I don't know what happened, and there isn't enough information here for me to give a detailed explanation because this is very vague, but I can answer it and I'll presume that 1) the police came out twice, 2) there was domestic violence reported, and I do know that 3) your 6 year old is scared of him, and 4) whatever he did, of a domestic violence (DV) nature, he did in the presence of the child. The other thing I don't know is if he's going to serve you for the application but I'm going to presume he is because he told you about it.
I represent children in NY as an Attorney for the Child, like a Guardian ad litem (GAL) in your state. I look at things from all perspectives including and especially the perspective of the child.
If he's submitting papers and serving you, I presume you will be there to argue against him. You need a lawyer right away. Of course he did this on a Friday so you didn't have time to get a lawyer. If you call some lawyers right now you might be able to find someone working late. Let me know where you are right away and I'll send you a list of family lawyers in your area so you can start making phone calls.
You need to argue that there have been DV fights for (how long now?) _____ months/years, that they are in the presence of the child, that the child is afraid of him, and that he expresses no remorse afterwards. If he does express remorse, leave that part out.
Tell the court that you are the one who takes care of the child, you take the child to school, to doctors, to appointments, to the park, etc. and that you're the one raising the child. In that event, the court will hear that you are the primary caretaker.
You have to state this: it's not in the best interests of the child to be with him. He scares her and he intimidates her and me. He's not interested in custody, he just wants to make sure I don't get it and he's controlling.
Tell the judge that you don't start anything and that you are the victim and that --and this is very important -- the child is the victim of your husband's DV behavior. In that event, they will look to put him out of the house, not you.
If there is more you can tell me let me know.
In the meantime, you may have time to call lawyers in your area. I will still be here so let me know what town/city you're near so I can send you a list of lawyers immediately.
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