I am sorry I still need some qlarifications:
1.Can you please define the 'spouse priviledge'? Does that mean that I don't have to testify against him? Does that apply if we have been devorced?
2. I haven't spoken to his girlfriend yet. But she has found my work number. And she's been leaving threatening messages that if I won't speak with her she will come to my work and make a scandal. That's the last thing that I need. I work in the city (NYU) in a very good firm and I really don't need this. So I probably have no choice.