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Unless you are under a court order to respond to him via email, then you're not doing anything legally wrong. He could always TRY to use it against you, but if this is the first time he's contacted you in almost a year and he didn't inquire about his child, it's unlikely that he'd be successful. It would depend on the nature of the email, but it's unlikely.
I doubt you have much to worry about then. If you don't feel comfortable responding, you do not legally have to.
If there are no court orders, you're still likely not going to have any issues. He might say at some point that you were trying to keep her away from him, but he's going to have a hard time making that argument if it's been almost two years since he last contacted you.
Yeah, I think you're okay from a legal standpoint. He has had what he needs to contact you and if he wanted to do so, he could have before now. Although, do be prepared that he may decided to involve a court and attorney at some point if he keeps contacting you and gets no response. It may be in your best interest to respond to him to find out what he wants, so that you're not surprised by a court case.
At this point it's completely up to you. You're not obligated to respond.
If he's not on the birth certificate, he's not the legal father. He would have to go court and have a Judge declare him the legal father. This would likely involve a DNA test. And then he'd probably be ordered to pay child support as well.
Now: That being said, if she's in daycare/school or something like that, you need to make sure that they are aware that he has no privileges to pick her up. He does not have any legal right to pick her up, but unfortunately, sometimes people don't ask for proof or disregard pick up permission lists, etc. It's better to be proactive on that front.
No, you can't get in trouble for not asking for child support. If you ever needed assistance from the State (food stamps, etc), you would probably be asked to start the process because the State doesn't want to support your child if there's another person in the picture could be legally obligated to do so. But if you're making it fine on your own and able to provide for her without his help, you're not breaking any laws.
You probably won't get any back support. Courts usually don't give back support when the alleged father has been known all along, and the other parent has made a choice to not pursue support.