Aloha!

I hope all is well with you!

I think you're on to something.......he may not want you to feel he's 'fleeing/avoiding' so you don't take it the wrong way. Then, as he gets closer to the time he will return, he'll start writing more often and that 'fence' he normally puts up around his emotions, will not be there. A very intuitive thought and it makes sense!

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

No, I don't think he really 'cringes' when he gets an email from you, but if he's in the middle of something important or has a lot on his mind, he doesn't want to write back to you right away. If he's answering immediately, more recently, this is a good sign. Something has changed, and for the better, in your direction. His time to return may be nearing, and he is looking forward to seeing you. I don't feel that you're 'reaching', because you have evidence that he's enjoying your emails and writing back quickly, so I think this bodes well for when he gets back to the Island.

My intuition is innate. I'm a third generation psychic, and have always felt I had a 'gift', as did my mother and grandmother before me. My daughter also is blessed in this way. I use astrology, also. I believe a lot is written in the stars.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

Yes, I believe you had mentioned you were a natural intuitive also, and I'm not surprised! Your feelings have been right, many times! : ) Isn't it funny how it runs in families?

The way you wrote earlier, I thought he was responding to your emails immediately, now, so thanks for the clarification. I feel he's beginning to think about returning home, but has not taken care of everything he needs to, so he plans for a day to leave, but then something else comes up and oops, he has to put it off again. If things go smoothly with him, the end of this week, or the middle of next week might be the time he's thinking of coming home this time around. But, again, things might come up which are out of his control, and may prevent that.

I think he's considering the idea of having you meet the new baby, especially because you share the same birthday and all, but he hasn't made up his mind completely on that one, yet. He might feel too pressured if the children are coming soon after he returns, so he may not be able to squeeze you in before their arrival. It all depends on if he feels 'accomplished' when he leaves Washington, and comes back to the Island without too much on his mind.

Best regards,
CherCher40764.2775798264

Hi again,

Yes, I was thinking along the same lines.....if he is considering a 'stop by', you will get to see each other, you'll meet the baby and his son (and/or daughter if she's there). It would be very 'casual' and the main purpose would be to meet his new grandson! That's a great plan, I hope HE thinks of it! : )

I'm so glad you now have a direction for your final chapter! You ARE a multitasker....but then again, a lot of your life experience is what's going into your book, right? I'm also a multitasker; we women/moms have to be!

Words/language are my 'thing'! lol Yes, I love scrabble, too! lol

Well, it's time for me to say goodnight for now (it's after 3 AM), so if you reply, I'll get back to you tomorrow.....

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

Good morning! : )

Thanks very much for your accept and most generous bonus; also, your positive feedback is always greatly appreciated!

Back to you.......I think Chris is hoping you don't take it the wrong way that he is not emailing you as often as he did, but at this particular time, he has a lot on his mind and just doesn't have the time for emailing. When he included "all is well" re: the postponed lunch, yes, I think he meant, all is well 'with us', so don't worry that I had to postpone the lunch; it couldn't be helped.

I'm pretty sure he does think about you when he has 'quiet' moments and his mind is less occupied with work stuff. Thoughts of you 'creep' into his mind when he's relaxed, and although he knows you're intuitive, no, I don't think he thinks you're 'on to him'. He may not be able to get away with not telling you the truth, because THAT, I think he knows you'll 'see through', but that would also be related to your history together, coupled with your intuitive nature.

I hope you'll hear from him soon, so at least you'll be more sure of when he's coming home!

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

I'll start with the last question, first. Yes, I think he is very distressed and angry that his ex has not made an effort to see the baby! There's no way to rationalize her actions.

It IS a catch-22 if he can't email you yet, but he's worried that you might misinterpret it as him not being interested, which is not true. Yes, I mentioned last night that he IS anxious to have the trip over with and get home, but every time he tries to tie up loose ends, something else crops up, which needs his attention and he keeps on having to postpone his return home. He's annoyed at this, and wants to get home already. He does miss you and wants to email you, but feels he can't do that til he's home.

