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While I understand feeling as if you would hurt your sister's feelings, the reality is she is sitting in jail right now because of the poor choices she made. These poor choices have not only impacted her, but her children, and given that her older son already has issues from previous substance abuse use, clearly this has been an ongoing struggle for her, and one she hasn't been able to beat.
A court would look to do what is in the best interest of the children. I think you know, but want reassurance, that what is in their best interest is not to be with their mother right now. Even if she is sent to out patient rehab, rehab is about getting one's self straightened out, kicking the addiction, so that they can rebuild their life. She can't do that if she has to focus on the children. And really, if she thinks she can, she's only fooling herself and others, because if she could have, she would have already.
Temporary doesn't mean forever, as you know. She needs to stop being selfish and needs to grow up, to be quite honest. I don't mean to sound harsh, but she has children who depend on her. They can't depend on her if she won't take her treatment seriously, if she doesn't focus on getting herself off drugs, and her life in order. Once she shows she can do that, she's ready to be a parent. But right now? You'd be doing the children a disservice delivering them back to their mother.
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