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Q: if either of the parents need a babysitter that they would use the other parent first and if the other parent is not available then get a babysitter my daughter is now 13 and i want to know does this still stand or can we not do this
A: Unsurprisingly, there is no law on this subject. Judges expect parents to use common sense when figuring out these types of issues. In my opinion, 13 years old is old enough to leave at home for a few hours without a babysitter. My guess is that if one of the parents did that, and the other took that parent to court and argued contempt for failing to get that parent to watch the child, then the judge would probably be irritated for wasting the court's time. Of course, the facts in any situation is important. If the parent intended to leave the child alone for a full day, then that may be different. Again, it's a matter of common sense.
Q: I also want to know when can I move her out of state
A: While she's still a minor (i.e., under 18), you can only move her out of state if (1) the father agrees, or (2) the court agrees. The court will only agree if you can convince the court that it's in your child's best interests. Generally, that is a fairly high burden, but it also depends on all the facts. For example, if you live near the state border, and you want to move to the other side of the border in another state, and you'll still be close by, then a judge may be more likely to entertain the request. But if you plan to move 2000 miles away, then the move would obviously have a negative impact on the child's relationship with her father, and therefore, a court would be less likely to grant the request. So the specific facts in your case are important. But in any event, you must convince a judge that the move would be in the child's best interest.
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