I have a 2006 court ordered parenting plan
from the state of Washington, Pierce County in place that addresses my son Sean, who is now 15. That parenting plan shares Sean equally - 50/50. In that plan, my ex-wife Ramona has the majority of the time with my son for purposes of the document, but we are essentially 50/50. Sean is with me every other week for the entire week.
Ramona wants to move back to her birth state (Ohio) and take Sean with her. She would live with her mother
and let her mother take care of them. She has not officially or unofficially informed me of this move. I only learned of it from my adult daughter who talked with Ramona. Ramona informed her of that plan. I want to be prepared on what to say and what NOT to say or do when she does tell me. I am pretty sure she has NOT taken the time,effort or money to create a new parenting plan and will leave without an agreement. I am sure she wants to ignore that.
My parenting plan says she is to give me 60 days formal notice, unless domestic violence
, safety of the child or anything like that. neither of which is an issue in this concern.
Given the choice between 2 tough options (stay with me and hurt his mother's feelings or go with her and hurt me) I am pretty sure my son Sean will choose to go with his mother. He feels like he has to help his mother,
I have no real reason to say it would be extremely detrimental for Sean to go to Ohio, but I do believe he'd turn out to be a better person staying with me and my wife, his stepmother...but of course I'm biased that way.
I'm not sure how likely I would be able to force Ramona to stay in the state if I contested. i.e. how likely is it that the court would stop her from taking Sean with her, My guess (I'm 98% confident in this guess) is that the reason she is moving back to Ohio is that she has so messed up herself financially that she needs to move in with her mother for a place to live and basic needs. She claims she can not find work here and is unable to care for herself and that her mother has offered her/them a place to live. Can you comment on the likelihood of getting an order to force her to leave Sean here. What would I do if she just up and leaves without officially notifying me.? I can't contest a court motion that was never made can I?
If I were to not contest the move, how do I protect myself if sometime down the road she refuses to let me see Sean. At that point I'd still have an active Parenting Plan (that had all been ignored for a period of time). So I'm guessing that wouldn't be enforceable at that point?
So those are areas of open questions.
Thank you for your time.