My wife and I were married for 6 years before she left in 2013 with our common child who is now 12. At the time my other son from a previous marriage
was 14. He is 17 now. I have waited for her to return home, but she is mentally going through a rough time since her 20 year old drug addict son was killed. This is what led to our separation
. We have now been married 9 years. She went into a great depression and developed a schizophrenia and bipolar disorder. after 3 years it is obvious she will not return. From the day she left I supported her with as much as I could. She left me with all of the existing bills. I gave her $1500.00 a month, bought her a car $300.00 a month plus insurance. I pay for all expenses for out common son.
I retired and got another job so I make more money now with my new job income and pension. I now give her $3000.00 a month plus the car and insurances. Realistically I give her about $4000.00 a month when all in said and done. There are no court orders for anything I just feel this is fair given my existing bills. She is living with a friend in a town about 110 miles away from me.
I make about $118,000 with my pension and $110,000 a year in my new job. I had the condo before we married, but I put her name on the property when I refinanced. She claims she does not want my home or pension. I have visited California web sites and believe my obligation to my 12 year old child is about $1500.00 a month. Visiting him is not an issue or a problem. I do have a 17 year old that lives with me and all of the bills we had before she left.
I have offered to give her $3,000.00 a month for the next three years and pay her medical insurance until I retire from my new job in 3 years. After that I will give her $2,000.00 month for my 12 year old until he turns 18. She cklaims to be okay with this.
will judge believe this to be fair. With the $3000.00 a month a give her and the $20,000 I pay a year in taxes it pretty much takes up all of my new job pay check. She does have have our son most of the time because I have to work a lot of overtime and on weekends. Like I said seeing my son is not an issue and she and I get along fine. She just has a lot of issues with the death of her son.