEAR AS A CHEERLEADER. SHE GOT TO CHEER THEM ON TO THEIR FIRST WIN OF THE SEASON. C U ALL AT THE NEXT GAME. KAYLA'S CAPTAIN THIS YEAR HELP HER CHEER THE TEAM ON. LOL IT WENT OUT TO EVERYONE INCLUDING THE COP. SO, TONIGHT OR IN THE MORNING HE WILL C THIS ON HIS PHONE. WHAT DO U THINK OF THIS? I DIDN'T MEAN TO SEND IT TO HIM BUT AT LEAST HE KNOWS HOW GREAT AND HAPPY I AM. ALSO, WHERE I'LL BE NEXT FRIDAY NIGHT. WHAT DO U THINK HE WILL THINK WHEN HE GETS THIS? WILL HE BE MAD HE RECEIVED THIS EVEN THOUGH HE KNOWS IT WAS SENT TO EVERYONE NOT JUST HIM SO, WILL HE BE EITHER MAD HE RECEIVED IT OR, WILL IT BOTHER HIM AT ALL I'M LIVING A GREAT LIFE? DO U THINK HE WILL THINK HE LOST OUT ON SOMETHING .
ALSO. U AGREE THAT HE REMEMBERS WHAT I SAID WHEN WE FIRST MET? KEEP YOUR WALLS UP MAKE THEM FIGHT FOR IT. MY DAD SAYS HE DOSEN'T REMEMBER THIS BECAUSE GUYS DON'T REMEMBER THINGS LIKE THAT. HOW DO U C US SPENDING TIME TOGETHER IF I DON'T GO NEAR HIM AND HE STAYS AWAY FROM ME?
r u there?
Hi again, Stephanie and thanks so much for requesting me. You're most welcome! It's the truth!I think the text was great! It only proved you're a proud mom!I feel that at first, he will say, 'What the heck?' and not understand why you chose to send it to him, but if he sees it was a 'mass' texting to many people, he'll put 2 and 2 together. However, I do feel he may think there was 'something' behind it, like another chance at contact.Nothing wrong with sending it to him. I'm feeling that the more you are 'in front' of him, reminding him you're there, the more he may think of you. This would bode well for the future, if you want him to be more a part of your life.I think he will be jealous that you're living a great life. It's very different from his and he may feel he lost out, not only because he's not closer with YOU, but because he doesn't have kids, etc. I don't remember you mentioning any kids. I think he feels he lost out on that, too. I feel he thinks he'd make a great dad, but karma says he wouldn't. Too self-absorbed.
Guys usually don't remember these things (re: walls), but my sixth sense tells me that he did remember this, because it was important.
If you keep insinuating yourself in his life, I feel he will begin to think of you more and be intrigued by you and want to know what's going on. This is just a feeling I have re: your future. However, remember, it's not written in stone. You create your own destiny.
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Y WAS THE WALLS UP THING IMPORTANT ENOUGH FOR HIM TO REMEMBER THIS ABOUT ME? I SAID IT THINKING I WOULD NEVER C HIM AGAIN I'M SURE HE THOUGHT THE SAME. SO, Y WOULD HE REMEMBER IT. WE DIDN'T REALLY START HANGING OUT ABOUT A WEEK AND HALF LATER. THAT'S A LOT OF TIME TO REMEMBER SOMETHING SO TRIVIAL. BUT, U THINK HE REMEMBERED THIS COMMENT EVEN TO THIS DAY.
DO U THINK HE WANTS ME TO GET HIS WALL DOWN? I WASN'T SAYING ANYTHING ABOUT CHANGING HIM I WAS TRYING TO SAY HEY IF YOUR NOT SURE ABOUT HOW MUCH THEY CARE FOR U MAKE THEM FIGHT FOR IT. DO U THINK HE IS DOING ALL THIS GAME PLAYING TO C IF I'LL FIGHT FOR IT? OR HE JUST FIGURES I WANT HER OUT OF MY LIFE SO I WON'T EVER CONTACT HER AGAIN?
R U STILL UP CHER?
CHER, R U GETTING THESE QUESTIONS? I'M HAVING PROBLEMS HERE.
R U STILL THERE?
DID U GET THE CONTROL FREAK QUESTION?
I just sent it again. i would like to understand the capital letters part. If they take their friendship away and they want u to feel the loss don't they have to come back to c if u feel the loss? otherwise what's the point the would just walk away from everyone. is this what he did to me took our friendship away never to return so i feel the loss?
ALSO, I SENT U A QUESTION ABOUT IF HE AND I HAVE SUCH DIFFERENT LIVES CAN HE STILL RELATE TO HOW HAPPY I AM. I WANT HIM TO C ONE THESE TEXTS AND SAY WOW 16 YEARS OLD A FULL-RIDE SCHOLARSHIP. 17 YEARS OLD CHEERLEADING CAPTAIN NOW SHE IS RUNNING FOR HOMECOMING QUEEN. YES, I WILL SEND OUT ANOTHER MASS TEXT TO HIM TO LET HIM KNOW HE EVERYONE VOTE FOR KAYLA FOR QUEEN. HE WOULD HAVE TO BE IMPRESSED. SO, NEXT FRIDAY THE GAME SATURDAY THE PARTY DO U THINK HE'LL THINK THIS GIRL ISN'T EVEN THINKING OF ME SHE'S LIVING HER LIFE. I WANT HIM TO KNOW THAT I HAVE THIS AMAZING LIFE THAT HE IS NOT IN AND I HAVE BEEN STAYING AWAY FROM HIM. CAN SOMEONE LIKE HIM THINK SOMEONE LIKE ME CAN BE THIS HAPPY AFTER ALL I HAVE BEEN THRU. I WANT HIM TO THINK WOW, IF HE DID LEAVE FOR ME TO FEEL THE LOSS OF HIM THAN HIS PLAN DIDN'T WORK. DO U THINK TODAY HE WILL BE THINKING A LOT ABOUT ME? THE H.S. IS ABOUT 1 MILE FROM MY HOUSE HE SEES IT EVERYDAY TO HE HAS TO PATROL THAT AS WELL?
CHER, R U STILL UP? I SENT THAT CONTROL FREAK QUESTION AGAIN.
i JUST RATED U AGAIN! I HOPE THIS HELPS U. HAVE A GOOD NIGHT.
