Hello, A year and a half ago, my wife left me because I had said to her that our marriage
was over and unless she would seek therapy or counseling which I said I would be happy to join her I am leaving.
She never attempted to fix herself or the marriage. Then on February 9th 2014, while on our marriage anniversary vacation, I had enough of her negativity and her insults. I went back to the hotel room and packed my bags and left her there. I called her from my cell phone shortly after while on my way back to Los Angeles and I said to her that I had enough, its over and when she gets back from the balance of the trip, we should discuss a plan to separate and what and how to tell the children.
When she came back, I could see in her eyes that she was ready for war, and that is exactly what she did. She went to war with me.
She started by saying lets make this as peaceful as possible and mediate to also be discrete and save money from not hiring attorneys. We I learned that that is exactly what she did all the while saying to me everyday, we are just going to mediate, right? and I would say yes, when are we going to get started? She would say whenever you are ready. I would say now, and she would have an excuse why she couldn't do it now.
Three months later, I find divorce
papers in my mail box. They were never even personally served to me. I almost missed the first hearing and only had one week to research and find an attorney and fill a request for an extension due to improper service.
Her lying to me, saying we were going to mediate all the while planning her attack to catch me off guard resulted in me making a bad choice in legal representation. The following year and a half I never saw a judge yet our attorneys managed to negotiate on our behalf and my attorney making decisions on my behalf only hurt me instead of helped me. They negotiated alimony
and child support
on the disomaster based on a phony or incorrect tax return my wife put together. When I finally figured out what happened, I provided them with the correct tax return stamped by the IRS. It fell on deaf ears and no one did anything about it until I had enough of no results and I said I am not doing anything until I recieve an accurate and fair response to this situation. They finally agreed to a lessor amount but in my opinion still too much and has completely drained me of my savings along with the money I had put aside for my older son's college tuition. I live paycheck to paycheck and I am self employed and work off commissions in real estate sales. After my expenses, some of which were her expenses that I have to pay, I have nothing left to survive. I am falling behind in my payments on everything.Our deal was I would work my ass off to provide a better life, and she would stay at home and play on facebook all day, stick the bill payments in the mail and then pick up the kids from after school program around 5 or 6pm.
She never paid the bills and was pocketing the money. On top of that she had been forging my signature on my checks almost cleaning out one entire account. She then started trying to get me out of my house. The house I bought 5 years before I ever met her. She said she was going to call the police and say to them that I was hitting her and being verbally abusing and threatening
her if I didnt leave. So I left to not have the kids see this or actually start believing this made up accusation. I was staying at hotels here and there and she had people following me taking pictures everywhere I went and conjuring up stories like, I was having affairs at these hotels. Why else would he be there..
she has threatened me personally and trying to take everything away from me. My children, every piece of real estate I have, my friendships, business and personal which she has done a good job at making up completely fabricated stories which would scare anyone away and have hurt me tremendously, emotionally and financially. One friend who didnt buy into her lies, said to me that my wife told her wife, that with real estate values on the rise, they were to devise plans to stall the divorce so she could get more out of the settlement while at the same time construe plans to keep my focus off of work and away from the advice of my attorney by making my life difficult and financially costly. This plan would drain me of my finances and the ability to fight a good fight, giving her the advantage she needs. She promised to repay people with pieces of my estate holdings I own if they can conspire a way to get it all from me. Money is a great motivator and there is no shortage of people that are taking her up on this opportunity.I have been harassed and followed by numerous people, threatened by her family members,one of her siblings had said to me that they are going to spit on my face when Im lying dead on the ground.The list goes on.What to do? I have no money left and my attorney has submitted a request for removal of representation.