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In order to get around the requirement to serve the other parent you may want to try and file for abandonment so that the court can terminate the fathers rights to the child if he has not made any efforts to contact the child over the last few years. Here is a good resource. http://www.wkfamilylaw.com/practice-areas/child-abandonment-laws-in-california-faq/
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