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In a case like this the best way to handle it is through an annulment, if the judge will grant one. That way there was no community property or debt ever acquired. If you get a lawyer they can handle getting him served by "substituted service".
If he was married at the time then no, you weren't married since you can't be married to two people at the same time. The issue of consummation isn't an issue any more.
You can find a lawyer to assist you by going to www.lawyers.com and in the section for Area of Practice enter Civil Litigation or Consumer Law. Either of those will have the skill set you need.
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