I hope you're having a good day, so far! : )

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

It doesn't surprise him, but he wants not to miss you and not to think about you, as his thoughts of you are distracting him from his work. If you are picking up on a guy friend that you actually have seen or know about, then yes, I think he is confiding in someone and it would make sense that it is this guy friend with which he's close. If his daughter knows a little about the situation, that may be why she gave you the cold shoulder.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

Oh, I see what I was thinking of, when you said "He wanted me to meet his daughter a few months back, but I didn't feel comfortable, didn't want to freak her out or anything. He had always been clear that it might bother her, but then he insisited that I meet her..shes 22..I THINK he has mentioned me to one or both kids...."

When he insisted that you meet her, I thought you had.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

Yes, I realize you never actually met her, but what you had said earlier, was in the back of my mind when I answered, thinking you had met her. : )

Although Chris has always been a confirmed bachelor, OR he's trying to 'appear' that way, otherwise his 'reputation' will be destroyed, he was surprised to find himself in this situation at first, but it's sort of 'growing' on him and he's starting to enjoy it, slowly but surely.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

Well, now that you mentioned he has a horse, I can't get the picture of you two riding the horse on a beautiful beach at sunset! How romantic! : ) No, I don't think that's going to happen, but it just sparked a beautiful vision in my mind's eye. A man will always have the 'obvious' in mind, and I'm glad you're planning in advance not to go there. I think he wants to wait and see how lunch goes and then, if the mood strikes him, he might ask you back to his place. The horse is a great 'excuse', if you feel things are going well, and you'd like to 'hint' at an invitation back to his place.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

I had in the back of my mind that he was going to be away for three weeks; I don't know why--it may have been something you mentioned in the past. Your thought that he may be blowing you off is coming into your mind because you haven't heard from him. You said he usually doesn't email when he's away, so let's wait and see what happens when he comes home.

Oh, poor Greg.....I'm sorry he looked bad. He'll be okay, but it will take a while. The 'wound' is still fresh. You didn't do anything wrong and if you were honest, he should be grateful. Some women give the 'it's not you, it's me' speech just to make the man feel better, and while it may help to spare their feelings, they will keep going back and doing the same 'wrong' things in future relationships, so I feel it's always best to be honest. You are not the type of woman who can tolerate being smothered (I'm not, either, so I know exactly where you're coming from). You did him a favor by telling him honestly, why you can't continue with him and I think it will take him a while to get over you, but he'll move on eventually and start feeling/looking better. Rejection is always hard on both men and women, and we know that all too well.

Just curious; did you bump into him or seek him out, today?

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again,

No, I don't think he realized he came on too strong, too fast. This is how he is. Not that he's selfish; like you said, he wanted to get to the meat of "us". When you're a mom and have a career and have been married before, plus a zillion other things going on in your life, simultaneously, there's usually NOT enough of you to spare, without interruptions from your life. He was like a horse wearing blinders......he only wanted to see YOU and have you to himself, with all your attention focused on the two of you. Some men cannot focus on anything but the relationship and can't handle things that come up in the woman's life. It's not his fault; it's inborn, it's who he is. That's why he didn't realize he came on too strong, too fast. The jealousy and possessiveness usually come along with this type of personality. I've been there, done that. That's why I think you did the best thing in letting him know you couldn't continue the way things were.

Best regards,
Cher

Hi again, and you're most welcome!

I'm sensing that he will want to discuss being seen in public with you, just because the island is so small and everyone sees everyone, as you mentioned, at least once a day, and everyone knows a lot about everyone else. It's not that he'd be ashamed to be seen with you, but he doesn't want tongues to start wagging. I think he will let you know that he wants to continue to see you, but he might not just come out and say it; he might 'imply' it.

Best regards,
Cher