Q: What about the mental distress that this will now cause my son.
A: You can only win a lawsuit for mental distress if (1) the distress was severe and generally accompanied by physical symptoms, and (2) the defendant's conduct was so extreme and outrageous, it would be considered atrocious and utterly intolerable in a civilized society. I don't think this situation would rise to that level.
Q: Also I spent money on plane tickets for early flights to assure my son would play this week.
A: Unfortunately, that's a risk that you took. The team wouldn't be responsible for plane tickets even if you otherwise had a viable claim.
Q: I have communication from the director and coach about him being placed on team ect. The issue I have is this man is dictating my son's ability to play local ball purely on the fact that I called him out on how unprofessional and unorganized they are.
A: I understand that, but the problem is that your son does not have a legal right to be on a football team. In other words, if you were to sue, you would have to provide a judge with legal authority which states that the team has a legal obligation to allow your son to play. But there is no such law. Also, as mentioned earlier, even if there were such a law, there is no time to get a ruling before the football season is over. Your recourse is a refund.
I know this is frustrating, and I really wish that I had better news. But I need to be honest with you.