CHER, I ASKED A QUESTION TO U LAST NIGHT I DON'T THINK U GOT IT. YES, HE TOOK HIS FRIENDSHIP AWAY. BUT I GUESS I WILL NEVER C HIM AGAIN BECAUSE LIKE U SAID THEY DON'T LOOK BACK AT WHAT HE HAS DONE THEY JUST MOVE ON. THEY KNOW WHAT THEY DID AND THAT'S GOOD ENOUGH FOR THEM. THAT'S THEIR CONTROL. I GUESS I GET IT NOW HE KNEW IT WOULD BOTHER ME TO JUST LEAVE LIKE THAT WITH NO EXPLANATION. SO, I GUESS HE IS HAPPY NOW. I JUST HAVE TO ACCEPT IT FOR WHAT IT IS. I WISH I COULD TRY TO MAKE THIS RIGHT DO U THINK I'LL EVER GET THE CHANCE? OR IS IT JUST WAY TOO LATE BECAUSE, HE KNOWS HE WILL NEVER LOOK BACK?
Cher, so he's happy right now because he did this to me just walked away. But, i had to have done something to just make him walk away. do u think when he thinks of me he's happy at what he did? Also, u think i'll c him again to talk to him if he is happy at what he did to me then he wont talk to me he's happy. So, i guess i need to be prepared that if i do c him he will just tell me please don't talk to me. i have nothing to do with u for a reason. Do u think he would say something like that or do u think he would have already told me that by now. But, he's happy with what he did i just have to accept it. do u think he is a little sad about what he did? Or is it all about him and the control?
Hi again, Stephanie.I feel it's always about him and the control. I also feel he thinks of himself only, and what's good for him, most often. When I envision you two in the future, I do think he will speak to you and will not tell you to please not speak to him. If he wanted to do that, he could have, when you called and caught him off guard the other day.The thing is, I don't think he thinks about these things. While you're giving it so much thought, he's not. I don't think he's happy or sad about what he did, because he doesn't think he did anything. If you're referring to him just stopping the communication/walking away, then yes, he did do something odd and selfish, which is not uncharacteristic for his personality. But, I do not sense that he gives the situation much thought, so he's neither happy nor sad about it. In other words, I don't sense that he feels 'victorious' about his behavior.
THEN, Y WON'T HE TALK TO ME? IF HE JUST WALKED AWAY ON HIS OWN ? DOES HE NOT THINK ABOUT ME AT ALL ANYMORE? I WISH HE MISSED AT LEAST TALKING TO ME. SO, HE JUST USED ME FOR A SHORT TIME ALTHOUGH I DON'T KNOW WHAT FOR AND THEN HE HAD ENOUGH OF ME. HE JUST LEFT. NOW HE THINKS NOTHING OF ME?
CHER, I HAVE WROTE THIS QUESTION 4 TIMES NOW. IT'S NOT GOING THROUGH. I MET MY FRIEND BECKY'S NEW HUSBAND TODAY. HE KNOWS A LOT OF COPS. BUCK IS HIS NAME. HE SAID EXACTLY WHAT U SAID, AND HE DOSEN'T KNOW I TALK TO U. HE SAID HE HAS SERIOUS MENTAL CONDITIONS THAT U AND I DON'T UNDERSTAND. BUCK SAID, HE HAS TO FIX HIMSELF. HE SAID U PISSED HIM OFF BEFORE HE WENT ON VACATION. THAT I PROBABLY SAID SOMETHING WRONG TO HIM SOMETHING THAT A NORMAL PERSON WOULDN'T THINK ABOUT BUT, HE'S SO DEPRESSED RIGHT NOW HE WON'T COME AROUND. I THINK THAT IS SO FUNNY U BOTH SAID THE SAME THING. EXCEPT BUCK SAID THE COP WILL BE BACK FOR THE MONEY, HE SAID, IT'S HUMAN NATURE TO WANT MONEY. HE SAID IT WILL BE BEFORE THE LAWSUIT IS OVER SO HE CAN ACT LIKE I WAS HERE BEFORE THE MONEY. HE SAID, SO HE CAN COME IN AND ACT ALL NICE EVERYTHING IS GREAT THEN GET TO ENJOY IT. I SAID, NO HE WON'T BE BACK EVER. HE SAID, YES HE WILL I KNOW THIS TYPE OF PERSON. IT'S A GAME HE'S PLAYING. HE WILL BE BACK.I KNOW U DON'T THINK THE MONEY IS A FACTOR BUT I AGREE THAT IT IS HUMAN NATURE TO WANT MONEY. MAYBE HE CAN ALWAYS SAY, I DIDN'T GO TO HAWAII SO THAT PROVES I DON'T WANT YOUR MONEY. DO U THINK HE HAS A GIRL PAYING ALL OF HIS BILLS RIGHT NOW AND THAT'S Y WE CAN'T BE FRIENDS? DO U THINK HE WOULD LET SOME GIRL PAY HIS BILLS? I THINK HE JUST HAS A NEW FRIEND THAT WON'T ALLOW HIM TO TALK TO ME. BUCK WAS LIKE U HE DIDN'T THINK THERE WAS A NEW FRIEND HE SAID, THE COP KNOWS HE'S IN A DARK PLACE. DO U THINK HE WOULD LISTEN IF SOMEONE TOLD HIM NOT TO TALK TO ME? WHAT DO U THINK OF WHAT BUCK SAID?
