Hi. My mom is 89, fair health, uses a wheel chair or a walker, is hard of hearing, has macular degeneration in one eye and extra thick cataract in other eye. She just left dad, 87, on Friday for a divorce
He's been emotionally abusive, waking her from sleep to play cards, to make him lunch (he can walk better than she can with his walker), and he often complains someone has been playing or changing any of his things. A bit parnoid.
He has all of the money since he told her to stop working and come home to take care of him and his older brother.
[The brother passed in 2011. He was a WWII vet that had a mental breakdown while in the service. He went from he VA hospital to his mom who died in 1966, to his sister who died in 1972 from cancer to us. My uncle mental shape was that of a 6 yr old until 1987 when he had a stroke and became a mental 6 month old.
We changed the dining room into a bedroom for him and mom took care of dad's brother with little help from dad. The dr said to keep him up at the kitchen table so that his lungs could open for better breathing. ]
In 1989, mom fell on black ice, had to go in for a leg operation and from then on had one leg half an inch shorter than the other. After she recovered from that she was still helping to care for dad & his brother.
I am david, oldest of 3 sons. I worked from 1982 and retired Jan 1, 2016. I lived with my parents to help mom because she couldn't do it all and got little help from dad.
We are currently at my brother's home.
She wants to get a divorce because of the way dad still treats her. What are her best options?