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Thank you for using Just Answer. I look forward to assisting you. I'm sorry to hear your grandson is having a difficult time with visitation.What you are describing is not contempt. Contempt occurs when a person violates an existing court order/agreement. For example, if the custody agreement said that the father was never to cut the child's hair, and he does anyway, he could be held in contempt. Quite honestly, in my professional opinion based upon experience, I think a judge would tell the parents to "work it out" between themselves and that these aren't issues that need to come before the court. If talking to the father about the issues (more specifically the spraying of the clothes which is causing an allergic reaction) isn't getting through to him, then the mother may want to try a letter from her attorney to stress that his cooperation is necessary for the well-being of the child and that if it continues she will consider going before the judge.Mom can certainly petition the court to modify the agreement to have a provision added that the parents will each take care not to use heavy perfumes, lotions, sprays, etc. around the child to prevent any allergic reaction. She can also petition the court to change the visitation agreement to stop overnight visitation, although she would have to show that there is some sort of danger or harm coming to the child by him staying overnight with the father (e.g., he is coming back with bruises, constant diaper rash from not being changed, dirty, etc). I understand he is acting out when he gets back, but at 15 months, it's hard to know what is going on. It could very well be that the child has difficulty adjusting to being away from mom and then coming back. What I'm telling you though is that without some sort of substantial change, the court will be reluctant to change the agreement.If you need clarification about my answer or additional information, please use the SEND or REPLY button to continue our conversation. Your satisfaction is my goal and I am here to help!Once satisfied with the answer, please remember to kindly leave a positive rating for me by clicking on the stars, as that is the only way experts are paid for their time even though you may have already paid a deposit to the site. Thank you!
Unless specifically court ordered not to, yes, he can have the child's hair cut without having to ask. Much like he wouldn't have to ask whether he could dress the child in a certain outfit or take him to the park, he doesn't have to ask the mother for permission. That is something as I said that a judge would typically say is not for a court to decide (family courts are not there to micromanage every detail about how parents are to raise their children). I think mom needs to communicate with dad in email --and if she talks to him about the child over the phone or in person follow up via email -- and save all communications or lack thereof from him. Then she can show the court at a hearing that she's been trying to talk to dad about A, B, C and D and he doesn't care. I think then she's in a better position to seek modification of the custody agreement because it shows dad isn't acting in the best interest of the child.If the court ORDERED that he communicate via email about the child with mom and he refuses, that's contempt. But a judge just saying from the bench something like "You need to do a better job of talking to mom about your son" isn't contempt if he doesn't do it. It has to be in a written order/agreement.