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CHER, I FEEL VERY STRONGLY HE DOSEN'T TALK TO ME BECAUSE OF THAT PIECE OF PAPER ON ME. IF HE RAN MY NAME ON HIS COMPUTER. MY DAD SAID, HE RAN THAT WAY BEFORE U EVER WENT OUT. THE PAPER SAID, MY HUSBAND WAS TRYING TO GET ME BAKER RACKED BUT, IT BACKED FIRED BECAUSE THE DOCTOR COULD PROVE THERE WAS NOTHING IN ME AND I WASN'T DEPRESSED. I KNOW IT WOULD BE ILLEGAL FOR HIM TO RUN ME BEING THAT ONLY COPS COULD DO THAT BUT, I KNOW HE DID. I FEEL THOUGH THAT MY DAD IS RIGHT THOUGH. BUT, EVEN IF THAT WERE THE CASE HE CAN READ WHAT THE REPORT SAID AND HOW IT BACKFIRED ON HIM. BUT, HE HAS AN ARREST ON HIS BACKGROUND AND THAT'S A LOT WORSE? WHAT DO U THINK? U THINK IT COULD BE THAT OR JUST THE FACT THAT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM? DO U THINK THAT HE HAS A NEW FRIEND PAYING HIS BILLS RIGHT NOW? DO U THINK HE WOULD LET A GIRL PAY HIS BILLS? DON'T U AGREE THAT WHEN HE PATROLS MY NEIGHBORHOOD HE THINKS OF ME THEN HE THINKS OF THE LAWSUIT? THAT WOULD JUST MAKE SENSE. U SAID, EARLIER I WILL SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN BECKY AND BUCK AGREE BUT, THEY FEEL HE WILL STAY AROUND, SO THE NEXT TIME I C HIM OR TALK TO HIM U THINK IF I TRY TO LET HIM KNOW I'M HERE FOR HIM WE MAY START HANGING OUT AGAIN? DO U THINK THAT HE HAS TO GET HIS HEAD TOGETHER FOR ME? I MEAN DO U THINK HE THINKS HE HAS TO HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER? I THINK JUST BEING A GOOD PERSON IS ENOUGH FOR ANYONE. ALSO, THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART DO U AGREE WITH BUCK, THAT YES, HIS HEAD IS ALL MESSED UP BUT, THIS IS ALL A GAME? HE FOCUSED WAY TO MUCH ON THE MONEY THAT SAID IT ALL. BUCK SAID FOR SURE THIS IS A GAME DO U AGREE? HAVE A GREAT NIGHT. THANKS FOR EVERY THING LOL
CHER, I'M HAVING A GREAT SUNDAY. I HOPE U R TO? THAT IS GREAT ADVISE DAY BY DAY. I LIVE THAT WAY NOW BECAUSE OF THIS PAST YEAR. DO U THINK I DID SOMETHING TO HIM OR HE IS JUST IN A BAD PLACE? HOW DOES YOUR 6TH SENSE WORK IF U HAVE NEVER SCENE ME OR HIM? DOES YOUR ABILITIES WORK AS STRONG ON THE COMPUTER AS IT DOES IN PERSON? IF U DID ANOTHER READING WOULD IT BE DIFFERENT THAN THE LAST ONE? I KNOW WE MAKE OUR OWN DESTINY. THAT'S Y I CHOOSE MY DIVORCE, MY LAWSUIT. ONE LAST THING I HAVE TO READ 50,000 TEXT MESSAGES AND LOOK AT 300 PICTURES FOR THIS LAWSUIT. HE SAYS THEY DID NOT HAVE SEX IT WAS JUST AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR DO U THINK THEY HAD ANY FORM OF SEXUAL CONTACT? I COULD TRY TO WORK THIS OUT IF THEY DIDN'T HAVE SEX. HOW BAD DO U THINK THEY WILL BE?
CHER, THAT WOULD BE GREAT. I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW JUST HOW BAD U THINK THEY R? AND HOW MUCH OF IT I HAVE TO READ OR HEAR ABOUT IT? I TOLD MY LAWYER AS LITTLE AS POSSIBLE I CAN'T AFFORD ANY SETBACKS. SO , IF U CAN DO A READING ABOUT THOSE TEXTS. ANS MY FUTURE WITH MY X AND THE COP. PLUS HOW MUCH MONEY DO U C ME GETTING? THANKS A LOT TALK TO U LATER.
CHER, I'M HERE. HAVE U DONE MY CARDS YET? I WOULD APPRECIATE IT.
Hi agan, Stephanie and thanks so much for your patience.I just got in. Doing your readings now.Unfortunately, you or whomever you designate, is going to have to read most of the text messages--it could make or break your case. These are text messages between your ex and the other woman, correct? More about this, below.The first card I chose for you is the Page of Swords. This usually refers to a person who has a sharp mind, acts cool and thinks deeply. He's usually secretive and analytical and tends to make decisions based on logic. He appears unemotional, even when he's happy or sad; is not very sensitive to the feelings of others. He can be deceitful and spread gossip, even when he doesn't realize this will be hurtful to others. I feel this card is referring to the cop. Sharp mind, but sticks to himself, basically. May hurt others, but not on purpose; doesn't think before he speaks. I know nothing about your ex, but this may describe him and some of his actions, too. This means that misunderstandings, petty gossip and deceit are at the root of the problems with both of these men in your life and involved in the suit.The second card I chose for you is the Seven of Cups. This represents a situation where many choices are possible. You need to choose the most logical and practical one to attain the outcome you want and fulfill your desires. The danger here, is making the choice to do what needs to be done, following the correct path. If you don't make a sensible, logical, methodical decision to do something in the matter at hand, you could get a raw deal. I believe this represents the suit and that's why you must read all or as many of the texts as possible and make sure everything that needs to come to light which will benefit YOU, will be presented for the suit. The third card is The Knight of Wands. This is a very good omen in your suit and the amount of money you will receive. This card will always show when there are to be big changes made in one's life and also indicates a change of residence in the near future (your big beach house??). It may also signify the taking of a long journey (Hawaii?). The high energy this Knight demonstrates may cause people to feel they must act quickly, but this should not be done if it means in the rush, all details are not checked carefully, first. In other words, don't rush anything in your life right now, with the cop, your ex, the suit. Positive energy is with you, as we suspected all along, but the details are very important (another reason to read the texts). The amount of money may be in the 6-7 figure range, but this is typically difficult to predict with any precision, considering the circumstances.
CHER, GREAT READING. DO U THINK THE TEXTS R GOING TO BAD? YES, THERE BETWEEN MY X AND THE MISTRESS (MY BOSS). I MEAN R THEY GOING TO BE SEXUAL OR PUTTING ME DOWN A LOT AS A WIFE AND PERSON. DO U THINK WHEN U SAID, 6-7 RANGE IT WILL THAT BE IN THE HIGH 6 FIGURES? ALSO, MY X IS NOT LIKE THE COP. HE'S QUIET, DOSEN'T GOSSIP, GREAT FATHER BUT DOSEN'T SHOW A LOT OF EMOTIONS. HE IS LOVING ESPECIALLY TO HIS KIDS. BUT, MOST IMPORTANTLY HE IS CHEAP! DOSEN'T EVER WANT TO SPEND A DIME. I WILL SPEND. ALL MY MONEY GOES TO MY CHILDREN. THAT'S WOW IT IS SUPPOSED TO BE WHEN U HAVE KIDS RIGHT? THE WORSE THE TEXT MESSAGES R THE MORE MONEY I GET SO CAN U TELL ME IF THERE GOING TO BE BAD? ALSO, DOES IT TELL U WHEN ALL OF THIS WILL HAPPEN? BUT, WITH THE COP DOES IT SAY WHEN I'LL C HIM AGAIN? AND HOW IT WILL IT GO? OR WILL HE STAY IN MY LIFE AS A FRIEND OR MORE? I RATED U AGAIN YESTERDAY DID U GET IT? I'LL CHECK BACK WITH U LATER HAVE A GREAT LABOR DAY! TAKE CARE LOL.
