Hi, I'm a mother
of a disabled little girl who's husband is divorcing me...and I just want you to know that you have been an answer to my "prayer" with your "AWESOME" input on my questions. Thank you so much! :-)
We just signed the final divorce
paperwork on Jan 15, 2016. With that said here is another question in my divorce regarding now the QDRO part. (and want you to know that the judge is making me pay back 2 months of my spousal support
.- (Dec & Jan)..because he and my ex-husand's (BULLY) lawyer said I should have gotten the final divorce decree signed 2 months ago by Nov. 30th (didn't because my ex husband & I had added some wording to it that we both could not agree on and also lost time due to the Thanksgiving Holiday...and they all know I've been a stay at home mother taking care of my disabled daughter for the past 7 years and do not presently have a job...so it's just awful!!! :-(
Anyway, my ex husband works for Dell and they said I get half of his 401K. (I also want you to know that my ex had around $70,000.00 in his 401K and took a loan out against his 401K for $25,000.00 a few days before the divorce in the amount of $25,000.00 that was deposited into his checking personal account on Oct. 15, 2014 and he filed for divorce, On Oct. 16, 2014 -a day before he filed for divorce. Well like I told you before he has been hiding things from me...so luckily I found paperwork on another retirement account WHICH MIND YOU HE DID NO DISCLOSE AT ALL DURING HIS WRITTEN DISCOVERY ANSWERS until my lawyer told them we had paperwork from a (a 401a called TIAA/CREF - please see attached paperwork) from his previous job ( UCO University) he worked at while we were married (we married in Sept. 26, 2004). And that was also put into my final divorce decree (please refer to number 11. "Division of Personal and Intangible Property" i and ii in the 1-15-16 divorce decree)
Well now my lawyer is telling me that my ex husband and his lawyer want to change the wording the the QDRO regarding the 401a TIAA/CREF retirement or they won't sign the QDRO (please refer to attached email from my exhusband’s lawyer regarding QDRO.
LUCY, I guess my question to you would be please look what I wrote to my lawyer the email attached that I wrote to my lawyer regarding this issue..and explain to me if I am wrong and what I am exactly entitled here and what we can do to find out the amount I'm entitled to in regards ***** ***** retirement accounts. (Also can we subpoena Merrill Lynch to find out if my ex husband has any IRA accounts with them)
Again, thank you for your kind help in this matter and any suggestions you may have for me. Because this is money for me and my disabled child’s future.
Sincerely, a “grateful” mother of a special needs child.