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I am sorry to hear about this situation. Understand that until/unless the court provides so in temporary and/or final orders, either party can DENY the other rights to the children. It is a gray area. The parents are expected to work out an informal schedule - which almost never works. But either party can allow or deny access to children.
Either party has an option to file for temporary orders while the suit is pending. And in fact, it sounds like this is what this situation needs. The temporary orders will set custody and child support for the duration of the divorce (this would be revisited at final hearing), and would mandate what dates/times the parents share custody and visitation.
So either she or he can file for temporary orders, asking the court to appoint a custodian and visitation times for the other parent. Visiting times are normally one day a week and every other weekend.
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