CHER, WHEN I FOUND OUT ABOUT THE TEXTS LAST YEAR AND THE EMOTIONAL AFFAIR I SPENT 4 MONTHS ON MY BEDROOM FLOOR. I CAN'T GO THROUGH THIS AGAIN. THAT'S T I NOW GO LIVE MY LIFE. I GET OUT TRY TO MEET NEW PEOPLE. WILL THAT HAPPEN TO ME AGAIN? I MEAN HOW SURE R U? PLEASE TELL ME I NEED TO PREPARE MYSELF FOR THIS I REFUSE TO G BACKWORDS. NO MATTER HOW MUCH MONEY I GET IT'S NOT WORTH THAT! CAN U TELL ME DID THEY HAVE SEX? ALSO, COULD U TELL ME IF THE MONEY WILL BE IN THE HIGH 6 FIGURES? I WANT TO BELIEVE SO BADLY THEY WEREN'T SEXUAL I KNOW THAT'S MY DENIAL BUT I HAVE TO HOPE. ALSO, I C THE COP AGAIN AND I TELL HIM HOW MUCH I MISS OUR FRIENDSHIP WILL WE TALK AGAIN AFTER THAT? I KNOW WITH HIM U HAVE TO TAKE IT SLOW. BUT, U ALSO HAVE TO HAVE A START. WILL WE EVER HAVE A START? IF SO, HOW LONG WILL THAT TAKE TO HAVE A START? PLEASE TELL ME THE TRUTH ABOUT EVERYTHING NO MATTER HOW BAD IT IS IT WILL HELP ME A LOT.
CHER, YES, MY LAWYER WILL READ ALL THE TEXTS FIRST. THEN, HE ASKED ME IF I WANT TO READ THEM. I SAID NO. JUST TELL ME WHAT I HAVE TO KNOW. MY X ASSURES ME MY NAME NEVER CAME UP ON ALL THOSE TEXTS. I DON'T BELIEVE THAT AT ALL!!!!!!!!!! EVEN IF THERE IS NOTHING SEXUAL ON THEM JUST PUTTING ME DOWN ESPECIALLY TO MY BOSS IS JUST AS BAD. WE GO TO FAMILY COUNSELING AND THE COUNCILOR SAID SHE WOULD COME AND HELP ME READ THEM. I DON'T WANT TO READ THEM ALL JUST THE WORST ONES. YES. I HAVE THEM BREAKING THE LAWS ON EVERYTHING. ALL ON PAPER. MY ATTORNEY SAID, HE HAS NEVER HAD A CLIENT AS SMART AS ME. HE ASKS ME ALL THE TIME WHERE DO U GET ALL THIS STUFF? HE SAID YOUR CASE GETS BETTER BY THE WEEK. I KNOW IF I READ THE TEXTS IT WILL GIVE ME FULL CLOSURE I JUST HOPE THERE AS BAD AS I THINK THEY R SO MY DICISIONS ABOUT MY DIVORCE AND THE LAWSUIT WERE RIGHT. DO U THINK I'M DOING THE RIGHT THING WITH ALL OF MY DESICIONS? ALSO, DO U THINK IF I WAIT A COUPLE OF MONTHS ABOUT SEEING THE COP IS THAT ENOUGH TIME? IF SO WILL THAT BE THE START OF OUR COMMUNICATING? I MAKE MY OWN DESTINY I KNOW BUT, I WILL WANT HIM IN MY LIFE? R U SURE WE WILL SPEND TIME TOGETHER?
CHER, R U THERE? IF NOT WHEN WILL U BE BACK ONLINE?
Hi again, Stephanie.I'm glad your lawyer will read all the texts first and then let you know what you need to know. You ARE very smart and although this is a very difficult thing for you, you are handling it so very well. I don't believe your name never came up in those texts, either. I feel there were references to you and not all had your name, but it was obvious you were the one being referred to, and also, I do feel your name came up in some, but not all the texts. You do need closure, and you will get it when the suit settles; if you feel you need to read all the texts to gain closure and prove to yourself your decisions about the divorce and lawsuit were right, you'll do it when the time comes. Yes, I feel your decisions right now, are the right ones. You are fortunate to have an innate quality to know the right things to do at the right times.I feel if you wait 2-4 months to see the cop that would be a good amount of time. Depending on where you both are in your lives at that time, will determine if you will begin communicating again. It will be a slow process, due to the type of person he is. Right now, I do see you communicating again, and at some time in the distant future, spending time together.
CHER, I JUST RATED U AGAIN. I HOPE IT HELPS. YES, I AGREE WITH U ABOUT MY NAME BUT, YES WITH 50,000 THAT'S A LOT THAT'S AN OBSESSION. I KNOW THEY REFERRED TO ME AND HER HUSBAND ALL THE TIME. SHE WENT TO WORK AND BRAGGED SHE WAS GETTING A DIVORCE, BIT, SHE WAS NEVER GOING TO LEAVE HIM. THEY R STILL TOGETHER. HE KNOWS ABOUT THE SITUATION HE JUST CHOOSES TO LIVE IN DENIAL. SO, HE STAYS WITH HER. I LIVE IN THE REAL WORLD AND I CHOSE MY DIVORCE AND LAWSUIT. THAT'S WHAT MAKES ME THINK THERE SO BAD ABOUT HIM AND I . BECAUSE OUT OF NOWHERE ALL OF A SUDDEN HE WAS UNHAPPY WITH ME. SO, I WENT DIGGING AND FOUND THE TEXTS. THAT TELLS ME HOW MUCH BAD TALKING THEY DID ABOUT NE AND HER HUSBAND. SO NOW THAT U KNOW MORE HOW R SURE U ABOUT THE TEXTS? YES, I'M STRONG BUT, WILL I BE ABLE TO GET THROUGH THIS? I HAVE AMAZING FRIENDS AND FAMILY BUT, IT'S UP TO ME PICK UP THE PIECES. THAT'S THE MAIN REASON I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW WHEN U THINK I'LL GET MY MONEY SO I CAN GO ON WITH MY LIFE? ALSO WITH THE COP U SAID A SLOW BEGINNING HOW SLOW WILL IT BE? DO U THINK WE WILL EVER BE TOGETHER IF SO WHEN? AFTER WE C EACH OTHER AGAIN WILL HE TELL ME IT'S ALRIGHT TO CALL HIM AND START COMMUNICATING AGAIN.
