Yes, I understand. I am actually in Maine right now. I'm licensed in NY but live up here.
But there is no reason why he can't let your daughter in the house even if he has someone who has been helping him with the kids. His female friend may be more than a friend and I would keep my eyes open to that possibility. Why wouldn't he let your daughter back in the house if it's just a friend? I don't buy that -- something fishy is going on here and I'm afraid of what it is. I think she needs a lawyer immediately. I don't believe he called the police and I don't believe his story that she's refusing to leave.
Okay, thank you for that information. I'm on the right track here. I do believe there is something going on and it's disgraceful he's doing anything in front of the kids. She needs to have an attorney make a motion to vacate the protective order and that there's no reason for the order, that she was going to come back with the kids, etc. A family lawyer should help her get the order vacated, answer the petition about the order, and put in a petition to see the children, to throw him out of the house if necessary, etc. There are a lot of things that can be done here. She can possibly get a restraining order against him, including that he can't have his "friend" be with the kids. It is terrible for the kids. I'm an attorney for the child in my state -- like a guardian ad litem in yours. I represent children. This is terrible for the kids and they will be upset and confused, no matter what their age.
Just let me know if you want names of lawyers.
If he knows how to get her to believe him, I doubt he's dropping anything, and if he's been cheating on her for years, he's doing it again, I'm sorry to say.