Here's what I said, verbatim:
"What I said is that you can travel abroad without permission, so long as there's not a court order in place governing child custody / visitation. I'm saying though that there's the possibility that she could obtain an order that could stop you, and there's a possibility that you might run into issues without a letter of consent allowing that travel (depending on the airport / country that you enter). I'm not saying that you can't do that. I never said that you can't do it. All I said was that you can,subject to the passport, court order, and potential letter of consent issues.
The only real way around all those "subject to" conditions is a court order that gives you the right to travel with or without her consent, and that's generally only issued as part of a custodial order that gives you custody rights. It's a lawsuit known as a Suit Affecting the Parent Child Relationship (SAPCR) that would be needed to get that court order that gives you the right to do so."
It CAN be used without filing for divorce. It's not only for divorces. Separations can apply too. You only stated:
there are no ongoing court proceedings of any sort we are marriedno divorce filedno pending court ordersno history of any matters
Custody is when two parties are living apart. Again, I'm sorry that I wasn't more clear. You stated that you're married and not divorced, but didn't say that you're living together and not contemplating divorce or separation. You never stated that you were still living together, and the indication is that you were having a disagreement, where you'd be traveling without your wife. So at best it was a misunderstanding, but nothing was explicitly stated that you were still living together... only that you were still married and not divorced and no court proceedings at the time.