CHER, I AGREE WITH U I WILL GET THROUGH THIS. SO, U DEFINATLY THINK THE TEXTS R BAD THAT WILL HELP MY CASE? WITH THE COP WE STARTED TALKING A LOT ALWAYS TALKED. SO, NOW IT WILL BE SLOW Y? HE HAS ISSUES I KNOW BUT, HE HAD THEM BEFORE I MET HIM AND WE TALKED ALL THE TIME. I REALLY WANT MY FRIEND BACK DO U C US IN THE NEXT 6 MONTHS HANGING OUT. ESPECIALLY IF I'M I THE ONE MAKING CONTACT. HE IS NOT GOING TO GO GET HELP WE BOTH KNOW THAT SO DO I JUST KEEP SLOWLY TRYING? IF SO, DO U REALLY BELIEVE WE CAN HANG OUT AGAIN AND BUILD FROM THERE. ALSO, IF I GET MY MONEY WILL HE LET ME SPEND SOME ON HIM?
CHER I HAD HOPE THE TEXTS WEREN'T GOING TO BE SO BAD. ONLY BECAUSE, FOR MY CHILDREN. I WANTED TO STAY A FAMILY SO I WAS HOLDING MY BREATH. I KNOW THRY R GOING TO BE BAD BUT, I JUST WANTED YOUR 6TH SENSE OPINION BECAUSE I KNOW IT'S RIGHT. WELL, I KNOW I'M THE ONE THAT IS GOING TO BE THE ONE TO C THE COP. REMEMBER IN ABOUT 2 MONTHS I WAS GOING TO TRY TO BUMP INTO HIM. I'M WONDERING IF I SAY, HEY WAS IT SOMETHING I SAID, MAYBE WE'LL TALK. BUT, I WON'T LEAVE THE CONVERSATION WITHOUT SAYING HEY CAN WE TALK ON THE PHONE AT LEAST? ALSO, I CALLED HIM TODAY. I EVEN UNBLOCKED MY NUMBER. SO HE KNOWS IT WAS ME. I LEFT A MESSAGE EVEN. I SAID, HI IT'S ME STEPHANIE, I'M JUST CALLING BECAUSE, I'M MAKING ALL THE LAST PLANS FOR MY PARTY. I HAVEN'T HEARD FROM U YET SO I'M WONDERING IF YOUR COMING AND/OR HOW MANY PEOPLE WOULD U LIKE TO BRING? I SAID, I SAID. I'M SO SORRY FOR ANYTHING I SAID OR DID TO U COULD U PLEASE TELL ME WHAT I DID SO I CAN MAKE IT RIGHT. I MISS TALKING TO U. I HOPE U LET ME KNOW ABOUT THE PARTY TAKE. THEN I LEFT MY NUMBER AGAIN. I HAVEN'T HAD THIS MUCH COMMUNICATION SINCE JUNE. I STAY AWAY. BUT, I FEEL I HAD A REASON TO MAKE THE CALL. I KNOW I WON'T HEAR FROM HIM. DO U THINK HE MIGHT FEEL A LITTLE BAD BECAUSE I'M FEELING BAD AND WANT TO MAKE IT RIGHT AND HE WON'T LET ME? WHAT DO U THINK OF THE PHONE CALL?
CHER, R U THERE?
Hi again, Stephanie and thanks very much for your Excellent rating; it is greatly appreciated!I'll be online for the next few hours if you have more questions.Best regards,Cher
CHER, I SENT U A QUESTION I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW IF U THINK MY X AND I WILL GET BACK TOGETHER? ALSO, I SAID TO THE COP ALL THAT TO MAKE HIM THINK HE'S IN CONTROL. THIS WAY I'M REALLY THE NICE ONE HERE. dO U THINK HE WILL BE THINKING OF M ETHIS WEEK? MAYBE DO A COUPLE OD DRIVE BYES BY MY HOUSE. I HOPE I WANT HIM TO MISS ME. DO U THINK HE WILL?
CHER, DO U THINK I'M DOING THE RIGHT THINGS IN MY LIFE? I JUST WANT THE LAWSUIT OVER AND JUST GO ON WITH MY LIFE WITH MY CHILDREN. A NEW HOME, HAPPINESS. WILL MY X EVER TRY TO GET ME BACK AFTER THIS IS OVER? WILL THE COP REALIZE HE IS THE ONE MISSING OUT? HOW DO U THINK HE'S FEELING IN CONTROL NOW. THAT MAKES HIM REALLY HAPPY. I FEEL HE WANTS ME TO BEG HIM WORK FOR IT DO U BELIEVE HE THINKS THAT'S WHAT I'M DOING BEGGING HIM TO FORGIVE ME GIVE HIM WHAT HE WANTS? DOES THAT MAKE HIM FEEL MACHO NOW? IF I'M GIVING HIM ALL THESE HAPPY EMOTIONS CONTROL WHATEVER. WILL THAT MAKE HIM WANT TO TALK TO ME SOMEDAY? I FEEL IF HE IS GETTING HIS EGO STROKED BY ME HE WILL AT LEAST TRY SOME FORM OF CONTACT IT;S ALL ABOUT HIM? IF HE WANTS ALL THOSE WITH MY MONEY AND I KNOW HE DOES WHEN WILL HE EVER TAKE ANYTHING FROM ME? IF HE'S MACHO MAN? DO U THINK HE WANT'S ME TO BEG FOR THAT TOO? PLEASE DO THIS WITH ME. HE SAID HE WOULD TRAVEL WITH ME WHEN I GET MY MONEY. DO U THINK MAYBE HE'S GETTING WHAT HE WANTED ALL ALONG GET ME TO BEG FOR HIM TO CONTACT ME. THEN HE'LL KNOW JUST HOW TO PLAY ME FOR WHAT HE WANT'S. WE BOTH KNOW HE HATES HIS JOB AND WANTS THE MONEY. IF HE HAS CONTROL OVER ME THEN HE HAS CONTROL OVER THE MONEY. DO U THINK HE THINKS IN HIS MIND THAT OH LOOK I HAVE CONTROL OVER HER KNOW IT'S JUST A MATTER OF TIME TO GET EVERYTHING ELSE?
CHER R U THERE?
CHER, R U STILL UP?
