Your child is obviously distressed by the amount of drinking and has sought out Alateen because of it.
Alateen is part of Al‑Anon Family Groups. Alateen is a fellowship of young Al-Anon members, usually teenagers, whose lives have been affected by someone else's drinking. Alateen groups are sponsored by Al-Anon members who help the group to stay on track. Alateens come together to:
- share experiences, strength, and hope with each other
- discuss difficulties
- learn effective ways to cope with problems
- encourage one another
- help each other understand the principles of the Al-Anon program
- learn how to use the Twelve Steps and Alateen's Twelve Traditions
If you had a younger child, you'd most definitely get in trouble because you would be found to possibly not function as a parent -- and even if you say you can, NJ DCF would disagree with you. However, it is something that cannot be ta***** *****kely even if the child is 16. That's because the school and DCF consider the environment the child is in, even if the child is a teenager.
To make sure everything goes smoothly for the family, it's important to discuss this with your child, and find out what he/she is feeling about your drinking and what he/she has to say about it. If your child asks you to attend meetings with him or her, please consider going. Then you may realize you have a problem, even if you think you can beat it. Most people usually cannot on their own. This is setting an example for the child of drinking and while alcoholism is a disease, and we understand that it is, it manifests in many different ways. Drinking every night is one form of alcoholism. There are many others. You may not be falling down drunk, but your child is telling you he/she is concerned and doesn't like it. The best thing you can do is to listen. The last think you want is DCF on your case!
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