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HelloThis is Samuel and I will discuss this and provide you information in this regard.It does not sound as if you will be able to keep this "peaceful" if you are already afraid of his threats. I suggest mediation is going to be the best bet. However, if the child was born before marriage and he is not on the birth cert and never adopted him, his first step to give him any standing will be to petition for a Paternity test.Therefore, I suggest you have time to consult with a local attorney and ask about filing for the divorce, and at the same time requesting the court grant you sole custody, even if on a temporary basis, and also use and possession of the marital residence, on a temporary basis. That will give you custody of your son and you would not need to move from your current home.
I suggest, you should not let his threats get to you. Unless he can prove that you have abused or neglected the child and/or the child will be harmed in you care, his threats are hollow.
So I suggest a consultation with a local family law attorney is the best first step at this time. Once you have custody, you can travel with your child. You husband will be spending his time petitioning for a DNA test because at this time he has no standing to make a custody claim.
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