CHER, I LET MY HEAD LEAD MY ACTIONS NOT MY HEART. THAT IS Y I DID THE DIVORCE AND THE LAWSUIT. I TRY TO KEEP MY HEART OUT OF IT. HE IS A WONDERFUL FATHER. I KNOW HE WILL BE THERE FOR THEM. I FEEL THE TEXTS WILL GIVE ME FINAL CLOSURE. BUT, THE COP HAS CONTROL NOW IS HAPPY ABOUT THAT? IF SO IS HE HAPPY I GAVE IT TO HIM? HOW DO U FEEL ABOUT HIM CONTACTING ME SOMEDAY OR IF WE BUMP INTO EACH OTHER WILL HE BE REALLY HAPPY KNOWING HE'S IN CONTROL. DO U THINK THIS IS WHAT HE WANTED FOR ME TO TRY NOT ONLY TO TRY TO BREAK DOWN THE WALLS. BUT, FOR ME TO TRY TO GET HIM BACK INTO MY LIFE SO THEN HE KNOWS I'LL APPRECIATE HIM EVEN MORE AND WANT TO OFFER HIM EVEN MORE. DO STUFF WITH ME BECAUSE I WANT HIM AROUND. AND IF I BEG ENOUGH HE WILL DO IT IF I PAY, BECAUSE, HE WILL FEEL LIKE HOW LUCKY IS SHE I'M HERE. ALSO, DO U THINK HE WILL THINK OF ME MORE NOW? WILL THAT MAKE HIM HAPPY?
CHER I'M CONFUSED, U SAID, HE HAS TO FEEL HE'S RUNNING THE SHOW DOES HE FEEL THAT WAY NOW BECAUSE I GAVE HIM CONTROL WITH PARTY? U SAID THAT'S HOW HE WAS PLANNING OUT HOW U WOULD SPEND THE MONEY BEFORE U EVEN GOT IT? I'M CONFUSED BECAUSE I KNOW THAT THE MONEY WAS WHAT DROVE HIM, BUT IF HE DOESN'T WANT TO BE IN MY LIFE THEN Y CARE ABOUT HOW I SPENT IT? DO U THINK THIS IS WHAT HE WANTED TO DO C IF I WILL KEEP TRYING TO BEG HIM BACK THEN HE CAN CONTROL OF ME AND THE MONEY? I KNOW HE IS MISERABLE RIGHT NOW. BUT, I ALSO FEEL HE THINKS IF I LET HIM KNOW I WANT TO DO THINGS FOR HIM HE WILL LET ME. BECAUSE HE'S IN CONTROL AND I'M BEGGING. WHAT DO U THINK?
R U THERE. CHER?
CHER, NO I AGREE NOT SPEND ANY MONEY ON HIM RIGHT NOW. HE WOULDN'T LIKE THAT. I FEEL BECAUSE. HE ALWAYS SPOKE OF EVERYTHING HE WANTED. THE CONDOS ,CAR AIRPLANE ETC. I FEEL HE NOW HAS CONTROL ANS HE IS HAPPY. I KNOW THAT'S Y HE STAYS AWAY. HE WANT'S THE MONEY BUT, HE HAS TO CONTROL IT AND ME. THIS WAY IF HE COMES BACK AND I KEEP BEGGING FOR HIM TO COME BACK THEN HE HAS CONTROL. THEN IF I BEG FOR HIM TO GO ON A TRIP WITH ME AND HE KNOWS HOW MUCH I WANT HIM TO GO AND I'M SAYING I'M PAYING FOR IT ALL HE'LL COME I THINK. recap, he want's control. now he has it, 2) if i call or make contact with him and beg for him to come back into my life like saying lets at least talk then he knows he's in. 3) the money comes then i say lets go ans do something but, in the meantime i'm still giving him all the control with the communication. So, he knows his in control i offer to pay for everything because, i want him to go so bad now, he's getting what he really wants. i feel this is what he has wanted the whole time that is y i thought this was a game to him. But, this is just who he is. A game to us normal to him. lastly, if i still reach out once in awhile do u think he will be happy to c me when i bump into him? Also, if wants the money which we know that's what he wants is this part of it get me to beg? if so for how long until the money comes in? As i c it he knows his only way out is money.
CHER, I'M NOT SURE IF U GOT MY LAST QUESTION FROM LAST NIGHT. IF HE NOW HAS CONTROL OVER ME WON'T HE WANT TO KEEP CONTROL OVER ME? IF SO HOW DOES SOMEONE LIKE HIM DO THAT WITHOUT CONTACT WITH ME? I WILL WAIT A COUPLE OF MONTHS BEFORE I BUMP INTO HIM DON'T U THINK HE WILL WANT TO TRY TO C ME FIRST? U KNOW KEEP HIM IN MY THOUGHTS SO HE CAN GET THE MONEY AND CONTROL. U KNOW I THINK NOW THAT HE HAS CONTROL OVER ME WON'T HE HAVE TO TRY TO GET CONTROL OF THE MONEY AS WELL? DO U C US GOING OUT TO EAT TOGETHER ANYTIME AT ALL? OR MAYBE AFTER CONTACT? DO U C HIM HAPPY AND NICE TO ME WHEN HE SEES ME? I WONDER IF WHILE ON VACATION HE TOLD HIS FAMILY ABOUT ME AND THEY SAID U BETTER HANG ON TO HER. SO, WHEN HE CAME BACK HE THOUGHT HE SHOULD DO THIS IGNORE ME. ONLY TO GET CONTROL. WHAT DO U THINK? DO U C US SEEING EACH OTHER OVER THE HOLIDAYS? I DON'T MEAN HOLIDAY DINNERS. I MEAN JUST C EACH OTHER? I WOULDN'T WANT HIM TO BE LONELY. DO U C HIM WITH HIS X OR ANY OTHER FRIENDS THAT WOULDN'T ALLOW HIM TO TALK TO ME? I'M SORRY SO MANY QUESTIONS. BUT, THERE ALL ABOUT HIM IF THAT HELPS. ALSO, DO U THINK HE THINKS HIS PLAN IS WORKING? OR DO U C THAT HE WILL NEVER COME BACK AS MY FRIEND EVEN WITH THE MONEY?
Hi again, Stephanie.I hope your Tuesday is going well!I don't feel he has control over YOU, he has control over the situation. Good, I feel continuing with your plan to wait a few months to bump into him is the best way to proceed. I don't see you going out to eat or spending any quality time with him in the near future. If you see him again (not counting bumping into him) and do something, like going out to eat, I feel it will be after the settlement, when he knows you have the money. Even though he doesn't have many friends, he will not spend the holidays alone. It's so kind of you to think he might be lonely! I pick up that you will not see him during the holidays, unless, perhaps these two things happen: your suit is settled and/or when you bump into him accidentally/on purpose, he begins to communicate with you again. He also may be assigned to work over the holidays. He may have mentioned you to his family when he was on vacation, because the circumstances of the suit are interesting and you said the story was in the papers, etc. You weren't really 'dating', so he didn't mention you as a 'girlfriend'. I don't think any of his friends are telling him not to see you, but if he is still communicating with his ex, she may have said something, if he told her about you. The feeling I get about him for the time being, is that you need to allow him to make the next move and give you an indication that he would like to continue to communicate. If he doesn't give that signal, then you can bump into him in a couple of months and see where that leads.
