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You need to bring the matter to the attention of the Court and ask the Court to order your ex-husband to disclose that information to you. You would also request that the Court reduce your ex-husband's share of your retirement to offset the shortage from his. You would do this by way of a Motion to the Court. You can obtain blank Motion form at the Courthouse in the Clerk's office.
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