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Dear Cher,thankyou for replying to my email. I have been married for 30 years !!! Yes I know a long time . We have 3 fantastic children one in New York at school , one in London working for an investment Bank. and one here in Greece as an artist . We divorced 3 0r 4 years ago but I stayed on in the marital home but he told me I was just a tenant and I should pay rent and half the bills etc Eventually I moved into my own apartment as I was in a bad psychological state. But he comes to the house often and calls me on the phone . We share Christmas and Easter holidays to gether but this is not easy for me . He owes me house either here in Greece or in the UK but I find house hunting overwhelming as times but living in Greece as a divorced woman is very difficult and I am very lonely. I am very close to my daughter here . But the UK seems attractive to me as I m home in a way .
I am 60 and Damien is 65...not a time to be alone. My birthdate is 21 Oct 1950 Damien is 22 Jan 1946. We do not have any significant other . We divorced for stupid reasons.....hes very cold . successful,and dismissive . Im very sensitive and outgoing. It worked in the beginning but now its very tressful . He wants total obedience from me !! and he thinks I had it good withhim !! . We travelled a great deal as he was with the World Bank but I was always left with the children etc
My favorite colour is green his is blue. Enough for now . Can you help ??
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I don't think that you divorced for stupid reasons. If he was cold dismissive and you are sensitive, this is a good reason not to be together. Many people divorce for this reason and now is your second chance to find happiness. You seem like you're a light waiting to shine and you said yourself that you are outgoing so you need someone to complement you and not to weigh you down and keep you down, which is what it seems he's doing, especially during th holidays, because he himself does not want to be alone and is leaching off your spirit and your energy.
My best advice is to move to the UK where you are comfortable becuase you deserve it and try to meet someone new who is also looking for someone like you who is completely different than your ex, someone who gives you the freedom to be yourself and who accepts you for who you are makes you comfortable.
Sometimes things happen and maybe you were meant to have the life you had in the past maybe for your children, etc., but now is your time and you need to take charge and meet someone who shares your passions and will make you happy as you deserve to be.