I AGREE! SO, BASICALLY IT COMES DOWN TO THE MONEY? IF I HAD IT YET WE COULD HAVE LUNCH. BUT, SINCE I DON'T NO LUNCH. IF I BUMP INTO HIM AND HE KNOWS EITHER I GOT THE MONEY OR HE KNOWS IT'S COMING SOON I WONDER IF THEN WILL SPEND TIME TOGETHER? I DIDN'T MEAN HE TOLD HIS FAMILY I WAS HIS GIRLFRIEND I JUST FIGURED SENSE CONTROL FREAKS R MADE THAT WAY HIS FAMILY HAS ISSUES TO. SO, I FELT HE MIGHT HAVE TOLD THEM THE STORY AND THEY SAID, U BETTER HANG ON TO HER. THAT'S WHAT I MEANT THE START OF THE GAME. DO U THINK IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MONEY? IF HE IS NOT ONE TO HAVE PEOPLE SPEND MONEY ON HIM THAN WHATS HIS PLAN FOR ME AND THE MY MONEY. U SAID, HE HAS CONTROL OVER THE SITUATION DOSEN'T HE WANT CONTROL OVER ME TO?
Hi again, Stephanie.I'm glad you agree! : ) Yes, it basically comes down to the money. You thought from the beginning that this was the stimulus for the 'game' and that's what he was interested in. Yes, it's possible that he mentioned the situation to his family and when they heard there may be a lot of money involved, they may have advised him to hang on to you; but then we come down to why he seemed to cut off communications after he returned from vacation. He may have felt he'll play it cool and not seem ultra-interested, that would pique your interest and you would contact him......yet, when you did, he didn't seem interested. He may be waiting for the 'right' time, meaning the time you have the money. He doesn't want to feel like he's taking 'handouts' from anyone, yet, he wants to live the good life. I feel that he thinks if he has control over the situation, you're involved in the situation, therefore, he has control over you, too.Just wanted to let you know I need to be away from the computer for a short while, to make dinner, so, if you reply and don't hear right back, you'll know I'm here, but away from the keyboard.
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CHER, LETS RECAP FOR ME SO I UNDERSTAND. HE WANTS TO LIVE THE GOOD LIFE. HE HAS CONTROL OF THE SITUATION THEREFOR HE THINKS HE HAS CONTROL OF THE MONEY. WHAT DOES YOUR 6TH SENSE TELL U Y HE LEFT? I THINK IT WAS BECAUSE HE WANTED ME TO MISS HIM. THEN, I WILL CALL HIM WHICH I DID. BUT, IF HE KNEW I MIGHT GET SICK OF HIM BEFORE THE MONEY CAME THEN THERE IS NO CHANCE OF GETTING ANY MONEY. ISN'T HE GETTING WHAT HE WANTED CONTROL? I WOULD SAY HE IS SITTING BACK AND WAITING HE KNOWS WHAT HES DOING HES METHODICAL. DO U AGREE? BUT Y DID HE LEAVE DO U THINK HE WOULD JUST WALK AWAY FROM A POTENTIAL WAY OUT OF HIS MESS? OR MAYBE HE FOUND SOMEONE ELSE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM? DO U AGREE WITH THAT? OR IS HE JUST TO LOST FOR THAT? DO U THINK WHEN I START ENJOYING THE GOOD LIFE DO U C HIM IN IT AT ALL? I MEAN JUST ANY LITTLE THING. WILL OUR COMMUNICATION AND SEEING EACH OTHER INCREASE?
CHER, HERE'S THE WORST NEWS WE GOT TODAY! ONE OF THE GIRLS ON MY DAUGHTERS CHEERLEADING SQUAD DIED TODAY. I GUESS SHE WAS SICK FOR A LITTLE WHILE THEN DIED. HER NAME WAS DIANA, SHE WAS ONLY 17 YEARS OLD. I CRIED ALL MORNING. MY DAUGHTER IS HAVING A REALLY HARD TIME WITH IT. THOSE POOR PARENT'S. THAT IS WAY TO YOUNG TO DIE.i SENT A MASS TEXT TO ALL THE PARENTS I SAID, THIS, DEAR PARENTS, ITS A SAD AS WE MOURN THE LOSS OF DIANA SHE PASSED AWAY THIS MORNING. KAYLA WANT'S TO DO SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR HER. I KNOW THE CHEERLEADERS WILL WANT TO HELP. FEEL FREE TO CALL OR E-MAIL KAYLA OR ME STEPHANIE WITH ANY SUGGESTIONS AS TO REMEMBER DIANA. THERE WILL BE NO PRACTICE TODAY. CALL COACH DANIELS FOR MORE INFORMATION. LETS PRAY FOR HER AND HER FAMILY. HUG YOUR CHILDREN TONIGHT. GOD BLESS, STEPHANIE AND KAYLA. I SENT THAT OUT TO EVERYONE. EVEN THE COP GOT IT. NOW, IF I READ THIS I WOULD HAVE THE HEART TO CALL ME AND TELL ME HOW SORRY I AM. I FEEL SO BAD. BUT, THEN SO GRATEFUL FOR WHAT I HAVE. WHAT DO U THINK THE COP THOUGHT WHEN HE READ THIS? I HAVE HAD ALL ME FRIENDS TODAY TELL ME THEY R SO PROUD TO BE MY FRIEND BECAUSE, I HAVE SUCH A CARING HEART. CAN A CONTROL FREAK ISSUED COP HAVE A HEART AND TELL WHAT GOOD PEOPLE WE R. HAVE A GOOD DINNER, I'LL WAIT FOR YOUR REPLY.
Hi Stephanie,I am so sorry to hear this heart wrenching news about Diana. It's just unbelievable and so sad when anyone passes away, but such a young girl! Too sad for words.....You did a very nice thing in letting the other parents know and helping your daughter plan something at school and for Diana's family, to show your support at this very difficult time. You do have a very big heart and everyone who knows you is aware of this.Back to the cop. Yes, he wants to live the good life, he thinks he has control of the situation, but he doesn't have control of the money. YOU have control of the money; if you allow him to enter your life after the settlement and have control of you, then he might think he has control of the money, but you will always have control of that.My sixth sense tells me that he left because he has so many personal and financial problems, he's just not into communicating with anyone at this time. Yes, part of it may have been to make you miss him and maybe he thought, as you suspected, that you might become tired of him before the money came in, and then you wouldn't be together at that time. He may be manipulating the situation so it turns out best for him, because that's what he does best. The manipulation would give him control.Yes, methodical goes along with control and manipulation and is a great way to describe his M.O. He does know what he's doing, all the time--clever as a fox. I keep saying I don't feel he's with another woman, but it's very possible he might have found someone else (perhaps even a male friend or a relative) who is helping him out and he's thinking less of your potential windfall. At this point, I feel that once you are living the good life, you might be communicating with him more often, but at least at the very beginning, he won't be in your life on a very steady basis. Because he has so many problems now, it's difficult to read him so far into the future.
Please rate when you are satisfied with my answer. My only goal is your satisfaction!Best regards,Cher
CHER, I JUST RATED U AGAIN EXCELLENT. YES, IT'S SO SAD WHAT HAPPENED, WERE TRYING TO GET OUR DAUGHTER THRU IT. WHEN I SENT THE MASS TEXT THE COP GOT ONE. HE HAD TO READ IT. WHAT DO U THINK HE THOUGHT OF THE TEXT? IF HE HAD A HEART HE WOULD AT LEAST CALL OR TEXT AND CHECK ON US. Y WON'T HE BE IN MY LIFE ON A STEADY BASIS? IF HE WANTS THE GOOD LIFE? DOES HE THINK BECAUSE HE FEELS HE HAS CONTROL OVER ME HE'S HAPPY? IF HE IS AS CLEVER AS A FOX THEN THERE IS A REASON BEHIND ALL OF THIS RIGHT? IF AFTER I BUMP INTO HIM DOWN THE ROAD AND I TRY TO COMMUNICATE ALL THE TIME WITH HIM AGAIN, AND HE SEES ME HAVING A GOOD LIFE AND I BEG FOR HIM TO COME AND DO STUFF HE WANTS TO DO, DO U THINK HE WOULD DO IT? REMEMBER HE HAS CONTROL. IF HE DOES HAVE CONTROL DO U THINK HE THINKS MORE ABOUT ME? ALSO, BECAUSE HE GOT THE TEXT ABOUT DIANA WHAT DO U THINK HE THINKS OF ME NOW?
CHER, I'M GLAD HE WILL THINK NICE THINGS ABOUT ME. DO U THINK HE WILL THINK MORE ABOUT ME NOW SINCE THE TEXT WAS SENT THIS AFTERNOON? I DIDN'T EXPECT HIM TO CONTACT ME TO SAY GOOD JOB. I JUST THOUGHT TO SAY HEY, HOW R U AND YOUR DAUGHTER DOING? Y WON'T HE BE IN MY LIFE ON A STEADY BASIS? I THINK HE THINKS ABOUT MY LAWSUIT EVERYDAY WHEN HE GOES TO WORK. A JOB HE SAYS HE HATES. WE KNOW EVERYONE DOESEN'T LIKE HIM BECAUSE HE'S TOO HAPPY! IF HES CLEVER AS A FOX THAN WHAT DOES YOUR 6TH SENSE THINK ABOUT Y/ WHAT IS HE DOING? IS HIS CLEVERNESS TRYING TO GET HIM TO ENJOY THE EASY LIFE? BECAUSE, NOW HE KNOWS WHAT A GOOD HEART I HAVE.
R U THERE CHER?
Please rate when you are satisfied with my answer. My only goal is your satisfaction!Best regards,Cher
CHER, I KNOW BUT, HES SERIOUS HE SAYS WHEN HE COMES ON AT 6:OO AM HE'S JUST TOO HAPPY AND THEY DON'T LIKE HIM, HE SAYS HIS BOSS AND HIS CO-WORKERS HATE HIM. THAT'S ONE REASON HE HATES HIS JOB. U MENTIONED HE WILL NOT BE IN MY LIFE ON A STEADY BASIS. SO, U MADE IT SOUND TO ME IF HE IS IN MY LIFE AT ALL HIS CLEVERNESS WILL TRY TO GET HIM TO ENJOY THE GOOD LIFE. SO, DOES HE WANT TO BE IN MY LIFE TO ENJOY THE MONEY OR DOES HE WANT TO JUST STAY AWAY? I'M CONFUSED. I KNOW HES PLAYING A GAME. BUT, WHAT?
SO, BASICALLY HE WOULD LIKE TO ENJOY THE MONEY BUT I HAVE TO KEEP WANTING HIM. YOUR RIGHT ABOUT THE COMMUNICATION JUST STOPED AFTER THE VACATION. BUT U KNOW I HAVE SENT HIM 2 PERSONAL TEXTS THAT HAVE NOTHING TO DO WITH HIM ONLY MY DAUGHTER AND I AND HE HASN'T CALLED OR TEXTED BACK DON'T SEND THESE TO ME. I THINK HE LIKES KNOWING WHATS GOING ON IN MY LIFE. WHAT DO U THINK? ALSO, IF HE DID HE KNOWS I WOULD SORRY NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN AGAIN, THEN THERE IS NO FURTHER CONTACT FOR SURE. TELL ME DO U THINK HE LIKES KNOWING WHATS GOING ON IN MY LIFE? TELL ME YOUR OPINION ON WHAT HE IS DOING? DO U AGREE HE'S DOING EVERYTHING HE CAN TO GET THE MONEY? PLAY ANY GAME? DO U THINK HE WANTS TO COME BACK WHEN HE KNOWS THE MONEY IS HERE? WILL HE COME BACK? I'VE GIVEN UP CONTROL.
CHER, I JUST RATED U AGAIN, I HOPE IT HELPS.
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YOUR RIGHT, I'M JUST GOING TO STAY AWAY. I GUESS HE JUST DOSEN'T WANT ME IN HIS LIFE. I HAVE TO ACCEPT THAT. BUT, THE LAST TEXTS WERE JUST MASS TEXTS NOT MET FOR HIM. SO I FIGURED IF IT BOTHERED HIM HE COULD TEXT OR CALL AND SAY HEY I'M GETTING THESE TEXTS TAKE ME OUT OF THERE. BUT, HE WASN'T SO I FIGURED HE LIKED KNOWING ABOUT MY LIFE WITHOUT IT BEING PERSONAL, ONE LAST THING. DO U THINK I'LL EVER BE ABLE TO CONVINCE HIM TO ENJOY THE GOOD LIFE WITH ME?
CHER, YOUR RIGHT! I WILL STAY AWAY. SEND ONLY CERTAIN TEXT MESSAGES . I WILL PLAN ON BUMPING INTO HIM INTO A COUPLE OF MONTHS AND TRY TO SEE IF HE WILL BE MY FRIEND AND SPEND TIME WITH ME. I WILL TRY ONE MORE TIME THEN MOVE ON. THANK U FOR EVERYTHING.